First drink.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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At this point I don’t give a toss if people are sick of my posts lately. I like to let off steam as it were here so I will continue to do so. My SDMB rep means far less to me than it once did.

Anyway. She came into work on her day off to do some work. None got done, I knew she just wanted to see me before my week off. She said she was going down to the pub (a particular place, she didn’t say ‘the pub’) and looked directly, questioningly, at me. Like a dick I said no. but later I said yes and before I knew it me her and a cool mutual friend were at the pub.

Long story short I find her company/presence intoxicating… even more so in the pub/drinking environment.

Call me obsessed if you want. Maybe I am, though I’d like to think I’m not.

Strangely I am fairly glad of the fact that I get to spend a week away from her. I’ve said I might pop into work to finish off something we’ve been working on together (and it does need finishing) although to be honest there’s a good chance that won’t happen.

Back to the point of the thread… The drink. This girl is wonderfull. We got on so well. We got on very well when the mutual friend left to answer calls of nature or get drinks. To be honest he was only there to releive the slight tension between me and her.

She’s gorgeous. She’s sexy. She’s young, pretty,friendly, funny. She laughs at my feeble wit. I am head over heels in love.

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Good Luck and God Speed on your Infinite Journey. :smiley:

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Did you know that LiveJournal is free?

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I have a livejournal account but it is in my real name

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And it’s easy enough to start another.

Doing a quick search, I see you’ve started about a dozen threads about this chick in the last 3 months (and reactivated at least one much later on), in which you’ve talked about how she uses people but you’re OK with that because she doesn’t use you (to the best of your knowledge), how she’s essentially stringing you along with comments about how maybe something might possibly happen between you later (see previous comment about her), and how she’s all you can think about yet you’re not obsessed with her. Mmhmm.

I would suggest you take this week away from her to consider what this all means, but somehow I’m not certain it’d do any good, in light of the fact that a number of people have been telling you that all along.

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I will, and I agree.

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OK, dude, I’m sitting you down and looking you striaght in the eye and telling you this man to man:

You just might have some sort of chance here. Don’t get your hopes up, but just maybe.

Don’t, DO NOT, please refrain from, slap yourself if you have to…tell her you love her yet. I know you’ve confessed feelings for her, and that’s OK, but man, you gotta know that you have to play this cool to have any chance. I realize it’s going to take the strength of a thousand men to do this. Don’t scare her off with this obsessive stuff. You have got to be as cool as the other side of the pillow to pull this off. You have to let her know that being with you is going to be a good time, and that she can be comfortable with you. Knowing that you’re obsessed is not going to make her comfortable; knowing that you’re interested in her is going to make her feel good.

Having said that, this puzzled me (and I quote):

Anyway. She came into work on her day off to do some work. None got done, I knew she just wanted to see me before my week off. She said she was going down to the pub (a particular place, she didn’t say ‘the pub’) and looked directly, questioningly, at me. Like a dick I said no…etc.

OK you’ve got to be cool, but don’t do this…if a woman looks directly, questioningly at you, you answer in the affirmative, returning the eye contact and smiling (I know that’s difficult for you lot over there).

I think that you need to invite her to something fun that interests her…movie, concert, play, monster truck rally, whatever. (I’m assuming you know something about her interests.) Show a healthy interest in her as a person, not an object.

Again, I realize it’s going to take a tremendous amout of self-control to do this, but if you want to succeed, don’t try too hard.

During your week apart, please take the time to eat right, sleep as much as you can, and excercise. Take care and good luck.

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Look, I’m in love with a woman, have been for a long time. That won’t change, but I have.

Honestly, Lob you have to be realistic.

Evolve dude, Evolve.

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Oh, man…Is this the same girl or her friend? I’m confused. Are you on to a new one now?

Shit, I don’t know what to tell you. Desire is attachment, so sayeth the Buddha… best advice I can give you.

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No it’s the same girl. What made you think it wasn’t?
Attachment sounds good to me.

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Oh I see, the friend is a male. I just got cofused, your exposition was a little convoluted, or maybe it’s just me.

Well, attachment in the Buddhist sense isn’t such a great thing, it is the chain that binds us to the wheel. Step back, reevaluate, think a little about her from a point of clarity and detachment, if you can.

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Thank you for giving me the best one-liner to shut down chatty people!! Sure it won’t make me any friends, but then neither does my normal personality, so I have no worries.