I wound up just getting a membership to the local Planet Fitness because it was only $50 to start (first month plus last months membership with $1 starting fee) and they’re open 24/7 so I can go there and take a shower at midnight if I really wanted too.
I don’t often quote Jim Morrison, but “people are strange,” and there you have it.
Nice user name/post. I was wondering the same thing.
Yeah.
I think there’s something going on that you don’t know, OP. Maybe the house (or bathroom) isn’t presentable. That’s the kind of thing a friend confides, admits that he feels awful about turning you down but…
Or maybe the neighbor bathed at your place because he was having an affair, was doused in another woman’s uh, perfume, and had to wash off before going home. He’s afraid you’ll somehow let that cat out of the bag unwittingly. Or maybe as @Tripolar guesses it’s actually that he’s quasi-homeless or something else embarrassing that isn’t your business.
I think it’s something he doesn’t want you to know and it’s big, at least to him. If he’s otherwise a good friend, you could let it go.
Due to the bizarre situation, with no explanation offered from the neighbor, this is worth remembering.
It’s an entirely different request if you are asking a friend who has more than one bathroom. I agree that it’d be awkward if you are trying to use the sink to brush your teeth while your buddy is combing his hair in the mirror, but I’m imagining a friend with a home and, perhaps, a guest room.
The gym is really the best option. Use this as an excuse to get in shape.
I just joined a gym - Crunch. The signup fee was something like 25 cents. The cheapest membership is about $10 a month.
I’m thinking along the lines that he doesn’t consider his bathroom as being presentable. Perhaps it’s not clean enough to share with others, or he has water issues, or the house is a hoard and the bathroom is full of junk. After seeing your bathroom, maybe he’s embarrassed. Or his wife is.
Another option: any truck stops in your area? If nothing else, that would be an experience.
Yeah, maybe part of the reason i think it’s odd to say, “no” is that my house has four bathrooms. And we use three of them often enough to know all the parts work. So I’d have to let the guy in, or give him a key. But otherwise it really wouldn’t significantly inconvenience me. If the house had only one bathroom, it would be a much much larger ask.
So I’m urinating into my toilet, then flushing it and then putting water back into the bowl via the top.
Is it easier to simply fill the bowl directly with water for it to automatically flush? Or will that not work with no water?
OP, is this a friend whose house you’ve been in, before? Since he has been in your house to take a few showers, I assume you have, unless it’s a lopsided friendship. If so, have you ever used his bathroom to relieve yourself, or would he make you hold it in, or use the outhouse in the backyard? If you’ve used his bathroom in the past, it sounds like your friend doesn’t have some sort of bathroom-o-phobia concerning guests using his bathroom facilities.
If, on the other hand, the bathroom that he allows guests to use is not the bathroom with a shower and it is only the shower-bathroom he doesn’t want guests to use. Perhaps the bathroom with a shower in it has his or his wife’s embarrassing unmentionables in it or is within the master bedroom with embarrassing unmentionables in it. These unmentionables could be of many types, but we can’t discuss them because…well, they are unmentionable.
If, on the other hand (yes, I have 3 hands), the aversion to you using the shower is because, as mentioned upthread, it would be a time crunch for you all to get ready in the morning before work, then simply ask to use his shower in the evening, at a time when you may be visiting anyway.
I would refill the tank for the flush, since it measures a suitable amount to flush with and sends the water down the correct path to the bowl. Then refill the tank and add some water to the bowl, since it won’t refill itself like it normally does.
Did the friend say why?
What is the ETA on repair?
You said 2-3 days, so why did you ask the friend about 2-3 showers per week?
I wouldn’t bother to flush after urinating if I had to refill the tank each time.
If it’s yellow let it mellow…
If it’s pee, let it be.
(Or open a window and water the grass outside)
I also wonder if OP’s friend has kids that live in the house. That can often change the dynamics of who is allowed in and when.
That’s possible, or others suggested that the wife didn’t want to allow it. But he never said either thing or was even apologetic about it. Instead, the so-called friend was rude.
You need water in the bowl and the tank for an actual flush. Well, something liquid in the bowl. The water goes down the drain directly from the tank when you flush it and that pulls the contents of the bowl along with it. Your toilet will add water in the bowl as it’s flushing too. So pouring water in the bowl does little. If it’s just urine you’re wasting water because there’s no flushing go on, you are just diluting the urine and the overflow goes down the drain.
For a real flush you need water in the tank and the bowl.
Yes, rude. but the point of being friends instead of simply acquaintances is that a friend can be rude for reasons not obvious then later say explain and say “Sorry bro”. You don’t end up with many friends if you’re gonna disown them the first time things aren’t working out well. So I would just note it on my forget-about-it list and mark it pending.
Second time (that we know of). Don’t forget the “no hats” episode.
He didn’t just say “no.” He first acted like he didn’t trust you, then ended it with a gratuitous insult. You probably wouldn’t be so offended if he’d just said, “Sorry, but no.”