My friend–I’ll call him “Marty”–recently had a pet cat, whom I will call “Ford” pass away. (It’s a cat thread, but there are no photos, as I never took one of Ford.)
Ford was adopted by Marty from a farm. One of the conditions of Marty adopting Ford was that, upon Ford’s death, Marty would have Ford cremated and return to the farm to scatter Ford’s ashes. Note that Marty paid nothing for Ford; he was just taking a kitten off the farmer’s hands. (And they lived together very nicely; I can’t think of Marty without also thinking about Ford. They were that close.)
However, in the time since (Ford lived to age 16), Marty’s farmer friend sold the farm where Ford was born. The farmer is still living (in a condo now), but the farm has passed to another farmer. Marty does not know the new farmer personally, but he has contacted him, and the new farmer does not want Ford’s ashes scattered on his land.
Question: Does Marty have to make good on his promise to scatter Ford’s ashes at the farm where he was born? And if so, how does this reconcile with the fact that the current farmer does not wish to have Ford’s ashes scattered at his farm? (No, I do not know why.)
My own feeling is that, if the current farmer does not want you to scatter ashes on his property, you dont. Find some other place, or put them on the mantlepiece. Or scatter them in Ford’s favourite park (Marty lived right next to a park; Ford spent many times there, hunting, and sleeping in the sunshine.)
But that’s my feeling. I’m curious as to how the Dopers (especially legal Dopers) feel.