Sex is like pizza. When it’s good, it’s great. When it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.
I think there may be a discrepancy on what the actual “orgasm” part is. When I have one, there is a rush of endorphins over my whole body. But the most pleasurable sensation is confined to an area near the genitals. It can maybe go down to my knees if I move my thighs with it. Both sensations can vary in intensity, particularly depending on how long it’s been since the previous orgasm. The endorphin rush happens first, and I admit I didn’t notice it for a long while.
I was with a woman last year who had around 30 undifferentiated body clinching orgasms during a little more than an hour of oral and vaginal sex (with me). I am an old dog and thought I had seen everything, but I had no idea. I guess she is the outlier in this study…
You’ve clearly not had bad pizza. 
Nope, not from my experience. My orgasms seem to happen 90% in the brain, endorphin rushes and whatnot. The other ten percent is a bodily experience I guess, and I suppose the dick is a focal point. But fuck… who the hell is stopping to analyze an orgasm halfway through? I know I’m not.
To the OP, I strongly believe that whether through clitoral or penetrative stimulation, an orgasm of the right intensity arriving right on time (or at the point of greatest release and satisfaction) will make a woman’s (or anyone’s) brain go so goofy that they will squirm and writhe some. Also if you don’t stop what you are doing, at the point of overstimulation they will do whatever they possibly can to wriggle their way to freedom and reprieve. Damn, women are cute. 
Also they are the best folks to answer the question, and my guess is that the answer will probably be quite diverse if you have a large enough sample. My suspicion is that lots of women experience orgasms differently from each other. Proof that not all women are made in Detroit, nor did they come off an assembly line.
But yeah from a guy’s perspective, it can be hard to say for sure how to gauge if an orgasm is being faked. If it seems over the top but controlled, I usually think it’s either faked or the girl is a total showpony, exaggerating for theatrical effect. If it seems a little more subdued and understated (although not so downplayed that the reaction was looking like she needed to sneeze) then it’s probably real. If she practically knocks your teeth out with her flailing knee then it is not only probably real but you deserve to feel a little smug while tending to your bleeding lip.
But yeah, obviously this is just a simplified interpretation from the male perspective and you should probably throw it back out to the ladies and vagina owning non-binaries before deciding if my advice is any good to you. Maybe even just ask one of the girls you’ve been sleeping with if you trust them to be honest?
Ooh I just saw this. Yeah +1 on this sentimony.
Yeah I was thinking about this exact thing the other day actually. Maybe I just have good taste and high expectations, but I have had both pizza AND sex that completely debunk this theory.
And if you’re going to use BBQ sauce and chicken then you’d better know what the hell you’re doing.
I usually drop my pen and clipboard.
I’m wondering if that boyfriend I had who was the grab-grab-push kind had never had a decent orgasm. Maybe that’s the problem with the grab-grab-push guys, their own experience is limited to an itty-bitty-part* so they don’t realize the rest of their body is also an erogenous zone. Someone ought’a go and do research.
- Unless you’re a skinny gnome with priapism your Little Me is a lot smaller than the rest of your body.
I’ve had bad pizza (defined as “if offered it for free, I’d still decline”), but you do have to work pretty hard to make pizza bad.
Well, I don’t like to brag, but…
True enough, one can obtain either in the frozen food section. The difference is that the latter goes out in your cart, the former will get you carted out.
I have travelled the four corners of the earth. I have fought many a good man, and I’ve lain with many a good woman. If there is one thing I’ve learned it’s this:
The orgasm that she is representing is for you.
Think about it like she got a Christmas present from her grandma. Maybe she got some frumpy socks that she will never wear. If she is a nice girl she will react with just as much enthusiasm and love as if Grandma bought her a sports car.
The fact is it’s a lot more about what’s going on in her head, and not so much about your technique.
Hm, intriguing, I disagree with the first line I quoted, but agree with the second. I feel like it’s more about whether the two people are fluent in the same sexual language. Is there some kind of simpatico understanding, synergy or synchronicity going on? I feel like when that happens all parties involved (let’s face it, sometimes sex happens between three or more people) drop all their pretensions, and theatricality and lose self consciousness, especially as hormonal rushes and swells begin interfering with complex cognitive processes.
Which is kinda why people are more likely to pull stupid faces than sexy ones at the point of orgasm. Loss of cognitive and motor control is a big part of it, which is why the French call an orgasm la petite mort (the little death).
So I believe that unless the woman you are sexing is not that into it, or a sex-worker who is completely burnt out on sex, then her orgasm is not a presentation but a state of being. A primal and visceral one.
Is there a word for a kind of funny, that isn’t hysterical laughter funny, but quietly giggling for a conspicuously long time funny? Chuckling in waves funny. Anyway, that got me pretty good.
This. I’ve been intimate with less than a dozen women in my life, but even within that small sample, there were major differences.
People make stupid faces when they finally release pee they’ve been holding in for a long time, or if they take a bite of a yummy piece of cake. People lose track of their surroundings when they are playing video games or reading a book.
Those “hormonal rushes and swells interfering with cognitive processes” is not really such a big deal when you realize the cognitive processes of your average horny 20 something aren’t exactly a strong signal under the best of circumstances. The fact is that your average woman could go through a “full body orgasm” while she is sitting on the bus next to you and you would never know if she didn’t want you to. Similarly, you might think you’ve knocked the earth off it’s orbit for your lady friend, when in fact she was thinking about the chicken in the oven. These things happen inside her head. The head controls the body. A woman who is old enough and experienced enough to have good sex has been living in her body for long enough to know how to control it.
You get like this, and you get over here, and you move over here like this…OK, baby, here come the truth!
That knee right between the eyes was for me?
Gee, thanks.
Hey Rufus. Look who’s joined us.