Nor should she be spreading her legs.
If that was a solution, we wouldn’t have needed to invent birth control methods. Having sex is what we do.
Walk away my friend, walk away…
An IUD doesn’t involve hormones. My cousin recently switched to an IUD and discovered that a zillion of small problems she’d had since her teenage years were actually… since she’d started on the Pill :smack:
My family’s history with hormones is absolutely horrid, ranging from Cousin’s problems to my mother puking her guts out on HRT, so I refuse to take the Pill or have any other hormonal treatment if there are alternatives. Such as, you know, IUDs.
Whatever you do, I would definitely have a frank conversation on what you would both want to do if there is an unintended pregnancy. I suspect condoms are going to be major part of the solution, and condoms are not great birth control.
It’s not a good idea to assume that it will be reversible - IIRC, chances of it working are something like 50% after 3 years, and decline from there.
My wife wanted to stop taking the pill and we simply started using the Billings Method. It was pretty simple to keep track off because she had very regular cycles. As soon as we had worked out the routine we kept to the same pattern. Since it would have been no disaster if she fell pregnant, we intended having another child sometime, we still sometimes had sex while she was fertile but used condoms.
I think it’s generally a good method to investigate regardless as it provides both partners with a better idea of what is going on with the woman’s body. Years ago when we did it I ended up keeping track of my wife’s cycles and she was happy to leave it up to me. I even made sure she didn’t run out of tampons and pads. I suppose now there’s an app to do all that stuff.
How does this interact with sex drive? Aren’t the three-four days that a woman can get pregnant also those days where she most wants to have sex? Is there a perceptible drop in satisfaction?
You can still do everything except penetrative sex during that time. Just sayin’
Sex <> penetration. At least for me, having other forms of sex during those days is perfectly satisfactory.
Oh I know, but it rules out one form of sex, so I was curious if that matters at all.
Dump her.
Stick with the condoms.
If you want to go natural, there’s Anal and oral.
On the contrary, my sex life improved dramatically when I began using FAM. There’s nothing like the empowerment that came from *knowing *I wasn’t fertile to make me relax and get into having really good sex without worry!
There are several options for fertile days. If you’re not averse to contraception, you can use any form of it you like if you decide to have sex during your fertile time - female or male condoms, spermicidal foam/jelly/sheets (I actually like the sheets the best), diaphragm, cervical cap, withdrawal, etc. All of them have their drawbacks, of course, but dealing with them a week out of the month instead of all month is worth it to some people. Double up on any of them (except two condoms!) and you’ve got a pretty decent chance of not getting pregnant.
Or you can abstain during those days - that’s what the Catholic church teaches in their version called “Natural Family Planning,” due to their stance on artificial contraception.
Or, as already mentioned, you can engage in any of hundreds of other very fun sex acts that don’t require penis-in-vagina. 
Well, first thing, in my mind, is to find out what her plan is, should she become pregnant. She must recognize it’s a possibility, especially if condoms are your only prevention.
Knowing what her plan is, for that circumstance, would inform how I would proceed. Good Luck!
He said he wears condoms but wants to be as safe as possible.
For all the folks that are responding with things like “dump her” or making suggestions about what she WON’T go for…
The OP isn’t saying his girlfriend won’t use birth control at all (despite the title of the OP which is misleading). His girlfriend doesn’t want to take the Pill-- hormones-- as her method of birth control. There are alternatives to the Pill that still provide birth control, but without messing with your hormonal system.
Being on the Pill has unpleasant side effects for many women. Just because a woman chooses not to take the Pill, for whatever her personal reasons for feeling that way, doesn’t mean she WANTS to get pregnant or is trying to TRAP the OP into having a child with her.
If a man says “I don’t want to have a vasectomy as a method of birth control” does that mean he wants to go around making every woman he has sex with pregnant?
Condoms are the safest possible way to avoid pregnancy short of abstinence. Their failure rate is largely due to the lack of usage. You can make sex even safer by wearing two condoms.
In addition to avoiding pregnancy, condoms protect you from STDs.
OP, if it was me in your position things would be different. Mainly because both you and my wife would be pretty mad at me for boning your girlfriend.
Please tell me this is a joke.
This.
Some doctors will claim a woman who hasn’t had children can’t wear an IUD. Bullshit.
Get a doc who can put one in, it’s a little trickier, and women who haven’t had children might expel an IUD slightly more often than women with kids, but otherwise…
I have a copper-T, non-hormonal IUD. Best ever. I just check for the “string” monthly and that’s it.
Meanwhile, wear a condom.