In person and in private. Tell the truth. If you’re dumping me to go back to your ex, say so. Don’t go into great detail, but don’t lie to me, please. Leave us both some dignity. I was once dumped in person by a guy who was going back to his ex. The reason he gave was that he needed some time to himself. Two days, as it happened. (one of my friends was dating his best friend, and so the gossip chain reached me) I was also once dumped by default, as it were. My lover dumped his other lover in a sneaky, underhanded way (while other lover was in the hospital recovering from a heart attack), knowing that when I heard about it, he would lose me by it. He later admitted this. Don’t ask me why I even ever spoke to him again; I was young and too curious for my own good.
best and worst at the same time…
It was Valentines day, and I am a serious romantic…
I had made a romantic five course dinner…
she came over with a gift… but seemed… well- a little with drawn…
after dinner she brought out the gift…
It was a mug, with the oscar wilde quote “Life is too important to be taken seriously” on it…
Inside there was a note…
It read: " In some ways we fit together so well… but both of us are still very much on the way on the paths of our own becoming… our paths don’t really match"
I loved that… it let me off easy, no blame, and an understanding of our philosophies… we remained friends for years… and then our paths did take different “routes”
still… sucked it happened on valentines day…
regards
FML
I would advise avoiding one that happened to me – “My parents don’t approve of us and won’t be coming to the wedding, so I guess that’s it for us,” from a 42-year-old man! Yeeeeeeouch!
In person, in private, get it over with. That’s what happened the last time and it hurt, still does, but at least it wasn’t insanely weird.
I don’t care how it’s done, as long as it is done clearly. I was dating this one girl in college who apparently broke up with me but I didn’t realize it. I didn’t really care one way or the other but I wouldn’t have invited her to my fraternity formal if we were broken up.
Of course, when she mentioned at the formal that we were broken up, I was a little supprised since I wouldn’t have expected her to ACTUALLY GO WITH ME if that were the case.
So that was a little awkward.
I think that if done in person, it should be done at the dumpee’s place. A few times I’ve been at the dumper’s place and that drive back home is not a safe drive, for anyone.
As for how I’d prefer it? It all depends. My last ‘relashionship’ didn’t feel like it was going anywhere. She went to Florida and I wasn’t sure when she was getting back. I guess neither of us cared enough to call again.
But those serious ones? In person, in private is usually the best way to get it over with like adults. You can get it all done and over with then and there. No lingering questions that you wanted to ask but couldn’t, nothing held back, finito.
Here’s a question. What if you live with the person? Do you break up and then move out or does the other person come home to find your stuff gone?