I just wanted to know how many of the female (and male dopers wives/girlfriends) dopers like rough sex? I was, prior to getting into the dating game, under the impression that woman prefered romance, candles, long baths, massages etc (I read a lot of Cosmo) and were put off by aggresive domineering sex. Now I have been in quite a few relationships and although all my partners (and me) enjoyed slow lovemaking and ‘romantic’ sex, I have found that without exception all of them have enjoyed rough sex the most. And just so you are sure, this isn’t me assuming that they have, it is straight from the horses mouth so to speak (I dont screw horses). I basically want to poll everyone as to their preferred shagging style, I realise that there is a time and place for different styles. But deep down given the option is it ‘Hard and Rough’ or ‘Slow and Soft’?
Just throw me on the bed and shag me senseless, as hard and fast as you can…
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Depends on what you mean by rough. Hard and fast, absolutely. All the women I’ve been with liked it that way, especially my wife.
If you mean rough like abusive, then hell, no.
Tir, what exactly are you counting down to? I have to know!
See you at the Londope, by the way.
In my experience (limited though it is) they like to have a bit of everything. slow, fast, romantic, rough, it’s all good.
Variety is the spice of life, donchaknow.
Depends entirely on the moment.
An Arcy
Aye, abusive is not my thing, pain and humiliation, no… aggression, lust and raw sex… oooooooh baby!
Bibliovore,
I’m counting down to getting thrown on the bed and having the life screwed outta me… TwistofFate is over this weekend!
T-29 hours
ROWR!
Londope! RAR! Twisty and I will be there!
Is this gonna be your first one?
(Bring your extra liver, the first one gets worn out pretty quick!!! hee hee!)
I agree that it depends on the moment, so hypothetically if you had to choose one what would it be? I always sort of assumed that woman preferred hours of slow lovemaking while men preferred to just ‘give it some’. I realised my naivity when I got into my first serious relationship and was shocked to discover the level of domination that she enjoyed: having her hair pulled, being spanked, being thrown about and sort of overpowered, she also liked me to call her names and talk dirty to her. Now after my initial shock (I was quite young) I got into it and have found in all my subsequent relationships that my partner has enjoyed this sort of sex, although not always to that level. What I really want to know is this what most woman like? I never would just spring stuff like this on a girl I was dating (not that I would i’m in a great relationship) without making sure that she enjoyed it because i’d be very worried about freaking her out. The problem is it leaves me with this slight nagging feeling that i’m near on raping the girl. I just want to be certain that this is ‘normal’ sex. I also like being dominated and I sort of feel like i’m stuck in the middle - i.e when i’m being dominated I feel like I want to take control and when i’m dominating I worry about being to rough…
Londope?
WILLASS
Londope 23rd August
Hope to see you there! 
If I had to choose? Rough sex will get me off much quicker than slow sensual sex, so I guess I’d go for that more often, but not exclusively.
As for the rest, it’s like any relationship, you learn as you go along.
I think most people are up for slow, sensual sex all the way through to fast agressive sex, some people also want to take it further. But that’s something you find out as you get to know the person. There’s no universal “normal”, you do what feels good to you and your partner.
If ya really want to know right now, ask the person concerned!
Hard and fast or Soft and slow… like it both ways, depends on my mood at the moment.
Of all the partners I have had (admittedly a small sample) only one wanted me to treat her rough. The others would have gotten up and run out if I had tried slapping, spanking, hair pulling ,etc.
Now, I won’t say those women might not have enjoyed some vigorous hip motion, so to speak. But that’s a long way from what I gather you’re asking about.
Hard fast sex is amazing. I’m seeing my man on Saturday. I can’t wait. Rowr!
Rough sex, as in unadulterated pure lust is great, especially with silk handkerchiefs involved…
I’ll sit here and be quiet now.
I like rough sex, but I don’t want to be slapped or have my hair pulled. To me that’s delving into the s&m a little too much. A smack on the butt is ok, but I still want to be treated lovingly. I guess my definition of rough sex is harder penetration/pounding kind of stuff. That’s good.
I also don’t like too much dirty talk. “Fuck me harder” is about as dirty as I like it. Beyond that, I prefer to be complimented rather than degraded.
Give it to me hard! Romantic sex can be a nice expression of love, but it can get tragically cheesy. I’d rather have sort of in-the-middle sex than either one, but if you give me a choice between the two, I’d prefer it rough.
My wife seems to prefer rough sex more and more, though that’s just a generalization. I was very aggressive with her last weekend, and she told me later that while she would have normally loved it, she just wasn’t in the right space for it at that particular moment. No wonder I felt sort of silly afterwards…
Of course, she got her period a few days later. Those last few days at the end of her cycle are usually her “down” days in terms of libido, by her own admission. Now, of course, she’s horny as anything. laughs
It really is all a matter of timing.
Hmmm, sounds like my husband is being very diplomatic.
Speaking from the female POV, I tend to like it more on the ‘rough’ end of the spectrum. Stonebow and I engage in what I would call (for lack of a better term) light bdsm. Fuzzy handcuffs, four-poster bed, nice purple flail/whip, smack on the bottom, pulling the hair (but not hard), some dirty talk (but not insulting) when he’s feeling particularly verbose, etc.
I much prefer that scenario. It delivers those eye-bulging-total-body-shuddering orgasms that plain vanilla just can’t, BUT it take a LOT of energy and time. With three kids, two jobs, and lots of bills…it’s usually something for which I must wait patiently for the right opportunity. But that just makes it even better! Rowr!
Aggressive is good, fetish isn’t. The difference between A Spanking and the occasional slap on the ass. Hair Pulling=bad, yet somehow winding your fingers in my hair and forcibly pulling my face toward yours for a kiss=good.
Why doesn’t Cosmo write about this stuff instead of rose petals and bubble baths?
Cosmo is Sh*t.
I prefer the rough kind of sex, but if thats all I got then I’d probably want slow lovemaking. It just depends on my mood.
I remember the first time my b/f slapped my ass during sex. I wanted to laugh soo badly, but at the same it was exciting and new.
wanders off to find b/f
To qoute Eddie Murphy…
But seriously, I agree with those who have said that’s there is both a time for rough sex and a time for making love. Funnily enough, the most gentle and sensual sex I have ever had was with a one night stand. He was so slow, tender, and intent on pleasing me. I saw stars! Unfortunatly, I never saw him again. I think he was a bit of a player. (Who am I kidding? He was an incurable player!)
And on the other end of the spectrum, an ex and I had an amazing sexual chemistry that usually resulted in the roughest, hardest, most animalistic sex ever! We did have our “love making” sessions of course, but the rest of the time we were screwing from one end of the house to the other.
Ahhhh, thanks for the memories guys.