Gay guy with a straight friend prob.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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You forgot pbrtallboy, gobear, and my current crush, Jerevan Somerville, dear. :wink:

Anyway, not to hijack the thread… This guy’s adjusting himself to what seems an extreme seems to me very unusual and inappropriate. Like I already said, I’m surrounded by young, str8 hotties at work, but if one came into my cube and started fiddling with his wad, I wouldn’t be turned on at all. Rather, I’d be pissed off, thinking “Is he doing this because he knows I’m gay and wants to get a rise [no pun intended] out of me?” Then I’d be disgusted. There’s a time and a place for adjusting one’s package, and it’s not in front of someone else, be they male, female, str8, or gay. I think this guy is a freak.

  • s.e.
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I don’t know whether this was Freudian slip, an invite or if matt meant to say he would be wargrey’s guide. Hell maybe all of the above.

Any thoughts people? :smiley:

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sigh

I’ll never make it out of the chorus!

jayjay (I want billing, dammit!)

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Okay, I confess… I used to have a straight guy habit.

(To all the straight people out there, I apologize if any of the following sounds offensive. It’s simply a recollection of my experience.)

It was never too hard to get the game going; all you had to do was find a straight guy who wasn’t getting any, and sing the praises of the carefree, sex-for-fun gay lifestyle, and be very up-front about what you were interested in. I bedded some amazingly great-looking guys, and had some fun.

The downside, however, is really worth considering if you’re considering a venture into straight-guy terrain. Such as…

[ul]
[li]The sex is lousy. However much a straight guy may want to play, the absence of years of fantasizing about and actually engaging in gay sex do tend to give gay guys a massive advantage in the gay sex department.[/li][li]It’s never simple. You’re dealing with a whole set of issues that the guy may not be ready to face. In this society it’s hard to sleep with someone of the same gender and not start to question your own sexuality. There can be some bizarre repercussions.[/li][li]There will never be any commitment. Even going into it knowing that it’s just for fun, there’s a chance that you might fall for said straight guy. That, believe me, is messy, and it hurts. For both of you.[/li][/ul]
Just my observations on a couple of years of experience in the field. Take these into account, and things may work out well. But working with the guy will make things very, very tense; I travelled a lot when I was in my straight-guy seduction phase, and that seemed to work out well. A guy in every port, kinda.

These days, years later, I’ve settled down with a beautiful gay guy, and I’m having the time of my life. We love each other, we make each other very happy, and I can’t imagine what life would be without him.

If you decide to go ahead and help this guy to explore the boundaries of his sexuality, have a great time. My advice is that, if you take the limitations into account, it can be fun for both of you. But there are serious drawbacks to the situation, especially since you work together, and you may want to take these into account in making your decision.

And I’m hereby pissed at the rest of the Rainbow Coalition. I never, ever make it onto these lists of names. I’m gonna go pout, then sulk, and then I may spend the afternoon whining.

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Don’t I know it! I mean, this has been going on for months now, so he might be/almost has to be trying to tell me something here. But I value his friendship above all else! I’ve always told him that I would never do or say anything that would make him uncomfortable. We’ve had frank discussions on sexuality so I know that he’s not bothered by my being gay at all, even tho he’s told me that he doesn’t like it when guys hit on him. I’ve never approached him like that. But it’s like, he’s willing to let me be the one so to speak? But he doesn’t know how to let me know cause I haven’t called him on it yet, ya know?

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No matter what else you might think about this, don’t disparage him that way, I’m not going to tolerate it.

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I understand what your saying, but he’s my friend. I’d like to think that, if he’s decided that, he wants to explore his sexuality with me, that he wouldn’t hold it against me. I know that he’s better than that. Also, I’m definitely not out to convert him or seduce him or expect some kind of relationship out of this. That’s not what I’m about at all! In the final analysis, this may turn out to be much ado about nothing at all, but I still feel that I need to broach this with him in some fashion just to clear the situation up for both of us.

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“Hi, my name is matt_mcl, and I’ll be your gay guy tonight…” :wink:

Sorry, didn’t mean it that way at all. I just find it weird, but at the same time, slightly fascinating. Who knows what’s going on in his head? Like I said, were that to happen to me, I wouldn’t know what to think or feel. It’s just unusual, and a situation I’ve never had to deal with. Best of luck.

  • s.e.
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I love Geobabe’s suggestion.

My opinion is that either he’s coming on to you or he gets a kick out of teasing you.

OR he could be just playfully flirting.
I’ve worked in several places where sexual inuendo was rampant, but nobody took it seriously. I’m not talking harrassment. I mean it was just the way we blew off steam at work…straight, gay, male, female…everybody got into the game.
A couple of gals even flashed me now and then. (I didn’t return the favor; I thought that might be a bit too much)

On a personal note, I’m a relatively well-endowed guy who needs to “adjust” occasionally. But I’d never do it blatantly in public.

On a more personal note, most of you know that I’m 98% heterosexual (I hate the word “straight,” but that’s another thread), but I’ve experimented in the past. When I’m interested in someone, I make my intentions clear. IN PRIVATE. But that’s just me. YMMV.

My point? Never assume anything.

Love to All,
TN*hippie

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I think MrVisible cogently put best what my response to you would be.

In my experience, bi-curious men are often fraught with peril. They may enjoy sex, but that may be all that there is to it.

Yet, they also may become emotionally dependant on you as their first and cause problems in that regard.

This is a very delicate thing to enter in to, and you are the one who will pay for it with emotional, social, and work costs.

I hope you make the best decision for you both.

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“p.b.u.h.,” dearest darling northern light of my life?

Esprix

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I don’t mean to make light of your situation, but this thread is a veritable goldmine of unintentional double entendres and Freudian slips. :wink:

And yes, I realize that this says more about ME than about the people I’m quoting.

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Praise Be Upon Him.

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I apologize for being short with u. This whole thing has opened emotions that I didn’t think were there.

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“I’m your gay guy tonight”…wasn’t that a Whitney Houston song?

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Wow…I belong…I BELONG!!

Tibs.

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And u know I’ve been trying to catch that in my posts, to no avail obviously! :stuck_out_tongue:

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I think it was…

“Whatever you want from me,
I’m giving you everything,
I’ll be your gay guy tonight!”

Sing it with me now!

.:Nichol:.

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anything new to report?

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Actually no. I’ve decided to leave that particular concern be for now. Other issues have cropped up that may need examination on both our parts. I’ll just see how it goes for now.