Yeah. Like that’d happen. Have you happened to notice that everybody’s sleeping with everybody and ‘attending’ doesn’t mean a flying flip?
Because she cheated on him with his best friend! He’d dumped her and, as far as he was concerned, was through with her completely. He probably didn’t expect to find someone he hit it off with that fast.
Because he’s a decent man, saw his wife was sorry, and figured he’d give her one more chance.
Yeah, that’s usually what ‘you’re the love of my life’ means.
Sandra Oh looked weirdly made up when she showed up sans eyebrows. Her skin almost looked like the fake smushed face Ava had, like they used the same putty. I can’t believe she really shaved/plucked them?!
I’m not sure she did shave them off. I thought I saw evidence of artist’s putty on her forehead.
I really wish that Shondra would have written Derek more realistically all along. For so many months, he was just too good to be true – smart, handsome, athletic, successful, sensitive, patient…plus he had really good hair. And it was just too much. Absent was the egomania that surgeons are notorious for, the condecension towards nurses, etc., etc. We finally get a “Aha! I knew he was too good to be true!” moment when it’s revealed that he has a wife (!)…but, no, she’s a cheating whore so he’s still perfect.
Then suddenly, after almost 3 seasons of sainthood, they do a U-turn with him and turn him into an ass. His girlfriend just attempted suicide, had her wicked mother die, her absentee father turns on her like a pit viper and her stepmother dies…um, a little compassion, Derek??
Just like suddenly we’re supposed to believe that Izzy is madly in love with wimpy George. I’m all for character development, but make the characters ring true.
I really like the show, but I swear it makes me want to throw things at the t.v.
My DVR crapped out on me with about a half hour to go. Does anyone know where I can go to download the full episode? I’ve tried abc’s website, but my connection isn’t fast enough and the show is really choppy.
My DVR crapped out, too! I had to figure out what happened by reading theses boards. I wonder what was up with that.
Unless they re-run it, the only other options are: 1) Wait for S3 to come out on dvd; and 2) Download it via iTunes. It’s $1.99.
E-mail or PM me if you missed it and want to see it.
Acc. to an article in my local paper, Time Warner’s signal to their high def converter boxes went black at 9:48pm. Service was restored within 2 hours to everyone. They are negotiating with the networks to replay the shows affected, esp. since it was the finales for a lot of shows.
Or go to abc.com and watch it for free.
Would a decent guy say, “I met a woman last night and she was pretty and her flirting with me was the highlight of my week. So yeah, you should be worried”? That was a comment designed to hurt, and for what? Let’s not forget that, very recently, Meredit lost her mother, then her step-mother, and her father attacked her. Not to mention her near-drowning, and failing her exam. Yet McDreamy expects her to be a cheery, smiling perfect girlfriend, and when she’s not, he threatens her with infidelity. What an asshole.
I also think it was unforgiveable for him to conduct an affair with Meredith, declare love for her, and never tell her he was married. IF he was really over Addison and it was such a non-issue that it was not worth disclosing, when Addison came to Seattle Grace, he should NOT have gotten back with her. Thus, I think he was quite unfair to Meredith, whom he prevented from moving on by continuing to stake a claim on her despite her attempts to get over him.
Maybe I’m the only person who likes Meredith and dislikes Derek, but that’s my POV: Meredith has gone through a lot of crap that has been inflicted on her through no fault of her own and he has been… less that compassionate and understanding.
You’re not the only one. Although I can’t say I really like Meredith, but I am more sympathetic with her. Maybe because I also have a mother with Alzheimer’s, but at least my mother wasn’t emotionally distant before her disease. I also understand the fear that one day the same thing will happen to you. I think it’s just that the crap she’s been through makes her more sympathetic a character to me than Derek.
All the characters are flawed, all humans are flawed, I think whether we like or dislike a character depends on how sympathetic we can be of their flaws. Many people seem to be sympathetic of Derek but I’m not.
Yes, that’s an option. However, the poster I was responding to (Doperchic) said, “I’ve tried abc’s website, but my connection isn’t fast enough and the show is really choppy.”
