Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to help him but Ruby is. I was referring to her post.
Strangely enough that was a joke post where he was basically describing the Op’s needs. He was effectively saying someone else was an attention whore.
However, Autolycus you really should tone it down as many re saying and as I suggested a few weeks back. You cut it back some then, you should probably cut it back a little more. Just a friendy suggestion.
I also suggest you take Tomndebb’s and **Crotalus’ ** advice. It look very sound.
Jim
Nobody wants to hate you Auto . However I wondered how long it would take for something like to happen. Time now for you to nip it in the bud.
How this ends is entirely up to you and I have no self-correcting advice for you. I don’t know you that well.
I can offer you this though; experience has taught me you will learn more from your critics than your fan club.
There are some pretty insightful people here and how you use them is your choice.
I’m glad to hear that you are working on the drinking issue as well as all the other positive ways it sounds like your life is improving. Between that and adding a few filters on what you post, I honestly believe you will be a great contributer here.
As a few of my drunkard friends say, alcoholics go to meetings. I believe Auto is a drunk rather than an alcoholic.
Physicians in general are unfortunately some of the most ignorant professionals out there as far as diagnosing alcoholism and addiction. They’re better than they used to be, but they’re not good, as a whole.
Exceptions tend to include most of those trained and certified in addiction medicine, and about half the psychiatrists out there. The other half of the psychiatrists are pretty bad at it, though.
And asking an alcoholic if he’s an alcoholic or not results in a lot of incorrect answers.
Just saying. Your mileage may vary.
[sub]My diagnostic skills in this area are pretty damn good. [/sub]
I think I would trust a Doctor in person over some sanctimonious, obviously troubled internet attention whore of a bitch. (Ruby, not you)
I’ve been shitfaced drunk numerous times, yet in all these years I’ve managed to keep the ladle in the drawer next to the sink.
As to the tough love department, I doubt seriously if Auto doesn’t know how things are. He gets called on his behavior here quite often, is seeing a doctor about his drinking, left school to take care of the problem and lives at home until everything is straightened out. Perhaps posting on the board keeps him away from real-life temptations or gets him a clean slate with people who don’t already know his habits or an avenue to hone his writing and humor. Regardless, I can’t imagine that he’s clueless given all of the information above.
With that said, those that I know (including myself of course) that have been through a lot of shit, can use a friend. Oh trust me, you don’t have to coddle or wipe their ass for them, just plainly state your opinion and move on. I’m pretty sure that labeling someone derogatory things isn’t going to inspire them to change anymore than they’re already willing to do. Humiliation, in my humble opinion, doesn’t generate toughness to overcome limitations.
So Auto I’m here for you. May not be much, but I’ll always be happy to lend a slightly neurotic ear.
Regarding the Death Match that is Auto and Ruby, maybe I can offer some useless advice since I really like them both… maybe more restraint and tact will be beneficial in the long run. You’re both too groovy for this. Cut it out right now or I’ll stop this internet and make y’all get off.
And the spatula? Oh, you never thought someone would bring up the spatula, huh?!
Epimethius, do I know you?
When you Pit me, it behooves me to respond, esp. when you use such colorful and exorbitant language. And I’d rather be played by Helen Mirren than Glenda Jackson, so picture her saying this.
And I see you can’t read either. I acknowledged that you are seeing a doctor. I said I hoped he’d help you. Obviously, trying to be kind to you is a thankless and pointless gambit here. FTR, I think your doctor is full of shit. Print out some of your choice posts here and have him read them. Then get back to us about whether or not he thinks you have a problem.
No searching needed. It’s all very obvious.
At least being a pompous bitch has never landed me in the back of a flatbed with no memory of whether or not I was raped, after being ditched by my friends. It also never led me to list off all the things I shoved up my ass in front of a bunch of strangers. So I’ll take pompous bitch over whatever you are any day.
You fucking invite people into your troubled and screwed up personal life over and over and over in multiple threads. Then, when anyone has the nerve to call you on your shit, you get insanely angry and Pit them. What the FUCK do you think the SDMB is, your personal little fan club? I think you’re fucking obnoxious, self-righteous, and massively in denial. Other people apparently think so too, based on this thread, but I won’t go into that because it might offend levdrakon, so I’ll just leave it with me. When you put your personal crap out there in as lavish and detailed way as you have, this is what you get. Deal with it. Or shut the fuck up. Whichever is better for you.
The day you realize what an alcoholic attention whore you are, I’ll realize what a jerk I am. Deal?
