It’s really not all that difficult, you’re just exposed to the complaints here because this environment readily accepts complaints more readily than it does triumphs or the mundane. If we went around sharing stories of successful hook-ups, flirtation, and budding relationships we’d be guilty of sneak-bragging#Nzinga, Seated. I’m happy and talkative, smile all the time and get flirted with and cornered often, even though I’m old and occasionally even with the baby on my hip. I’m not on the market, not at all flirtatious or dressed provactively, guys are just generally over-friendly but totally nice to me. I’d prefer not to be put on the spot and asked out as I blush easily and hate to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I can handle a compliment and minor flirting just fine. And I sure wouldn’t go to HR unless my job or my safety was actually threatened. Surely that kind of nonsense I described earlier is rare.
I’d really recommend making some platonic female friends. Co-workers, women who are in good, solid relationships, women you aren’t attracted to and aren’t likely to attempt to wrangle into a romantic entanglement. My closest friends and my best friends have always been male, and that is probably why I’m perfectly at ease when interacting with them and don’t find them mysterious at all. I’m privy to all kinds of lunk-headed, ham-fisted talk of all things sexual thanks to my friends, but we have a gentleman’s agreement: they get to sound off and ask for my perspective, and I’m allowed to do the same without having the arguments we would have with our actual mates.