I agree, though obviously she is kind of self-absorbed… but they all are. Derek claims that Meredith keeps leaving him, not her friends, just him. Well, she BEGGED him to choose her over Addison. Really threw herself at his feet, and he walked away from her, only to jerk both her and Addison around for a long time making up his mind which he wanted. But when she tried to get over him, he actually accused her of being a whore. She really couldn’t win.
Bottom line, if I were Meredith, I’d have trouble trusting him and believing that he’d continue to pick me, esp. when, if the going gets tough, he flirts with another woman and throws it in her face like it’s a wake-up call. All the people defending him, I’d wonder how they’d react to “the love of their life” saying the attentions of another woman were the highlight of their week.
Anyone with half a mind knows that you’re not “through completely” with your wife of ten years until you’ve at least wandered into a lawyer’s office. He hadn’t. He dicked around for months doing nothing toward ending his marriage. If he were really so in love with Meredith he might have taken 5 minutes to find counsel. Addison did not show up because she’d been served.
I don’t really like Meredith - but I find him even worse. I have no idea what he wants, other than to blame Meredith for everything wrong with him, her, their relationship, and the world. I’m sure in his mind, Meredith alone is the cause global warming.
The previous episode he got mad at her because her friends rallied around her (she didn’t ask them to, she didn’t go to them, they came to her, because they’re friends) when she was having a really bad day. It made him pout and whine and be a generally nasty human being. Apparently having friends is “leaving him” in Derek-land. And of course, everyone knows that the best time to have an ultimatum laden, deep relationship talk with your girlfriend is when you’re already late to a wedding where she’s the maid of honor (to a completely freaked out bride) and you’re the best man. Because if she doesn’t drop everything right then and deal with your crap - it means she doesn’t really love you. Can’t do that the day before when she’s throwing herself at you, can’t wait until after the wedding, only at that exact point in time. That alone is the test of “twu luv.”
Yeah and she pushed him away every time he tried to be there for her.
Oh fah. You don’t bother getting a divorce because it costs money and nobody serious is on the horizon. When someone turns up, then you get a move on. I’ve known others who worked it that way and that’s how we did it. Sometimes the hassle of divorce is more trouble than it’s worth unless you really need to do it.
Heh?
It’s still bad form to date someone without ever mentioning that you’re still legally married. No bad form is the wrong phrase, I meant to say jerkish.
That’s fine if it’s your opinion. I didn’t see it that way. I think she did her best. She’s a damaged person, and she never denied that (she’s “dark and twisty”). He also supposedly knows that about her and loves her anyway. If the love of my life told me he was flirting with another woman and I should worry, within a short time after my mother and step-mother died and I almost died, on the day of my best friend’s wedding when I was late to the church, I’d be very hurt and angry. I’d hope I’d have the presence of mind to walk away instead of freaking out on him. Why, what would you do if your SO said that to you?
It costs money? The man is a brain surgeon. I hardly think money is the reason. You move on, not when you find someone else… you move on for yourself, because you want to be a whole, free person when you do find someone else. If you’re not a complete asshole, you also tell your new girlfriend that you’re separated, planning to divorce. It was a serious lie of omission, not telling Meredith about that. Obviously he wasn’t over Addison either, or her return would have been an occasion for laughter and scoffing, not reunion.
McDreamy well and truly fucked Meredith over when he got back together with Addison. Mer was also heaped with abuse for that affair (“the dirty mistress”) when she did nothing wrong. I think it’s completely understandable that Meredith wouldn’t be so quick to surrender to his wiles this time around, because he’s hurt her before and left her to suffer.
She should have known he’s manipulative. Didn’t she ever watch “Can’t Buy Me Love”? She should also know from that that he’s dweeby.
Unfortunately, she watched “Lover Boy” and realized he is skilled in the bedroom and on the dance floor…
(by the way, am I the only one who is completely unable to see him as attractive, largely because of the memory of him in “Cant By Me Love”? Because for me he is and always will be a total dweeby loser. And this is from someone who is always attracted to nerds!)
He was in Lucky 7 shortly before or maybe during Grey’s Anatomy and was so likeable in that, it replaced Can’t Buy Me Love in my head.