I wanted to respond to one of Shakes’s comment here versus in ATMB where it was turning into a thread hijack:
Whether you realize it or not, you’ve articulated a very integral part of the uncertainty women have when faced with men who are acting sexually aggressive towards them.
Gut feeling says he might rape me, but it’s a terrible thing to assume a person you’ve been friendly with might do such a thing. If your gut is wrong and you kick him out or get away from him anyway, you’ve just killed the relationship, as well as the possiblilty of word getting out about what a psycho bitch you are, accusing a guy of rape before he even touches you. Even if he HAD intended to have sex with you, there’s those guys who are going to be pissed off that you would accuse him of such a thing, because hey, he was just trying to convince you of what you KNOW you really wanted, babe.
If your gut is right, and you don’t act on it, you get raped. Possibly violently, if you don’t “give in.”
And yes, it’s fucked up.