Yeah, move on. Eesh. Even with her “at work” text explanation, it seems pretty apparent to me that she’s just not that into you.
Hey, at least you have a pizza.
Yeah, that’s the conclusion I’m coming to. Probably for the best, I’m not terribly fond of the way she’s been treating me since we met. I don’t get the impression that any kind of relationship with me is important to her. I wonder if it would be any different had the Tuesday plans actually occurred, but I doubt it.
Quite true, and it provided me with the necessary impetus to clean my apartment a little, which I needed to do by Sunday anyway.
This will likely be my last post, unless someone else posts something humorous to draw me back out.
I forgot to add that her and myself engaged in a short text conversation last night (she really likes using text messages, I guess). She seemed to still be interested in the group movie thing on Friday, but said her car blew a tire and she may not be able to get it repaired in time. I offered to pick her up, and she said “We’ll see, if you have to it would be great.” I then asked again about a do-over, she said (slight paraphrase) “Not anytime soon, I’m busy tonight, I’ll let you know.”
Sounds like the kiss of death to me. My prediction is that she will come on Friday, and we’ll either become occasional friends or I won’t hear from her again. Neither outcome will bother me terribly much.
Flake.
You dodged a bullet there, bud.
Your last post, period?!? Don’t go, man; we like you.
Fairly certain he meant to this thread, unless of course I was just wooshed 
Sorry to have arrived after your last post, Hats, but this is one situation where the Great Red Flag Of Flakiness that was waving repeatedly should’ve been enough to help you dismiss her. The GRFOF is usually at full staff when a girl is behaving in a manner which is in any way ambiguous. I should also add that any girl who prefers text messaging to speaking and/or sends more text messages than necessary (i.e. having a “texting conversation”) should be walked away from quickly.
Not trying to give you a hard time or anything, but chalk it up to experience and don’t let a girl treat you like that. The very moment a girl begins to hesitate on committing to something as simple as a rendezvous, she is flaking. This is your cue to immediately put her on the spot and get an answer, or sever the conversation. This will either scare her into thinking you’re “too serious” for her (in which case, she’s a flake you want nothing to do with anyway) or, oddly enough, make her realize that you don’t tolerate second-rate treatment from people … which will immediately slot you somewhere between doormat and take-charge-kinda-guy on her status indicator. This is a good thing, and something that’s bound to make any red-blooded woman like you even more. 
Don’t worry about her, she’ll probably find another chump who’ll let her get away with her routine.
I was definitely getting red flags, which definitely helped me finally arrive at this “I don’t much care what happens with her from here” point. The texting bothered me a bit, but it’s not generally a dealbreaker for me. Next time a girl I’m more interested in starts flaking I’ll try the direct approach.
I did mean this thread. I’ll keep an eye on it until it falls off the edge of the forum map, but I don’t intend to post again. As for the Dope, it’s one of the last bastions of intelligence on the internet, I could never bring myself to leave.
This alone would probably be a deal-killer, for me.
Then again, I’m an old fogey stuck in the age of “electronic mail,” “cellular telephones,” and “online instant messaging.” This youngsters’ fad of “texting” frightens and confuses me.
This is good to know. I say that meaning, “I called you, you weren’t available, when you are (which will be later), call me.” This could explain some things.
In my experience, the quicker a girl is to give me her number and make plans, the more likely she is to flake.
The girl I met in a bar who came over, told me that in 10 minutes she was going to another club and I should come with, then punched her number into my phone and suggested we get breakfast? Flaked.
The girl at the graduation party who decided I was too cool not to hang out with, punched her number in my phone and suggested we go to the big parade festival thing the next weekend? Flaked.
The girl I met two years ago, talk to intermittently on myspace, exchanged numbers maybe a year ago? Getting drinks tonight.
This man speaks truth. Listen to the truth…internalize it…then use it…but be sure to wipe up after the truth exits your body.
Also, if she gives you that “That’s all?” look after you kiss her, you take the next step, good sir.
If you pull this off, you get a hole punched in your Man Card. (insert heh heh sexist and juvenile joke about punching holes here)
Aw. Crap. My advice…it’s late. Damn you, SBC!
Damn, I can’t believe I never noticed this pattern before, but now that I think about it, you are spot on.
Hi dudes and dudettes. Long time lurker but thought I’d bite the bullet and subscribe.
Another weird-related thing I noticed from back in my dating days was that when on the first date - if she pressed for a second date/asked about a second date then the likelihood of a second date was near zero.
Weird - but I think what was happening is that they weren’t that into you but want to know if you were into them (an ego thing I guess)
Just one of those things that puzzled me…you’d think it was a good thing if she asked…but it wasn’t - YMMV. {I never personally asked for a date within a date - I think that is a no no.}