According to a very scientific online quiz that I took, I’m a bad date. I am going to reproduce the quiz below, with the answers that I chose. Perhaps you all can tell me which of my responses earned me the “Bad Date” title.
If it were up to you to plan a first date, what would you choose?
A) The latest Julia Roberts or Reese Witherspoon movie that you’ve been dying to see.
B) Dinner at a fairly nice restaurnt, paired with concert tickets.
*C) Lunch at a quiet spot with a good view.
What best describes your pre-date beauty ritual?
A) You’ll usually throw on a new shirt, spritz some perfume, and reapply your lipstick.
B) You spend an hour or so getting ready - picking an outfit, painting your nails, doing your hair.
C) You really don’t have one - unless rushing to make the date on time counts.
What do you try to find out about a guy on the first date?
A) What he’s like as a boyfriend… to see if you want to be with him.
B) What he does, where he lives… to see how good a catch he is.
*C) What he likes to do for fun… to see if you have things in common.
If your date said, “I love rollerblading. My ex and I used to go every weekend.” How would you react?
*A) You’d say, “I love rollerblading as well. Where’s your favorite place to go to blade?”
B) You’d say, “Rollerblading is nice, but my ex usually liked to take me away for the weekend.”
C) You’d say, “That sounds awesome. When did you and your ex break up?”
Over dessert, your date asks, “So why are you single?” How do you respond?
A)You’d reply, “It’s not by choice! Still waiting for Mr. Right. So why are you single?”
B)You’d reply, “Well, let’s see… my last boyfriend ended up being perpetually unemployed. The one before that was a player. Hmmm, can’t seem to meet the right guy.”
*C) You’d reply, “I guess I’m a busy girl! I just haven’t clicked with anyone yet.”
6.Your date is boring you to death, but the waiter is very cute, charming, and ringless. What do you do?
A)You corner the waiter on your way to the ladies room, and ask him for his number.
B)You smile at the waiter every time he goes by. If he seems interested, you’ll slip him a little note on the way out.
*C)You try to get through the date, but you make a mental note to come back to this restaruant next week - alone.
7.Different scenerio: your date’s going great, and you’re having an awesome conversation about places you’ve traveled. All of a sudden your cell phone rings. What do you do?
A)You reach down, see who’s calling, and then turn the phone off. You want to concentrate on your guy.
B)Answer it, and talk with your friend briefly. You purposely tell her how great the date is going.
*C)This would never happen. You turn your cellphone off before the date begins.
8.At the end of the date, what are you most likely to say?
*A)“That was so much fun. Thanks for taking me out!”
B)“Will you call me - or should I call you?”
C)“Aren’t you going to kiss me?”
So, I’ve starred my responses. Now, dopers - which ones have tipped me over into “Bad Date” territory?
Where did I go wrong?
al.
FWIW, the same site said that I was an “Awesome Girlfriend” so obviously they anticipate, despite my lack of dating skills, eventually I will get girlfriend status.
I just did that quiz myself tweaking the answers to see what would result in getting a good result. Below are the answers that resulted in getting a “Perfect Date” result :rolleyes: The person who wrote the quiz apparently thinks you’re supposed to “play hard to get”, so they probably label you a “bad date” for trying too hard or something.
If it were up to you to plan a first date, what would you choose?
* Dinner at a fairly nice restaurnt, paired with concert tickets.
What best describes your pre-date beauty ritual?
* You spend an hour or so getting ready - picking an outfit, painting your nails, doing your hair.
What do you try to find out about a guy on the first date?
* What he does, where he lives… to see how good a catch he is.
If your date said, “I love rollerblading. My ex and I used to go every weekend.” How would you react?
* You’d say, “Rollerblading is nice, but my ex usually liked to take me away for the weekend.”
Over dessert, your date asks, “So why are you single?” How do you respond?
* You’d reply, “Well, let’s see… my last boyfriend ended up being perpetually unemployed. The one before that was a player. Hmmm, can’t seem to meet the right guy.”
Your date is boring you to death, but the waiter is very cute, charming, and ringless. What do you do?
* You smile at the waiter every time he goes by. If he seems interested, you’ll slip him a little note on the way out.
