I’ve mentioned this on other threads, but I’m a female and gave birth to my first child one week before my 46th birthday. The father was just shy of 46.
It’s not something I would’ve done on purpose, but I was diagnosed infertile in my mid 20’s and I was throughout my 20’s, 30’s and early 40’s. By the time I was 45 years old, some of my very fertile friends were trying for that one last child and were now unable to conceive. A woman is born with all her eggs and they age right along with you.
I knew that if these women couldn’t conceive anymore, my chances were definitely nil. Long before that point, I had already come to terms that I’d remain childless, never in a million years thinking I’d suddenly have a baby at 46 years old. I had taken the stance that whatever will be will be and by my forties I figured my time had come and gone.
When I found out I was pregnant, I didn’t jump for joy like you’d think. I was terrified, thinking, “What the hell is a woman my age having a child for?” I was scared there’d be developmental problems, since my chances were extremely high due to age. The doctor said, according to my age, there was a 1 in 15 chance of a chromosomal abnormality. We were scared.
We decided to do an amniocentesis, which is the most accurate test. Yes, there are risks, but we needed to know what we were dealing with and prepare ourselves. Thankfully the test came back normal and all future testing looked great.
I’m not gonna lie, the pregnancy did a number on me physically. It took at least a year until I felt normal again. We now have a beautiful, healthy 16 month old boy who has changed me in ways I could’ve never imagined before. I live for this boys smile.
Congratulations on the impending arrival and as far as I’m concerned, you’re not old at all. It’s a matter of perspective.
My only advice for your wife. looking back on my pregnancy, it’s important to eat healthy and not too gain too much weight. They say approx 25 pounds total weight gain is good. Light exercise is important too. Too many women are developing gestational diabetes due to age, weight gain and general unhealthiness. Not good for both mom and baby.
I could blab on and on about this since in the past 2 years or so I’ve lived and breathed “BABY” and filled my brain up with loads of information.
Welcome to the “New Parents in their 40’s” club. I think there are more members than people realize and I’m always happy to meet a new member.
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