Handsome Boy, Ugly Girl: What's The Story?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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[QUOTE=Athena]
How about “he doesn’t think she’s ugly.”

I’m constantly amazed at what other people think is beautiful and ugly. I’ve pointed out gorgeous women to Mr. Athena and he goes “meh.” He’s done the same to me with men.

It even works with celebraties. There are people out there who think Sarah Jessica Parker is cute! And I’ve known more than one guy who thinks Julia Roberts is dog-ugly.
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That’s what it has to be. It’s not just me, other people (who are not Pbbth for the record. She doesn’t like thin guys. :slight_smile: ) have noticed that my boyfriend is MUCH more attractive than I am, not to mention a Jack Sprat to my Mrs. Sprat. However, when I catch him looking at girls on the street, admiring celebrities, etc., it’s always the ones that look like me!

It’s totally awesome that he is just naturally attracted to chubby, pale, punky girls when my area of the country is positively swarming with blonde, tanned, skinny debutante-wannabes. Life is so freakin’ sweet.

I wouldn’t consider myself haglike, though. So maybe there’s some other factor. My mother always told me that those average looking girls with very attractive boyfriends were the ones that had the courage to walk up to them and say hi. Just b/c some guy is drool-tastic doesn’t necessarily mean that he thinks he is, or even knows that he is.

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Yeah, I’ll vote for “one man’s hag is another man’s babe.”

Maybe she was just having a bad hair day. Or he just picked her up from chemo.

Mr. S frequently calls me “babe” in a tone that clearly says he thinks of me as one. I’m clearly not in the general sense of the word, but the important thing is that I’m his babe.

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As a chick who is frumpy and on the chubby side, I’ve been able to get the attention of guys who were by all objective standards much better looking than I am.

In some cases, it was obvious the guy was a “chubby chaser” - all of his girlfriends were fat and for whatever reason he found the extra padding attractive. Interestingly, many of the chubby chasers I’ve known are NOT fat themselves.
Other guys did seem to appreciate my inner qualities…my ambition, kindness, intelligence, etc.
I know it wasn’t about sex since, despite being fat, I am not desperate or “easy”. :wink:

I don’t really blame guys for not being attracted to me based on looks, because I freely admit that looks do matter to me and I don’t date guys unless I think they look good. Thank goodness that we all have different ideas about what exactly makes someone good-looking. :slight_smile:

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[QUOTE=lavenderviolet]
As a chick who is frumpy and on the chubby side, I’ve been able to get the attention of guys who were by all objective standards much better looking than I am.

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I don’t really blame guys for not being attracted to me based on looks, because I freely admit that looks do matter to me and I don’t date guys unless I think they look good.
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Huh?

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As others have said: would you exhibit the same curiosity if you saw a ugly-looking fellow with a nice-looking female?

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[QUOTE=ralph124c]
I just saw such a couple-movie star looking boy, accompanied by hag-like girlfriend. So, thought I’d catagorize the possibilities:
-girl’s father is a JILLIONAIRE, big $ job for future son-in-law?
-girl is rich (inheritance)
-true love

  • boy sees “inner beauty”, indifferent to outward appearence
    -girl is excellent (in bed)
    -???
    What’s your take? :confused:
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Maybe the guy ***isn’t shallow * ** so he picks his friends and girlfriends off of more than physical appearance.

One day I’ll have to post the story of the ugliest gierl I’d ever seen. She was scary-ugly. But as I told a friend of mine as we saw her in a store one day “Someone somewwhere loves her…and ain’t nothin’ wrong with that.”.

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[QUOTE=Jess]
I need a better definition of ‘hag-like.’

Living in military towns, I regularly see young couples who look somewhat mismatched. They got married young, when both of them were young and cute. Then she popped out a couple of kids and gained 10 or 20 pounds with each one. Taking care of two little ones, she doesn’t have the time or energy to keep on top of her looks and so she gets pretty frumpy looking. Meanwhile, the Navy or Marine Corps is ensuring that he maintains his youthful figure. Plus, men don’t ‘frump’ as easily as women – jeans and a teeshirt look fine on a young, fit man and he doesn’t have to worry about makeup or eyebrow tweezing or hairdos.

Quite often, once the kids get a little older and she has more time on her hands (and a bit more disposable income), the wife’ll start to ‘red up’ a bit. Not uncommonly, this is about the same time as hubby stats hugging a desk and losing his hair… And they level out again.
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Good grief…you just described my life. (although my wife didn’t get fat). Nearing the end game of my military career I’ve lost some hair, gained some pounds…and i look in a mirror and think “What happened to the young, slim guy that women thought was a cute guy? I look like my friggin’ grampa now!”

I’m depressed. Time to hit the absinthe!

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I have one scenario that I’ve seen happen more than once.
People get toasted, and have sex.
Couple gets married.
Baby pops out.

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[QUOTE=gigi]
He’s an android she built.
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That would be the K-9 sexbot dollar store model. You get what you pay for.

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That would be the K-9 sexbot dollar store model. You get what you pay for. She’s still a better model than the Heath kit two bit whore.

We’ll see if anybody younger than forty kows what a Heath kit is.

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I see this quite a bit when I am with tourist friends and walk down The Strip here in Las Vegas…really good-looking, buff guys, and their wives/girlfriends who are way over-weight and could use a visit to a hairdresser.

But in reading the posts, I think “military couple” sounds right - wife having had a few children but with very limited time and financial resources, not able to get back in shape, however the guy is doing 100 push-ups in the military every morning at work. Still, it is an odd sight.

