The equivalently shallow woman cares more for the length of the bank balance than the length of anything else. The assumption of those who are surprised by Tiger seems to be that the amount of satisfaction is directly proportional to the hotness of the partner, not anything else. That’s plenty shallow.
More than you probably think (31 years and counting for me.) Instead of prime rib vs McDonalds, consider it eating at a place where the chef knows your tastes and likes perfectly, rather than a random hash joint, no matter how attractive the decor.
While I certainly don’t agree with the sentiment, since I’m happy and exclusive with my wife, the T-shirt slogan, “No matter how hot she is, there’s at least one guy who’s sick of her shit,” pretty much sums up the mindset you’re looking for.
I read recently that plenty of people who cheat are happy in their marriages. It wouldn’t surprise me at all if this was the case with Tiger. I don’t think he needs to be sick of his wife. It could just be his ego getting the best of him and thinking he can get away with anything, since in most aspects of his life he’s wildly successful.
I agree that a woman who’s not independently wealthy and leaves a rich guy for an irregularly employed layabout* is going to get the same deal. A woman who leaves a remarkably handsome guy for an ugly guy of similar means will probaby also get some of the same.
- Sure, it’s not Tiger Woods money, but plumber is not the best example, IMHO.
ETA: Also, I realize Dan Savage is a professional, but I think he missed the boat on that one. Sometimes I don’t think he gets straight couples all that well. It sounds to me like that guy wants to have sex with someone he doesn’t, and doesn’t have to, respect. Not any more honorable, but I don’t see him getting in touch with his inner love for “trashy” women.
Cheat on ugly wife = immoral
cheat on hottie wife = immoral + stupid
Gotta agree, particularly with the last part. Sounds like what turns the guy in the Savage article’s crank is having sex with women he can despise (and, presumably, treat like shit while feeling superior to). It isn’t that the guy is too cowardly to admit he likes chubby women - it’s that he has a sadistic streak. The perfect partner for him isn’t a bold and beautiful self-confidently bigger lady for a loving relationship - such a woman wouldn’t have much interest for him; what he wants, seemingly, is a ‘trashy’ maschocist.
But what man who realizes women are three-dimensional human beings wouldn’t already acknowledge that they may be flawed, however gorgeous (as if it’s dependent on that)? Like people who caution men not to ‘put pussy on a pedestal’ (ugh), it manages to veer too far in the other direction.
This thread is sort of depressing. I hadn’t realized how many people were simply settling. I am no prude and have nothing against consensual NSA sex, but you’d think with all the suicidal lottery winners, unhappy millionaires and escort tell-alls out there it’d be pretty clear that having nothing but random encounters is about as fulfilling as an endless coke supply (and both can give you hepatitis).
As for the Savage thing, he may be slightly off the mark, but the fact remains that whatever the writer is turned on by, it isn’t his conventionally attractive wife. So if/when he cheats on her, I imagine his friends will wonder WTF and, perhaps, assume she wasn’t doing her wifely duty or he was tired of ‘putting up’ with her shit.
If a man is caught sleeping with a woman less attractive than his wife, people either assume that the wife is a frigid or a bitch, or that the man is out of his mind.
If a woman is caught sleeping with a man less well-off than her husband, people either assume that the lover is exceptionally good in bed, or that the woman is a slutty bitch.
In other words, the situations are not evaluated the same way, IMO. Not saying one is better than the other, but they are different.
Of course if the home kitchen’s been closed for six months, that side of fries starts looking a whole lot better.
Right. Guy wants girl because she is pretty, guy fucks girl and grows bored with the fuckage. Being pretty does not make one the world’s greatest lover, or even half decent.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
That, and also it is not necessarily “prime rib” because it looks pretty.
Okay, Mr. I-Can’t-Work-Up-Enough-Passion-About-Sex-To-Take-My-Shirt-Off-Half-The-Time, some people can get incredibly bored and may want to add little excitement to their lives and bedrooms.
Oh noes. I have been upbraided! Whatever shall I do?
:rolleyes:
Look past the end of your nose long enough to realize that I agree with you.