When the right person comes along, it is amazing what hoops you will jump through and how important that getting married is. It happened to me.
I was married twice before. I know what I did wrong and still wonder what I was thinking the second time. Ms. Owl was an friend of mine for 20 years and when we finally figured out that we should be married, we did, with a little work. Married for 4 years and still newlyweds. Maybe being older helped. We both finished growing up and had the same values. Maybe being friends helped. I just don’t know.
A friend of mine said, you know when it is right. I guess so.
We are really more realistic about what is going on. We both know the art of give and take. I think the best way to know is to ask, if you and your spouse are to be home all alone for a weekend without sex, would you, 1) kill each other, 2) talk, 3) drift to different ends of the house to do stuff you want to do. We have been talking for 4 years and haven’t run out of stuff yet.