No no… chew her face out of the pictures, and then mount all the pictures on the wall of your bedroom with wallpaper paste.
Here’s what you do: Answer the door, lead her through your home and out the back door, and then out to dinner.
es, that occurred to me too. It’s possible she wants to meet up but simply doesn’t have money for cinema, theatre whatever.
However, I hope it all goes well. 
go with cashews, don’t go nuts.
Well, his name is Oft Wears Hats!
I would probably avoid the “back door” on a first date. YMMV.
Have a decent dinner for the young lady; if you can’t cook, visit a caterer. Serve decent wine and save the tequila shots for later. Flowers on the table or sideboard is a nice touch. Don’t offer beer unless she asks for it. Have coffee for after dinner and maybe even a liqueur to go with it. Take things slow and easy; be yourself and try to make her comfortable in your presence. Just be natural and everything will be okay.
One of my all time favourite dating stories was told to me by a woman I used to work with. The first time she dated her future husband he explained that he was too poor to take her out but he would like to come around to her place and cook dinner for them. When he turned up at the appointed time she answered the door to find him standing there with a suitcase. She thought, “Wow this guy is confident.” It turned out that the suitcase contained all the stuff needed for dinner - ingredients, cookware, utensils because, he explained, she didn’t seem like the kind of girl to have a properly equiped kitchen. That charmed her even more (don’t ask me, it’s a woman thing) and decades later…
I totally agree here. A pack of cigarettes is definitely indicated in the likely event you shag her raw.
So here we are. 9:30 pm, and I haven’t heard a peep from her all day. She was going to call earlier and get directions to my apartment. She said she’d get off work at 9, so at 9:15 I sent her a text message asking if she was still coming. No response yet. Am I being stood up, or do I need another chill pill?
So, another update. Turns out she was expecting me to call her. When I didn’t, she didn’t call me to make sure we were on or anything. She went home, and didn’t respond to my message until 9:45, and didn’t pick up when I called. I gotta say, I’m in a sour mood at the moment. My stomach has been doing backflips the whole damn day over this, and since she didn’t show up, there’s been nothing to alleviate my stress. I thought she was going to call me for directions before she got to work, and apparently she thought I was going to call her to give her directions.
What a disappointing day. I’m going to bed.
Oh well, it was just a misunderstanding. I say talk to her tomorrow and plan a new date.
Sorry man, ‘miscommunication’ often equals ‘blow off’. I hope not, but what you’ve just wrote I’ve said and heard plenty.
She sounds very inconsiderate to me. I wouldn’t try again.
Yeah, some girls are just flakes. I’ve had girls do this to me - act like they really wanted to do something with me and then blow me off. It’s frustrating as hell because I would have been fine if you just blew me off in the first place but you made me believe you wanted to go out, and then hit me with the sucker punch! Ouch.
Just a thought, but if she finishes work at 21:00, then perhaps it’s too late to go out to eat? By the time she’s actually left work and come to your house, it’s likely 22:00, and restaurants and pubs often stop serving new customers long before then.
Uhm, if any of the guys I dated had tried to do something that complicated… well, let’s just say they would have failed horribly.
One of them didn’t even open doors for anybody he wasn’t trying to bang - it showed. Your details could be the opposite of “be natural.”
The last two posts are kinda academic if she’s a no-show, though. Hope you didn’t go to too much trouble, oftwearshats.
I am searching for a thread, maybe you guys can help me find it (I think it’s probably in Opal’s forum actually). It was a thread talking about the best and worst things that give off first impressions in your apartment/home. Examples included that you should have one picture of yourself as a youngster displayed, etc… I was thinking that it had a lot of good pointers for the OP if he still plans to have a first date at his home.
Is this ringing any bells for anyone?
Don’t listen to the ones saying blow her off at this point. It was a simple miscommunication, and it’s worth another shot to get it sorted out.
I believe I told the story in your other thread, but I showed up late to my first date with my curent girlfriend, causing us to miss the first couple minutes of the movie we’d planned on seeing and causing her stomach to do back flips and worry that I’d seen her and lost interest.
Give it 1 more shot… if she comes up with another flaky excuse or sounds like she’s trying to get out of it, then forget it.