Dude, you’re 22. She’s close to the same age. Chill the fuck out and don’t get hung up on any one chick, particularly before you even go on a date.
Be casual, chat with more women and just take it where it goes. If it goes somewhere, great! If not, you get practice. Maybe start with actually asking her out if that’s what you want. If you can’t be bothered to even do that, you’re going to come off as just as flaky as everyone else your age.
22 year olds are flighty, flaky, casual, and generally not too hung up on being serious. You should really just… expect that and chill.
For example, I have a great friend that I met when he was younger than you are, arguably not as good looking as you (though still super cute), and has zero problems getting dates/sex. Know what his secret is? He’s easy-going, friendly, full of happy excitement, and has a lot of fun talking to people whether it goes somewhere more serious or not. He’s just a lot of fun to be around and that naturally leads to him connecting with a lot of women. He’s not deceitful, judgmental or pushy, he just has fun and goes with the flow.
Coherent sentences and paragraphs would be a fantastic start. I suspect that you are the only person alive, until you posted here, to understand that you asked her on a date.
Since you have apparently never held down a job perhaps you do not understand that work makes you tired? That’s not bullshit, after working a full shift most people ARE tired.
People here can sometimes act like sanctimonious pricks, especially when you don’t conform to their ideas of how you should behave and present yourself. Writing your posts with proper punctuation and grammar, though it won’t necessarily get you automatic respect, would be a good start to getting better responses.
I do empathize with you about the flakiness of girls in online dating these days. It’s pretty awful. It’s best not to make any assumptions about why they are so flaky, and just assume that the vast majority are going to end up flaking on you for whatever reason - it’s not personal - and keep moving on. There’s probably some magic middle ground that you have to find between being assertive enough to get them to actually follow through on making dates and being too pushy to the point of it being a turn-off. It’s hard to say what the right level is because everyone’s different.
*i waited for 2 hours for her call after i sent her my dic pics and she wont call.
i’m dumping, this bitch. she just ignores me and acts me like i don’t know she cares
i spent too much time trying to screw her and she’s frigid i bet. *
If she is still at work she may not be able to get back to you and if you keep texting her that could turn her off. Most women like men that have a live of their of their own . I agree with the person the said you sound like a train wreck .
And if you are texting her a lot and not even dating her that would be a red flag to me that you’re too controlling or too needy. Give her some space and time , she a working woman and may need some alone time after work to unwind .
We are on the same age bracket and I’ve had experiences meeting people I met online in real life. The most important thing you need to understand when meeting someone online is that you can’t demand anything. It follows that you should not expect a lot. She has no obligation whatsoever to return your texts or calls and she knows it. You do not really know each other. If she suddenly stopped replying then she probably got bored and found something else to do or somebody else to talk to. Or she is probably busy and can’t get to you at the moment. Or she probably met an accident and she’s in a coma in a hospital somewhere. There could be a lot of reasons and there is not a lot you could do about it. Just move on. Don’t take it as an offense. She probaby has a lot of other guys she’s chatting with. And you could be making friends with other girls instead of just waiting for one. She probably understands this and you should too.
I should know better than to post in this clusterfuck of a thread, but…
I’m trying to understand something. Help me out here.
The OP has barely spoken to this girl. He’s not bombarding her with declarations of love. He’s not calling her umpteen times per day. He’s being totally noncommittal, acting all “I can take it or leave it, maybe let’s do something some time”. There is nothing in his behavior, as such, that is clingy or needy. He hasn’t even asked her on a date. There’s barely any interaction there at all. I’ve had more intimate relationships and deeper conversations with supermarket checkout clerks than what these two have going on.
And somehow, when I try to see this from the girl’s perspective, the vibe she must be getting is still “clingy and obsessive, restraining order needed”.
Really, Jake, I don’t know how you even do that. It’s like some kind of magic trick. Only in reverse, or something.
He says he asked her “to see him” 12 hrs ago. (What is he a potentate?)
He’s freaking out cause it’s been 12 whole hours with no response! (Not sounding very adult here.)
Akready has the feeling she’s “pulling a flake Internet girl!” (Judgey with a entree of projection there, I think.)
And she never wants to talk until it’s late. (Er, she works till 9pm he said?)
And it doesn’t seem like he’s actually asked her on a date, at a specific time, to do a specific thing. Like a movie, or dinner out, or, well anything. He seems all, “Hey, we should maybe get together later.” Then kind of pissy and impatient when nothing magically materializes.
Oh, *I *see that he’s clingy and obsessive. *We *all see it. From here, it’s obvious. That wasn’t my point.
I’m trying to see if from the girl’s perspective. Does she see it that way? And I can’t help but think that, yes, she does. That the obsessiveness leaks into the very minimal amount of communication that has actually taken place between Jake and his immortal beloved. That’s the vibe she’s getting from him already, despite the fact that they haven’t talked much at all.
And that’s sort of fascinating and disturbing. That you can be all “sure, whatever, let’s meet up some time, or not”, and it still comes across as “I’m a stalker with mental issues”.
I could be wrong, though. Maybe she’s blissfully unaware.
That post made me laugh so hard you should have to register it as a deadly weapon!