I’ve heard the ‘eating candy with the wrapping on’ quite a few times, but I’ve never before heard so strong feelings against condoms. No feeling at all? Weird. OTOH, I’d never heard of “death grip” masturbation and problems achieving orgasm by vaginal intercourse before I started to discuss with people from cultures that circumsized their boys.
I’d really like to see a poll, with cut/uncut options. It’d be interesting to see if there’s a difference between those with an intact foreskin and those without.
Your conclusion doesn’t follow from your premise. I could probably get through about 1 adult per month. Or 1 kid per week. In primitive conditions absent refrigeration I’d probably want one per day for adequate nutrition. Seems to me that’d be a huge *increase *in violence.
Unless we made a policy of banding together to kill & eat just the bullies, then stopped the killing when there weren’t any bullies left.
I’ve learned to live with them. Married, both of us are disease-free; we’re probably not looking to have another child (once that decision is made, I’m getting snippy-snipped) but my wife has medical complications which prevent her from using birth control. So I still wrap it up. Better than nothing.
I’ve found that Skyn is the brand that works best for me.
I’ll bite, although you risk bringing out the crazy guest accounts who attach weights to their dongs. Do you have any evidence beyond confirmation bias? This is the internet, and you are going to find that the extremes self-report more than the mean. If condomless, uncircumcised penises are that much more sensitive, I can’t imagine a compelling argument why I’d want that? Unless sex is just the orgasm for these people, and they don’t mind it lasting 15 seconds. IMHO from that category, any loss of sensation is neutral or even positive on occasion, while the postives of going without have more to do with intimacy.
OTOH I can’t imagine that figuratively but more literally ‘eating candy with the wrapping on’ is fun at all.
Very much like using someone else’s dick for sex. And there’s nothing quite like slipping one on to announce, “One of us thinks the other is running hot with infection!” and that’s a bit of a buzzkill for me.
I am male. First woman I had sex with did take offense to it. The really weird part? She was the one on her dorm floor who distributed condoms as part of health services.
No evidence whatsoever, and I didn’t present it as a fact. It’s just a loose hypothesis thrown out as a possible explanation for my observations/impression. That’s why I supported the suggestion of a poll, to see if a slightly more systematic data collection would support or falsify the hypothesis.
I’d almost rather not have have intercourse than use a condom. It’s just not pleasurable.
I fully realize why it is a good idea to use one, so am very selective in my partners to ensure I don’t need to use them. Makes things more complicated but so be it.
You have to get in the wayback machine, but there was a time when some considered it an accusation that they were dirty or slutty, or trying to trap a man. Maybe not many, but I’ve heard of it.
Wow. Condom sex is great! Not as good as no condom, but still really great!
You guys using enough lube? Reach down and adjust if the condom is unraveling or coming off? You can’t just put it on and forget about it. It takes a little extra vigilance, but it’s worth it.
I can empathize with “it’s not as good as regular sex”. I CANNOT empathize with “it’s better than no sex at all”! :eek: That tells me you are doing something seriously wrong. Maybe you need to practice jerking off with a condom or something so it stops feeling like some invasive foreign object?
I don’t know what advice to give, but you’re missing out on a lot of great sex if you won’t use a condom. Maybe that long term relationship won’t last forever? Do you ever expect to have a new sex partner again? A new partner should very strongly imply “condom”. Once you’ve gotten to know her you can trust that she takes BC and is disease free. THEN ditch the condoms. But I think you owe it to your future self to at least attempt to make condom-encumbered sex enjoyable.
By the way, the correct analogy isn’t “eating wrapped candy” but “feeling bare breasts with a latex glove”. Sure, bare hands are better, but I’m not going to let a few microns of latex prevent me from copping a feel!
That is perfect. And frankly I wouldn’t bother if I had the gloves on. I guess I’m too easily distracted by the barrier and it takes me out of the game. Maybe it’d be different if my primary concern was birth control, but that’s not a factor anymore–it’s all about hygiene now, and condom = suspect hygiene = why are we even doing this? Really, I think even if there were such a thing as an undetectable condom it’d still put me off.