And you know what? I was seriously worried that you were raped too. But then you undermined that concern with the rest of that idiotic, fucked up thread. You made a joke out of alcoholism and rape in one fell swoop. And it pissed me off, largely BECAUSE your situation is disturbing and upsetting to me. But maybe it’s not worth caring about someone like you, because all you can do is jump up and down and be a fucking psycho whenever you hear anything you don’t want to hear. Point taken. Your parents must be saints.
Spineless? What? And as for name-calling, um, reread your OP. Then read my ever-so-offensive post. Who is resorting to spineless name-calling as a basis for discussion?
I really do hope you are getting help. I don’t see how that makes me a hypocrite, or invalidates the fact that you piss me off and I said so. See, in the real world, where everything isn’t black and white, people can have more than one feeling about something. I’m disgusted with you but I still wish you well, despite all your namecalling and tantrum-throwing. Hypocritical? Only if you have a stake in vilifying me, which clearly you do.
Sorry I didn’t express myself in a way that pleased you. It’s too fucking bad, though.
No you didn’t. You Pitted me because you don’t like the fact that I am not enjoying your little act, that I pointed out what an ass you are making of yourself, and that you obviously have a problem. Everything else is secondary.
But I think I know all about you… you hate it if I label your behavior. And here you are, doing the same thing to me. You’re a hypocrite, as well as a drunken fucking jackoff. You are hilarious, though.
Fuck warmth. I don’t give a fuck if you think I’m warm. And I care about you in that I care about any human who is spectularly fucking up and wish you would recover. I also think you’re a festering asshole, at the same exact time.
No, hon, never had rough times with alcohol. Not everyone does. Doesn’t make me better than you… other things do, but not that. Heh.
Again, want ad hominem attacks? Read your OP. An eye for an eye, eh, champ? Name-calling is par for the Pit. Let’s just stop saying it’s a problem though. Call me all the names you want. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your nonsense is just funny.
And nothing I say can stop you from putting your shit out there to be judged. So keep on with it. It’s your funeral.
Well, there was that unfortunate immersion blender incident.
But hey, who didn’t experiment a little during college?
No, but I know you because of your posting style. Everytime there is a thread and somebody posts in it that is condescending and “holier-than-thou” I look over at the posters name and it is you. Every time you bring up how much better you are than the poster you are picking on, and every time you come off as a snotty bitch.
Not all of them are like the OP.
OK, this is going to take the wind right out of this thread, but…
Autolycus, I’m sorry I crapped up your MPSIMS thread. If I wanted to cuss you out, I should have Pitted you. I do think you have problems, and your rape issue really did upset me. But you’re right, my yelling at you won’t help. It made me feel better, because you sure do piss me off, but now, I just feel bad. Feel bad for you, hope you do better, don’t want to have a pissing contest with you and call names. I hope we can bury the hatchet, and no, not in your ass.
Epimetheus, I still don’t know who you are. Oh well. I guess you could go fuck yourself, maybe?
You know a charge like that probably deserves some links. I think **RubyStreak ** was being a little Holier-than-thou in that thread, but lets face **Auto ** has some real issues too. I have not seen her do what you’re describing. How often has she really done this?
ETA: Interesting Simul-post. Well said RubyStreak, well said.
Jim
Good on ya Ruby. I knew there was a reason I was in your fan club.
Oh and Auto, I’d like an “original poem” too. My choosie is for anything hippie-esq.
I think What Exit is Ghandi…or maybe Jerry Springer.
At the risk of drawing your fire once again, I must say this is quite a lot more grace and class than I’m used to seeing from you. Perhaps I’ve judged you unfairly; it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve been guilty of that.
I’m not going to take sides in this whole issue for a lot of reasons.
But really, calling someone an alcoholic never helps anything, because they’ll never accept it until THEY decide they’re alcoholics.
Also, overshares aren’t pretty, but I’m willing to laugh at them if you’re willing to point them out.
~Tasha
All the time:
The most recent: Calling a guy a loser and shitting all over the thread with how important she is because she owns a house.
Not so much rude as condescending.
Thats just in the last week or two. Ok, so maybe I am only seeing her when she posts her shitty posts in MPSIMS (doesn’t belong) and In My Humble Opinion (there either), and I certainly don’t begrudge her getting her jollies off ripping into somebody in the Pit, but when you openly insult people in MPSIMS and IMHO, you are a grade A bitch. I’ve participated in several threads in the last year that was in IMHO and never went to the pit, yet Ruby here called people stupid and other names.