Different scenerio: your date’s going great, and you’re having an awesome conversation about places you’ve traveled. All of a sudden your cell phone rings. What do you do?
* Answer it, and talk with your friend briefly. You purposely tell her how great the date is going.
At the end of the date, what are you most likely to say?
* “Will you call me - or should I call you?”
If my date flirted with the waitstaff, and talked to friends on his phone in front of me, bitched about his string of useless exes, and dropped a lot of hints about my income, I would not consider him a “perfect date.”
I can’t say where you went wrong, because to be honest, if you answered almost any of the answers on most of the questions I would be good with it. None of the answers - that I saw, I only skimmed the first few - made you unattractive to me.
Tests like that are nonsense, don’t pay any attention to them.
The trouble is trying to get laid by dating.
The true way, (described and inscribed by the ancients from Tibet to Peru) is to sit next someone at a bar at closing time.
I would much rather go out with alice than with a “Perfect Date”. Pretty much for the reasons that Glassy gave.
In fact, the only answer you gave that I’m a bit ambivalent about also happens to be the only one you got “correct”. I’d prefer it if my date didn’t feel the need to get all stressed getting ready for the date. But then again, that seems to be how women function in general, so I can cope.
Don’t listen to me. I’ve never been on an actual date.
My answers would have been exactly the same as yours, alice, except for the “pre-date beauty ritual” (I’ve never gone in for the “beauty ritual” stuff myself, on the theory that you can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear, and a sow’s ear covered with foundation and blusher doesn’t fool anyone).
I guess I am a bad date, too. Hope nobody tells the man to whom I’ve been married for 27 years. So far he’s been pretty pleased.
Well, I’m not particularly worried about it, to be honest. I just thought it was sort of weird. Certainly, for my own self, a guy flirting with the waitress, taking calls during dinner and talking about his Ex wouldn’t be getting high marks.
I just thought it was strange is all.
FWIW, the same site also told me that if I were a dessert I would be cheesecake, my pinup girl is Bettie Page, I’m an “It Girl”, and my celebrity Boob Twin is Diora Baird, among other things (can you tell I’m avoiding studying?).
In all seriousness (i.e. avoiding the opportunity to poke fun at you) the only answer I see that is even vaguely offputting is #5, and then only because it implies that you’re too busy to really be interested in being with someone else. (Personally, I’d be more than a little worried about a woman that has nothing else going on in her life other than waiting for Mr. Right to come along and sweep her off her feet, 'cause I’d never live up to that standard, but whatever.)
I don’t see any other appropriate way to answer #4 other than your selection, but then even bringing up an ex on the first date (other than to clarify some logistical or positional issue, i.e. “I’m in the process of getting a divorce,” or somesuch) would send up bright waving red flags for me. It’s either an attempt to goad someone into responding in competition, or an effort to see how guileless the date is; either way, it’s obvious button-pushing and would go about 80% of the way to resulting in a “no return engagement” decision.
You totally have me on #5. I would be beyond impressed with you for this alone. Ditto if you accidentially left it on, but hit Ignore immediately and apologize for having forgotten to turn it off. #1 also appeals; it gives you the whole “low-key, let’s see if this has any potential before trying to impress each other” vibe that is terribly rare.
You rank as a first tier date in my book…'cept for the fact that you live 2,500km away, which is a bit far for a single date, and even worse for a sleepover. Ah, well…there’s always something, isn’t there?
Pbththt. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, “Any guy who doesn’t find alice to be a great catch is gay. He may not know that he’s gay, but he’s gay. Gay, gay, gay, gay.”
Your answers to that quiz nail it. Absolutely reasonable answers to everyone of those questions and a guy who went out with you would know you were there because you were interested in him and not his wallet. He’d also know that if things didn’t work out, you wouldn’t stab him in the heart in front of everyone in the restaurant, laugh at the puzzled expression on his face and then bounce out of there with the first guy who caught your eye. Not that I’ve had that happen to me, or anything.
Another guy saying - if I were dating, I’d want my date to be the kind that chooses the same answers you did (with the possible exception of 2B; I’d happily settle for 2A.)
I think the quiz/poll is … to be charitable, let’s just say “flawed.”
