That is the geekiest answer I have ever heard to that question and I applaud you for it because it rings completely true to me as well. Well done (in all seriousness)! There is no way in hell I am having adopted kids, stepchildren or anything of that nature. It is all about socio-biology to me and always has been. I already have all the kids that I want and there will never be any more in any form. That greatly limits potential romantic relationships but so be it because that is an intuitive and effortless rule in my mind.
The one thing I am holding out for is a really hot, infertile, 30 year old that has more money than I do and wants to dote on my daughters without ever nagging me about anything. Back in the real world, I think I will have to fold on this whole game because there is no advantage in it for me.
You’d widen your pool of possible targets by getting a vasectomy; bring your own, **guaranteed **sterility and find a hot, rich 30 year old who doesn’t want to have kids.
That is a good point. I thought about it a couple of years ago until I mentioned it to my father and he freaked out about it. I have no idea why because he is the last person that should be commenting on such matters (he was once so promiscuous that he could make Bill Clinton blush although I am pretty sure it was completely consensual based on the snippets his partners mentioned to me even as a child; that isn’t a good way to grow up especially when your parents are married so I refuse to do anything of the sort to my own kids). I still go out on dates recreationally and put a lot of thought into them. I never expect anything in return except for simple courtesy and a good attitude and I have gotten lost of good ones over the last few years. However, it is hard to subtly break the news that what you see tonight is all there can be because I have much more important priorities.
Your fertility and reproductive choices are solely down to you; parents are unlikely to ever get behind their child opting to become sterile.
But you’ve had kids, twice, and I presume they are not free to raise - no kids are. When your dad starts carrying the burden of your reproduction, then his opinion is valuable.
The time to have the NSA conversation is before the date is set up; if you have a dating profile that info should be front and center. It **will **be harder to get dates, but you won’t have the awkward ‘where is this going’ conversation afterward if both people already decided this moment being great was what they hoped for. Quality over quantity; and no one feeling misled or blowing up your phone.
ZipperJJ, I think I could have been clearer; I meant that I don’t date regularly but when I do I date the 30 year old. I don’t have a bunch of guys that I date. One could say I have more important priorities right now.
But it’s not like a single filament from that eukaryote to you, it’s a tree with billions of intertwining branches, many of which died, enabling others to live and branch out. If one little twig fails to sprout a new bud, many billions of others are constantly reproducing.
Wow just wow? By any chance, have you lost your ability to even?
It’s pretty atypical not to want to procreate, but I wouldn’t say anything is wrong with you per se. I certainly did not say, and don’t think, that an age difference of 17 years is ideal. The time to marry a 23 year old is when you’re 25, not when you’re 40.
They honestly answered the question asked. What exactly did you want them to do? If they were just saying that unasked, then it would be pretty rude. Are there any other sexual preferences that you want kept in the closet?
Does she look good (to me)? Do I find her personality agreeable? If the answer to both is yes, then “too old” doesn’t enter into it. Nor too young, if of legal age.
