I hate to miss the rest of this interesting thread, but I won’t have computer access again until Monday…
Merry Christmas, y’all!
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Whoo hoo!
I hate to miss the rest of this interesting thread, but I won’t have computer access again until Monday…
Merry Christmas, y’all!
(o)(o)
Whoo hoo!
I understand that Florida has a number of retirement communities. My future is now planned out.
Happy New Year, my little luv-muffin!
It has the benefit that it’s true! A to DD…they’re all good…as long as they’re real. I don’t really care for fake ones.
A healthy C/sometimes D here. I like myself.
However, all the enmity towards implants is kinda worrying me. I just had gastric bypass surgery, and depending on the results of exercise, etc., I anticipate going from a 42C/D to a 36 long (hah - I kill me). For my own aesthetic reasons, I anticipate getting implants along with a lift. Are all instances of implants a turn-off.
Trust me, if I do have implants, it will be for my own satisfaction, not to conform to anyone else’s idea of perfection…just curious about the general opinions.
VCNJ~
Self-esteem. Yeah, I know I should feel good about how I look, but I’m terribly self-concious about everything. I’m working on it, just not there yet. I’m fine as long as people don’t talk about it.
I would accept it as a compliment if you said they’re fine the way they are, just no comments on their size, and I would accept it as an honest compliment, as long as it’s said honestly. To be honest, they’re probably large enough for my frame–just small compared to my friends who are larger overall than me (and all my friends are larger than me overall). I don’t think it helps that my prom dress had way too much room up top, a dress that otherwise fit me almost perfectly.
I’m from Earth? I’m not sure if I should take that as a compliment or an insult, considering the natives to this planet.
Someone posted a link to a “fake or real” quiz a while ago. I got a perfect score with barely any effort, and most got within one guess of a perfect score. The sad fact is, virtually all implants look patently artificial, and are rarely, if ever, preferable to the real thing, even if that’s less than ideal. Perhaps there are a handful of plastic surgeons on the planet who can pull off a convincing boob job, but most of them leave their customers looking like somebody shoved the end of a toilet plunger, or a soup bown, in their chest, and when these plastiboobs are revealed, they tend to poke straight out at you disconcertingly. The cyborg look is not a sufficient approximation of the natural human form to provoke lust in this Doper, and many here seem to share this oppinion.
If you do go for breast augmentation, I can only hope you get the best of the best working on you. Otherwise, it’s a disfiguring waste of money, IMO.
Sorry, I glazed over there for a minute
TRUST me, a LOT of us envy you, even though YOU think you’re small.
Almost the entire female population on my mom’s side has giant knockers. Except for my little sister (someday I’ll have to quit calling her that, she’s 40 :D), she feels she was “gypped”. I am so jealous of her fashion choices and that of any woman who is pert and dainty. Maybe it’s the old “grass is greener” thing, but I think that any woman who is smallish is MUCH more attractive and balanced.
The OP is right, it’s the media doing a number on your head, similar to the way they do a number on ALL of our heads and hearts if we don’t match the airhead model/actress du jour. And how many of us do?
Go get yourself a tiny little strapless “little black dress” (oh, how I WISH I could have one" and lord it ALL over the big breasted who wouldn’t dare, or if they did, would look clumsy and awful
I wish you the very best in that. It’s the best favor you can do for yourself, and if you want my help (I’ve been down that road – oh yeah), you have but to ask.
From your description (and my own perverted imagination, and experience), if you were standing around with your friends, I’d probably be most drawn to you. For what that’s worth.
I was going to say Venus, but have you ever dated someone who can live in 800 degree weather and who breathes sulfer and methane gas? Sure, these people are fun at parties, but they’re always like “Oh, look at me, I can breathe sulfer and methane gas!”
Fake tits? Bah. If I can touch 'em, they’re real.
I have always preferred small ones. No bigger than a B for me, thanks.
Haj
Of course they do. All I meant was that some people, not necessarily in this thread, have previously treated the size of my breasts as if it were a shallow choice I made, not a hand of cards dealt by nature.
Would you totally rule someone out from ever dating them because their breasts were bigger than a B cup?
I’ve been married for almost 12 years so I won’t be dating anytime soon. If I were dating, I wouldn’t make a choice based on breast size, however, my computer porn browsing does have that bias.
Haj
I went from a 40DDD to a 36-38C after a breast reduction eight years ago. Best move I ever made - no more constant backaches, and I could stand up straight and wear cute clothes from the Gap instead of loose t-shirts from Stein-Mart or JCPenney that looked like clothes for my sixty year old aunt.
Having big boobs is BAD. Even now, I’m bigger than I’d like, but only because I gained a little weight and gained a lot of it in my boobs. If I get back down to the weight I’m comfortable at, I’ll probably be a 34B.
