Well, being a member of the household has its privileges. Being a guest means that you can’t act like you’re a member of the household.
How do you get a ride from her mother if she doesn’t work on the weekend? Are you saying you are at her house from Friday afternoon to Monday morning?
ETA: Missed AngelSoft’s post.
It’s more than that. When you’re a kid, you get to hang out with your friends at their parents’ house without really being a guest. As an adult… no.
The OP is now an adult, and needs to act like it. You don’t hang out at your friend’s parents’ house all weekend every weekend. But when you are there, be the kind of guest people want around. Bring the mom something nice. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Maybe flowers or some candy or a bottle of wine. Take them out to dinner. Maybe even take bro out to see a movie. Whatever you do, don’t just hang out at her mother’s house playing video games (or whatever). Who would want someone doing that at their house? Not me!
This is exactly right. As an adult, you don’t get to hang out every weekend at your girlfriend’s parents’ house, taking up space, sitting in front of the TV, whatever. You don’t have done natural right to have quality time with your girlfriend. If you don’t have the means to take her yo your place and back, then you do what young couples have always gone – you suck it up. You meet for a coffee once every two weeks. You meet for a movie once a month. You figure out ways to be together such that you aren’t a burden on someone’s time, space, and company. Because it is a burden, having a stranger intruding on your private space all weekend every weekend. My dad’s aunt and uncle had nowhere to go once college let out, do they rode city transit buses together, just to spend some time in each other’s company.
Thanks for sharing that story, that’s adorable. 
And the rest of the post is good, too.
Well, why wouldn’t we? That would be AWESOME!
I’d like to take a couple minutes here to explain why I didn’t drive at 18. I can’t account for everyone’s experiences but I was at panic level freakout. I did not enjoy driving with my mother one bit because she screamed frequently and it fucked with me, big time. My father was frequently unavailable due to his swing shifts.
I took the car out but was not able to be comfortable behind the wheel. I only got my DL because I practiced by myself on these streets of Boringville by myself, and I aged out of the panic. My biggest peeve lately is the way other drivers have their headlights turned up to supernova.
My cheap car was inherited from my grandpa, and I want to be very careful with it so it lasts me for several years, since I only have 90,000 miles on it despite the fact that it is a 1997 model. If I fuck this one up, there won’t be another free car.
Seems to me that Comicon is the socially acceptable venue to do that, whereas apparently this chick’s mom’s couch ISN’T the socially acceptable venue to play XBox. Live and learn, y’know.
Please tell me that, if you’re staying all weekend, you’re kicking in cash for gas and groceries and stuff, right?
I hear Bumfuck, Nowhere, has pretty good (gangwar-free, deadly-traffic-free, pollution-free, all with actual trees!) areas in which to go hiking. Or do any outside sports. How about a couch to 5K program for the next nine weeks? Might give your GF some self-confidence if you do it together.
Bumfuck, Nowhere also has some people in it. So, a possibility to participate in some community outreach program. Or you could even help the mom by doing chores around the house, like painting a fence. Or you could help mom and everyone else, and clean out an attic or guest room, sell the old stuff on craigslist of in a yard sale, and use the proceeds to make the room better usable, AND to make it into a better game room or a room to separate the Gorilla from you and your GF and to get you both out of the Busy Moms hair.
Also, I hear Bumfuck Nowhere has internet access. So, e-learning. what stops you from doing a free online course? Like from
Florida Virtual School
Edulanka
Giant Campus
Internet Academy
K12 Inc.
Khan Academy
MIT OCW
MITx
edX
Or just some stimulating Ted Talks? A free course from Princeton or Harvard?
And the brother could find some online therapy. Sounds like he needs it.
When I was OP’s age, I had the decency to fuck my girlfriends in venues other than their parent’s homes. Just sayin.
Budget, you’ve gotten a slew of good advice. I hope you follow at least some of it.
I actually think the brother shouldn’t be called out for being annoyed with your presence and not telling you. He’d be more asshatty if he had confronted you, IMHO. He has a right to bitch about you behind his back…just like you are bitching about him behind his back. And I doubt him being upfront about his feelings would change anything. You seem to have plenty of excuses for why you can’t change anything. I’m sure they sound good to you, but they just sound like whinging from here.
Frankly, I don’t know why anyone should have to spell it out to you anyway. If you had a immature teenage daughter, would you really want to play host to her sex partner weekend after weekend after weekend? Even on holidays? And why wouldn’t the family assume sexual escapades every time the two of you go to the bedroom? Hell, the family dynamic could be absolutely perfect and that would still be kinda gross. You would be excused if you were married. But as far as the family goes, you’re just some dude. One that likes to have sex and play video games with an immature teenaged girl. Sorry, but you’re not going to find any mother (or stupid brother) who finds these qualities to be all that impressive.
There’s nothing wrong with video games. But you’re going to have to find a way to enjoy Bumfuck with your girlfriend if you plan on having peaceful relations with her family.
Well, the mother here has some blame in that - I can’t even imagine coming home to my parents and telling them that I was going to go fuck my boyfriend in my bedroom. I think I’d still be in the convent they would have sent me to.
You say your girlfriend has a long way to go to your house on public transportation – but can’t she do that for say, every other weekend, or even just one weekend a month? Or when she’s off school? Compromise, you know.
Did none of you even read this post? He’s only there on weekends.
And you if you people STILL have a problem, even with THAT being the situation, then make sure you don’t break a fucking hip on your way to get your pension check out of the mailbox one your one trip outside of the day. ROFL
Uh yeah, Friday night to Monday morning. That’s almost never!
Weekends, which are mom’s days off. You know? Days when people want to relax, maybe get some work done, enjoy their home without a weekend guest, especially a guest whose presence results in tension?
Thats why I fucked my girlfriend in my parents bed. Or my grandparents bed when we visited there. Respect your elders and all that.
Which apparently is too often, it the mortgage/rent payer is unhappy. Right?
Only? ONLY???
Friday thru Monday is 3 nights, every week. Who wants a free-loading “guest” for all that time? He’s not 12. He’s a grown man, for fuck’s sake.