I’d like to hear opinions and solutions to my problem. My husband tends to be rather old-school about some things. Protecting his woman is one of those things. I appreciate the sentiment, but this particular incident is driving me nuts.
My son invited me into the city (Chicago) for Mother’s Day. I’ll take the train in, he’ll meet me at the station, and then we’ll go out to eat and shoot some pool. Then it’s back to his and his girlfriend’s place for movies and whatever. Then, I thought I’d babysit for her kids while he takes her out for Mother’s Day. I’d spend the night and take a train back the next day.
The problem is, he lives in Wicker Park, which can be a rough neighborhood. Just last week he was walking with his girlfriend’s son (3 years old) from the laundromat and some gangbangers rammed their car into another car and everyone pulled guns and jumped out of the cars and were running through the streets (on Easter Sunday, thankyouverymuch). No shots were fired, but it was very scary. My kid through the baby down on the ground and laid on him until the bad boys left.
Because of this, my husband told me I can’t go. Not, “honey…I don’t think it’s a good idea”, but flat-out “it’s too dangerous and there will be no discussion – you’re not going.” Obviously, this doesn’t sit well with me. I am 90% sure I’m going anyway, but I’d like to accomplish this with as little domestic trauma as possible. I understand his heart is in the right place, but I’m 47 years old and not much into being told what I can and can’t do. And he does have a point. It can be a shitty neighborhood.
What’s a mother/wife to do?