I just turned to my husband and said “Do you like the size of my breasts?”. This is the look he gave me: :dubious: and then and then he said “They’re perfect”, which means he’s hoping to get lucky tonight. This may be the thread that gets him to join the SDMB
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It’s OK for a woman to tell a man that if her next action is to prove it by administering an enthusiastic blowjob.
They’ve already said it: say that they’re perfect the way they are. Don’t emphasize the fact that they’re smallish, because no matter what you think about them, society doesn’t agree and a lot of men don’t either. I mean, back to the penis analogy. Would you if you, hypothetically, were the possessor of a small penis, be happy to hear, “Gosh, I just love tiny little dicks like yours. It’s so gosh-darn cute!” No matter how sincere it is, it’s not something most guys would be happy with.
I don’t get the confusion here. Every woman I’ve ever known well enough to discuss it with has major body image issues (not that us dudes are issue-free, either. sigh) Emphasizing to her that she’s ‘imperfect’ according to the dictates of society is not going to go over well, no matter how much you may like her boobies just the way they are. I mean, unless you expect a woman to form her entire self-image around the way YOU feel about her, then she’s still hearing plenty of places about how her boobs are just too damn small. Really, why would your liking them be enough, when it’s hard to find dresses that make 'em look good (and that goes for both ends of the spectrum, of course) and when the swimsuit models and the actresses that women compare themselves to are three cup sizes bigger?
Perhaps straight men really don’t have body image issues - I wouldn’t know. But I certainly have some, and no, no matter how much any individual person likes how I look naked, it’d be off-putting if it was phrased in a way that emphasized what I didn’t feel good about. I don’t need a chubby chaser telling me about how he loves my fat ass, because I don’t love it. Most people don’t love their bodies, and mayhap we all should, but you just ain’t helping.
And frankly, your saying that small-breasted women should love their small breasts because they’re just perfect is not the same as a call to women everywhere to feel good about their bodies. You think women should like themselves for the particular body shape that you like, and it sounds a little bit self-centered. It’s cool that you have slightly unconventional taste (though certainly not rare) but it’s a little bit skeezy-sounding for you to say that they should particularly cherish what you like about women, rather than simply appreciating their bodies, whatever their shape (since, after all, in almost every case there’s someone out there who’s got a fetish for it). I don’t mean to sound mean here, and I know you didn’t mean to imply this, and I’m sure you’d agree that people oughta be satisfied with their own bodies, but that’s the way you come across to me.
Granted, for people to actually feel good about how they look seems more and more like a pipe-dream . . .
I went to a seminar hosted by one of Australia’s leading plastic surgeons not long ago, and the problem wasn’t that the implants looked fake, it was that the girls often chose ones that were too big. He said it was “when fantasy just didn’t fit in with reality”. The girls would walk in, say they wanted breasts that looked “real”, then say they wanted to go up 3 sizes. When told that that could not be done, they still went ahead and ended up with some fake 'ol hooters.
Now I’m an a-cup. My boyfriend says he likes them how they are. Of course, the moment he sees a girl with big tits, he can’t stop staring. :mad:
As for all you big-breasted women chiming in, your point is kinda moot. We don’t want breasts your size and you don’t want breasts our size. We just want to look like women. A C-cup, max.
Here’s what I don’t get. From what I’ve read, having your breasts enlarged reduces their sensitivity and makes it harder to nurse. In other words, it increases the form while reducing function. Now, I happen to be gifted with reasonable-sized, very sensitive breasts. Why would I want to do anything which would reduce the sensation I get when a gentleman plays with them?
While we’re ranting about the subject, though, can I get in a rant about a contest a local rock’n’roll radio station runs every Christmas? It’s called “The Breast Christmas Ever” and the way it works is contestants or their boyfriends send pictures of themselves and write letters describing why they “need” breast implants. The winner gets them. First of all, if my boyfriend decided I needed breast implants, I’d probably decided I needed a new boyfriend, especially if he told the world, or at least the city, about it. Second, what difference does it make?!! When I’ve been attracted to someone, it hasn’t usually been because of his appearance, if you discount a sweet smile, and physical appearance certainly hasn’t been the basis of our relationship. I’m reasonably happy with myself the way I am and I don’t like plastic surgery. I also don’t like men who try to drag down women by telling them how unattractive they are. Most men don’t look like supermodels either.
CJ
Rest assured that I’m really not all that skeevy and self-centered in real life. But on an anonymous message board, in a flaming forum, yeah, once every 5 years or so I’ll drag out the old titty rant. And in doing so, I’ll defend to the death my right to enjoy a body type that the world tells me I shouldn’t. If that makes me self-centered and skeevy, then so be it.
Oh and CJ, that radio contest sounds totally reprehensible. What kind of sick fuck of a boyfriend/husband would call in on behalf of his woman?