Then again, no odder than seeing old, fat, balding men who stink of cigars and booze who are arm and arm with a 20 something gorgeous woman…of course, when I see that, the obvious answer is money is involved.

And yet we could all be wrong and maybe beauty really is in the eye of the beholder; I am Gay and knew a really hot looking, young guy who was only sexually interested in men much older than himself, and usually the men he liked were on the short and chubby side. Had nothing to do with money, that was simply what this guy like and was looking for.

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That was probably me, taking my secretary to lunch.

Oh, wait, you said it was the guy that was good looking?

Never mind

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[QUOTE=DMark]
And yet we could all be wrong and maybe beauty really is in the eye of the beholder; I am Gay and knew a really hot looking, young guy who was only sexually interested in men much older than himself, and usually the men he liked were on the short and chubby side. Had nothing to do with money, that was simply what this guy like and was looking for.
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Absolutely. As another gay man (and a (very) chubby one), I can definitely say that there are some men who are, by the mainstream culture’s standards, absolutely SMOKIN’ who are very attracted to VERY large men. When we were at Convergence (not the science fiction one, the gay fat guy one) in September, there was a chaser there who had a body that was obviously his bread and butter (not that way, you pervs!) He was a model, had appeared on the covers of fitness magazines (actual fitness magazines, not the “porn for closet-cases” fitness magazines), had a body that didn’t have an ounce of fat on it. And he likes guys who weigh 400 lbs or over.

I was told that I was borderline for him…possibly not big enough. Those who’ve seen me in person will understand why my jaw dropped… (not for THAT! Geez…)

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Well…

I only date people I know I’m aesthetically superior to. Because, with every relationship, there’s always the hot one and the not-so-hot one. I refuse to be the latter. Suppose that makes me a bit of a narcissist.

But, it’s not like I actively look for uggos! I just don’t generally reciprocate advances from especially handsome people. I like being the one in the spotlight.

What else can I say? Maybe it’s the same with your mystery couple.

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That coulda been me and the Tashaboy.

Well, no. I’m not haglike. I am just not pretty without a lot of camera work and makeup. I’m a plain jane, but with big, broad, amazon-like shoulders, pudge, and small breasts.

My boyfriend, on the other hand, is extremely attractive. He’s 36 years old and 17 year olds still hit on him. If you look at all of his other girlfriends, some are pretty, some are fat, some are ugly - but all of them are nice people (except for his ex-wife, but she apparently used to be nice). He just goes for personality.

I have no idea, then, why he likes me. :slight_smile:

~Tasha

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[QUOTE=Harmonious Discord]
I have one scenario that I’ve seen happen more than once.
People get toasted, and have sex.
Couple gets married.
Baby pops out.
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I think you got the order wrong. It’s couple gets pregnanted THEN they get married. :wink:

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[QUOTE=Jess]
I need a better definition of ‘hag-like.’

Living in military towns, I regularly see young couples who look somewhat mismatched. They got married young, when both of them were young and cute. Then she popped out a couple of kids and gained 10 or 20 pounds with each one. Taking care of two little ones, she doesn’t have the time or energy to keep on top of her looks and so she gets pretty frumpy looking. Meanwhile, the Navy or Marine Corps is ensuring that he maintains his youthful figure. Plus, men don’t ‘frump’ as easily as women – jeans and a teeshirt look fine on a young, fit man and he doesn’t have to worry about makeup or eyebrow tweezing or hairdos.

Quite often, once the kids get a little older and she has more time on her hands (and a bit more disposable income), the wife’ll start to ‘red up’ a bit. Not uncommonly, this is about the same time as hubby stats hugging a desk and losing his hair… And they level out again.
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We used to see it a lot in the military and would often comment on it. Heart-droppingly gorgeous active-duty husband with hippopotamus wife. They get married young when the guy is horny, insecure and considers himself lucky if a female of any species is willing to look at him and put out. She gets pregnant, puts on 100 lbs and the rest is history. Guys are loyal to that first woman who puts out and gets pregnant. She may have gotten fat, he may be out having affairs, but he won’t leave her and she sure as heck ain’t leaving him what with three kids now.

Happened to a friend of mine in the Marine Corp. He was hot. He was dating a model. Seriously, she was a model. She was also smart enough to use birth control. He got drunk and slept with “okay looking” and guess what happened? Drunk choice number two got pregnant, left the military, and hot Marine guy had no choice but to honor his obligations. Good-bye model, hello hippo who can’t seem to not be constantly pregnant.

Both parties are stupid, but the one who stays on active military duty has no choice but to stay in shape. Spouse gets to fall apart.

You see it in the civilian world too though. I figure a lot of people start out as ugly pimply-faced coke-bottle glasses wearing geeks who never realize just how handsome they’ve become as adults, and there are lots of not-so-attractive people out there who will snatch them up. Exploiting someone else’s deep-seated insecurities & self-esteem issues is a great way to land yourself a good-looking spouse. Especially if you can get pregnant.

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Clearly the gentleman in question has decided he wants to be happy for the rest of his life, thus limiting his dating options.

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[QUOTE=Giraffe]
Clearly the gentleman in question has decided he wants to be happy for the rest of his life.
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I love that song. :slight_smile:

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[QUOTE=r4nd0mNumb3rs]
I think you got the order wrong. It’s couple gets pregnanted THEN they get married. :wink:
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No, I said have the baby. As in two months after marriage.