I don’t drive because I do live in an urban area with good public transit. I live on the outskirts of Munich. They live like 30 miles north of Munich. And almost nobody my age here drives, either.
I live in Munich. It’s a big, european city. You can get literally everywhere with just a bike and public transit. I do my shopping on my bike. I get to work on my bike. I ride my bike 8-12km each day to my classes. And almost everyone I know does the same. And you can’t drive until you’re 18 in Germany anyways! My girlfriend is getting her license.
You know, if I knew that I was pissing off her son, I wouldn’t be quite as mad. But he didn’t tell me. He bitched behind my back to my girlfriend about me. Now, feel free to blame me for not being the single most perceptive person on the planet, but he was damn well deceiving me.
I get to and from where she works. All she has to do is deal with some extra weight in the back of her empty car on the way to and from work. Some of you people really ought to stop making dickish assumptions.
Ignore the American-centric idiots claiming that you’re a loser if you are 17 or 18 and cannot drive. Kudos to you for using public transportation. Most 'Merkins forget that the rest of the world does not equate independence and freedom with being able to drive a car.
Also, video-gaming is a hobby and people who think otherwise are idiots.
Frankly, you seem like a decent guy. Yes, you are complaining too much about a relatively minor situation, and you are letting other people’s opinions bother you when you shouldn’t. But, as you get older you’ll get more callous and you won’t worry so much about others trying to bring you down.
As long as you are doing good in school, and your girlfriend is happy with you, ignore what anyone else here says about you and your life, and especially ignore everyone in your life who is trying to bring you down.
You two just need to grow up (literally, as in come of age) and lead your own lives. Lots of us had sucky situations as teenagers. Ignore the dufus brother, do whatever you have to do to get independent as soon as possible, and suck it up until then.
This is the easiest-solved problem ever. Have your girlfriend ride to work with her mom, spend the day together doing whatever, and she can ride back home with Mom in the evening. You won’t be on Mom’s couch playing video games every. single. time she turns around. You two will have more entertainment options and won’t spend so much time playing video games. You won’t be in Brother’s house, either hogging the tv playing video games or fucking his sister, and pissing him off. You won’t have to put up with Brother’s assholery or listen to the fighting and carrying-on.
Don’t ask if you can help around the house, just start helping: wash a sink of dishes, pick up the living room, take out the garbage, wipe down the counters, whatever. Be the sort of person who sees what needs doing and does it without fuss.
Yes, yes you will. And I’ll feel free to call it pretentious dickheadery, and toking on the bong of judgmental self-righteousness. Another male privilege.
Is this your first trip to the Pit, or to message boards in general? I mean, yeah, they’re Dr. Phil-ing this kid to death, but that’s par for the course.
True, but as you get older you also realize how socially clueless you were as a teenager (pretty much everyone is, so its not a crime or anything).
And one day the OP will be middle aged, have a daughter, and be miffed at the boyfriend thats always hanging around his house doing nothing and and banging his daughter
Visiting someone else’s house and spending large amounts of time planted in front of the hosts’ television or playing video games is dickish. When you’re at someone else’s house, you don’t act like you’re at your own home. Either stay in your girlfriend’s bedroom or be sociable. That is, find something to do that acknowledges that you’re a guest … interact with the hosts, talk to them, entertain them, participate in household chores, prepare meals. When you come over, bring food or drink. Bring them food from your childhood that they haven’t tried. It’s a guest’s obligation to be entertaining. You’re not their son – you don’t have the privilege of behaving as if you live there.
This is an incredibly sensible solution. I can’t wait to hear why it couldn’t possibly work for the OP and why you’re a rude jerk for assuming it could.
Well, the GF is still in High School, so unless mom works on the weekends, and they only want to sped time together on those days, then it’s not such a good plan.
Sounds like the OP takes the U-ban or the S-ban to mom’s work, then hitches a ride to her house after work.
Ah, the wretched lives of teenagers and their angsty problems. Isn’t there a Justin Bieber message board somewhere that might be more sympathetic to this horrible situation?
So…she picks you up on her way home from work on Friday afternoon…you stay all weekend, screwing her daughter, causing tension with her son and sitting around playing video games all the time…until she drives you back home when she leaves for work on Monday? Wow, how can anyone have a problem with that?
Seriously though, I know from experience that having a sibling’s boyfriend/girlfriend in the house all the time gets very old, very fast. When I was living at home as a teenager, my brothers would bring their girlfriends over constantly. They’d stay for two or three days a week and it was annoying as hell. I know that some people don’t mind guests. My parents didn’t, which is why it was allowed. But I’m the type of person who doesn’t like people who aren’t my friends/relatives/bed buddy slouching around my house constantly. It’s just a personality thing. And it sounds like it’s something both the mother and son share. Understandably, it’s a pain in the ass.
You need to stop relying on the mother for transportation or at LEAST have the girlfriend stay over at your place for a weekend every now and then. Do you even give her money for gas? I mean, yeah she’s going that way anyway but it’s considered polite to at least pay forth a couple bucks of gas for the favor.
