Why did you spoiler that? I’m pretty sure everyone knows what ink is. Not being snarky, it’s just that I don’t understand the need for ‘secrecy’ or whatever.
I understand exactly what you are getting at, Alice the Goon. I have felt the same way after a couple internet dates…and I’m not that great a catch! But it’s just that sense that, “hey, a loser like this should think I’m a catch, he’s got to be an idiot if he doesn’t” even though you are not attracted and are really glad that he isn’t either! It’s not logical at all, but it’s a reall feeling none the less. So at least ONE person in this thread understands what you were getting at!
However, I don’t care how bad it was raining, how strong and confident you feel, how many guns you might have, or how few danger vibes you felt…I never, ever let an internet date know where I live. Ever. Not until we’ve progressed to a second or third date. Now granted, when I was dating, I had younger children at home to protect. But even now, I would not let that information be readily accessible until I’m sure the guy isn’t a stalker-y type.
Well, no, they are not only used as greetings my cons, as I pointed out. What part of the country are you in?
I can’t get that song out of my head now: dunno the title, but part of it goes, “Hey now, hey now…Don’t dream it’s over/Hey now, hey now…” It’s by Crowded House.
Adding the prison subtext makes the song nonsensical but more profound, I suppose.
There’s the problem. Your skin was the wrong size.
Thanks for knowing how I felt! And yeah, you’re right- I shouldn’t invite people I don’t know to my house.
And I live in the Southwest.
Maybe he just isn’t into nice girls.
The one I have in my head is “All-Star” by Smash Mouth: “Hey now, you’re an all-star, get your game on…”
Dear sweet Lord in heaven.
I just asked an ex con friend of mine who served 20 years in the joint about the “Hey now.” and “Say now.” greetings and he’s never heard anyone say those greetings in prison ever. Also, for the record, he has no ink, nor is his upper body built with skinny legs. I’m not sure where these ex-con stereotypes come from, but I’ve never heard of them.
Apparently, there IS no widespread stereotype of ex-cons saying “Hey Now”, as evidenced by the fact that no one here (besides Alice) has ever heard of this specific supposed trait.
Alice The Goon seems to have heard it from someone, somewhere, and took it as gospel…
Really?
“Hey Now” says to me he’s a Hank Kingsley clone and you want to avoid that.
I wish the boards still had the linking shit. It’s way too much trouble to do it manually.
So although the date has no chance with you, you’d still like the opportunity to turn them down directly? Maybe you two strong modern women aren’t as confident as you suggest. You sound like a couple of self-serving madams. Best of luck to you.
There’s so much projecting here, I should come back for the matinee. Seriously though, he probably just didn’t feel it and that’s just the way it is. Anything else is over analysing the situation and not worth the time.
I must admit that it seems to me to be quite cruel for women to want men to desire them specifically in situations where the women don’t desire the men. In fact, it sounds an awful lot like wanting to have power or a feeling of superiority over others.
Say now, did you bring your gun on the first date? I gotta say, that would be a big downer for me and my libido.
Ha ha.
Hep C thrice? Your willingness to go out with this person shows you are apparently a bit more forgiving and open minded than I am.
Wah wah wah. Yes, I do have a gun at home for self-protection,** Boyo.** Are you suggesting that I shouldn’t?
As for the “hey now”, my sources are two prison guards I know, and someone that’s been in prison I know. I guess they could be wrong and you people right. But wait- he really was in prison, so maybe there’s something to that.
Jeez- I love the SDMB, where there’s always someone waiting to tell you how WRONG you are to feel, well, anything.
“Your feelings are ugly and wrong!” -Agnes Skinner
Wasn’t “hey now” also a Howard Stern thing?
Well…I suppose you don’t want to spend too much effort in making a last impression.
This would have been you que to say something like:
“GOOD!! Because I don’t want anything interferon our good time!”
Still…it has to be disheartening when a drug addict Hep C ex-con who lives with his parents tells you “I’m just not that into you.” My usually advice is to not be so picky but in this case…
I, for one, have no problem with you having a gun.
In an earlier post, you said you weren’t scared to bring him home because of that gun. Where do you keep it? Is it a pistol or what? Indulge me, and paint the scenario where he attacks you in your home and the gun saves you.