Yeah, I’m wondering if you’re trying to shove your tongue down her throat. I don’t like that, and I don’t know any women who do. Some guys seem to think they need to tongue you to death. It’s not enjoyable. That’s the only reason I’d back off to a peck, well that, or if I’m not really attracted to the guy. Not all kissing is going to be passionate tongue action.
My bf and I kiss all the time, sometimes with tongue, sometimes in other ways. It’s one of our favorite activities.
Actually, I think that’s a good sign of whether or not you’re compatible with someone. If they kiss like you, then that’s good, but if they’re doing something different and the rhythm is all wrong, that might mean you aren’t a good match. Just a theory.
:: raises hand :: I love really really deep French kisses. I also love just light tongue play, or no tongue at all kisses. I guess I just like kisses, but sometimes, yeah, shoving his tongue down my throat is juuuuuuuuuust fine in my book.
Oh, and:
My boyfriend does. I personally don’t feel the same, but daaaaaaaaaaaaamned if it doesn’t drive him wild. Fine by me, again.
Ewwww! What a visual! I know exactly how you feel. I remember kissing that boyfriend I mentioned, and one day he was standing with his back to the mirror while he was plunging my throat with his tongue - I started laughing because, from what I could actually see of my face, I looked like a deer in headlights. My eyes were all bugged out in surprise, and my hands were wide open on his shoulders because I was trying to get him to back off a little but he had my head in this vise-like grip. Eventually I grabbed onto his hands and yanked them away. The whole situation was ludicrous, and I don’t think he thought it was as funny as I did. :wally
I used to go with a girl who regularly did this creepy thing while making out – her eyes would roll back in her head with the eyelids just slitted a tiny bit, her jaw would go totally slack, and she’d kind of roll her head from side-to-side to generate lip/tongue friction. It was about as sexy as anything George A. Romero ever dreamed up.
I’d stop, regard her yawning chasm of a mouth, and give her a couple of chaste kisses in the general face area, which would prompt her to respond in kind, necessarily closing the maw and bringing her back into the realm of reasonably erotic behaviour.
I had a girlfriend once who just plain couldn’t kiss without tongue. I tried it once and she gave me a look like I had just tried to drive a cattle truck up her ass.
Re the ear thing: I used to do this when I was younger. I learned through the years back when I was dating more that girls that liked the tongue in the ear were pretty rare. Licking the earlobe isn’t quite as good as gently nibbling it, and nothing seems to beat a soft exhaling breath while rubbing your lips lightly along the along the crest of the ear.
Plus you can breathe in the wonderful scent of a womans hair. Kinda hard to do when you are trying to tickle her eardrum.
Assuming the OP is talking about closed-mouth peck kissers, I completely agree. Open mouth kissing (with or without tongue) is awesome, but those little closed-mouth pecks just give me the heebie-jeebies. It’s like I’m making out with an elderly relative all of a sudden.
Now, if he’s complaining about open-mouth kissing without tongue, then that’s just silly.
i was starting to get the idea that i was some sort of mutant or something, simply because i don’t think someone else’s tongue in MY mouth was the greatest thing since sliced bread. for the life of me, i find it hard to imagine how it ever got this fantastic reputation of being such an erotic event. i’ll admit, ON OCCASION it has been enjoyable… but for Og’s sake, that doesn’t mean i want it stuck down my throat, or even into my mouth, every time our lips happen to meet!!! crikey!
sometimes i credit it to severe lack of imagination on the male part. they hear (somewhere) “chicks dig this”. (and granted, there are some who do. and some who do as a diversion.) but this seems to get written to their brains directly as “DO AT ALL TIMES”.
wrong correlation, boys. everyone is unique. just because it’s big in porn pictures doesn’t mean it plays great IRL.
I just wanna say–this is the funniest thread I’ve read in ages. Poor stuyguy! He starts this thread to complain about girls who are lousy kissers, and the next thing you know, he’s been branded as an unnatractive, slobbery, tongue-thrusting oaf with halitosis.
Thanks for your concern, GB! To briefly address some of the issues that have been raised about my OP:
No, I’m not a slobbery kisser. In fact, my kissing has been complimented a number of times. (But you know how women are. They’ll say *anything * to get you in the sack. [Grinny]) I’m pretty careful with my breath too, so I don’t think that’s it either. And the pecks don’t come as a “breaktime”; they usually start the session and stay, to varying degrees, throughout.
FTR, I like the tongue in the ear business, but I’ve learned that most women don’t, so I’ve retired the move unless I’m asked for a command performance.
You’ve all been great. Keep those cards & letters rolling in!
I think if it really bothers you, bring it up. I was on this shipboard romance during my cruise, and one question I asked the woman I was with was how I was as a kisser, because if I was a lousy kisser, well, better she tell me now than discover it 20 years later.
One of the ‘chicks dig this’ things I heard, though was women like men that are good kissers. What constitutes being a good kisser probably has to do with each woman’s own fantasy and comfort level about kissing. Though between the romance I had last week and reading this thread, I have a pretty good idea what generally works
