That is where you went wrong. A lot of us are holier than thou assholes who are several decades older than you and we feel it entitles us to act douchy towards you because none of us had any interpersonal problems when we were 22.
Edit: meant to reply to the OP with that comment.
Try reading your posts objectively. Like a chick would, or something.
You said that with a straight face.
So, player… did you smash yet or what?
Jake, the online thing isn’t working for you. Move up to cheap beer bars and half drunk bar flies. You’ll have better luck.
That you have leapt to the idea that she’s ‘pulling a flakey online dater’, is a total projection of your issues.
I wager while she does like lots about you, she can sense your judgement and impatience. While you seem blind to it.
I mean she works till 9pm and you’re pissy because she only wants to talk when it’s late ‘and she’s lonely’? A lot of projection there too.
Only my opinion (and I don’t know either one of you,) based solely on what you’ve shared!
Wishing you Good Luck!
so at this current moment, where the last message sent was me asking her to see me TEN HOURS ago and she hasn’t responded, what should i do? Leave it alone because if i send anything more i’ll seem impatient and needy?
Send her a dick pic.
What messages of yours have not given off that vibe?
If you’re several decades older than me, then sex is probably the last thing on your mind.
(I know, but I couldn’t resist. ;))
By any chance, do you have some rope and an empty car trunk?
yeah ok.
This requires a level of sophistication, worldliness, and confidence with women that the young padawan has yet to achieve.
Why are you here? Don’t you have friends or Facebook or something? Aren’t there chat rooms you can get terrible advice in like when I was a kid?
If she has any brains, she’s already gotten a restraining order.
“You should see me when you get off” is not an invitation to anything. If you really want to spend time with her and not just try to get in her pants, you would have responded to her saying she works til 9 with something like, “wanna get a bite after work? There’s a restaurant name here nearby, let’s meet.”
That gives her something to accept or decline. What you said, I wouldn’t respond to either, as it’s a non-starter.
I might regret getting involved but here’s what you do. Text her this tomorrow in the middle of the day:
“Hey, I was going to go do X later and I wanted to invite you. If you’re busy, that’s cool, but it’ll be fun so you should totally come do X with me :)” X is a fun activity of some sort that you think she might enjoy.
If she says “sorry, work tomorrow” ask “Would you like to do it another day?”
If she says “can’t Sunday and I work Monday-Wednesday but maybe thursday” then you’re in. You don’t need a commitment in her reply, you’re looking for a good solid possibility of doing X. If she’s not interested, she won’t give you that.
If she says “I’m not sure when I work and I have a lot to do this week” forget about her. She’s being vague and putting you off. She’s one that got away. Not the one that got away, just one. Don’t be heartbroken, just forget about her.
If she agrees to go do X with you, you spend that time talking to her, asking her favorite color, her hopes, her dreams etc. Ask her what she’d do with a million dollars, ask her what she likes and doesn’t like about her job. Just talk and enjoy X. Remember, the whole point of the first date is to get a second date.
There. That’s the secret to women. No need to thank me but I would like 10% of any pussy you get from my advice please.
What do you expect? We’re treating you the way you present yourself. If you don’t want people to treat you this way, stop acting this way.
The world doesn’t owe you respect. The world doesn’t owe you a girlfriend. The world doesn’t owe you a job. The world doesn’t owe you money. If you want these things, you’ll have to earn them.
I may have been snickering a little. I fully acknowledge the irony. Takes one to know one, and all that jazz.
LOL!!!
Yeah, I wasted some time with a couple. They love to see you squirm and try and ask you out but when the time comes, suddenly they are too busy.
Best thing is if you ask and she declines (she might actually be busy) but makes no effort to find an alternative time, drop her and go elsewhere.