Height as an attractive factor

5’ female. Almost 5’1"! It pretty much goes without saying that guys are going to be taller than me. Height isn’t a big deal for me as long as they’re taller than me.

Male, 6’0". I prefer guys who are either slightly under my height up to modestly over. Body shape also plays into it though, because if a guy is shorter than me, it’s OK for him to be a bit slenderer, but once they get up to my height and above, I really prefer a stockier build. (Which is ok in the shorties, too.)

Female, 5’ 2’’ – I tend to be immediately attracted to taller men, but I always find the shorter ones have more staying power. They are easier to dance with, to hug, and to see. My husband is 5’7’’ and I consider this the perfect height because he is sufficiently tall to give me that heady diminutive feeling, but much more accessible than an actual tall guy.

My Aunt is 5’7’’ and married to a guy who is 6’4’’ – that seems to work for them.

And for the record, I am envious of tall women and consider them the most beautiful.

6’ tall, woman.

I mainly prefer men around my height but I’ve dated men anywhere from about 5’6 to 6’. None taller than me, though not by design just when I’m interested they don’t reciprocate.

I prefer men closer to my height though, as it’s more comfortable. It’s easier to cuddle, and other activities seem to work better sometimes when there is more even height happening. It’s nice to feel small and feminine but that happens rarely for me.

5’7" tall, woman. I go crazy over tall, bearish, masculine men, but the kind who like me tend to be 5’9"-5’10" and slender. I love wearing high heels whenever I can, so I often look taller than my guy. Height isn’t a big issue for me, though I can’t remember dating anyone shorter than myself.

I’m a guy 6’1" and I find tall women very sexy, it’s the long legs that just kill me.

I’m a 5’10" guy. I’ve dated women 4’8" to >6’. Looks-wise, I usually prefer short/petite women, like 5’4" or shorter, but for everything else, I prefer them to be closer to my height. My last girlfriend was exactly my height, and it was great being able to look into her eyes or kiss her without feeling like I was towering over her. (On her side, though, she disliked the lack of height differential, and wished I was taller.)

6’4’’ guy here. I prefer shorter women, despite the fact that I am tall. My current gal is 5’8’’. I tend to go for women around that height or shorter. I can’t explain why. I have a friend a touch taller than me whose wife is 5’1’’. I’m not sure I could cope with that height difference. I think more than a foot difference and it starts to get comical.

Nope. :slight_smile: I’m sure that like most women, I used to list ‘tall’ among the positive attributes for a potential mate, but over the years I’ve been attracted to several not so tall/short/shorter men as well. I ended up marrying one of the shortest men I could find (5’2"). I’m almost 5’8".

5’9 male
I am always initially intimidated by chicks taller than me, especially those with some legs. Which is a bummer cause I dig them stems.

I realize that most American guys in my preferred height range (within 3-4 inches of me) aren’t likely to be attracted to me because I’m a wee bit over 5’9". I also realize that, because I’m not a waifish 5’9", there are even fewer men that find tall milkmaid builds attractive within that range. The main result is that I honestly don’t believe that most people find me attractive and that I view flirting and extra attention with suspicion rather than flattery most of the time.

To balance this out, I also have a completely different conception of what’s short and tall than many of my friends. Because I’m tall and most of the family friends I grew up around were tall (especially the women-- they were all within 2 inches of my height on either side), it doesn’t occur to me that a man is “really tall” until he’s 6’6" or taller. Women, on the other hand, are mentally labeled “short” if they’re 5’5" or shorter; if surrounded by women who are under 5’5" in tall heels, I feel like I’m at a midget convention.

My fiancé is between 5’7" and 5’8" and it works out really well because he’s within a few inches of me in height. I wouldn’t trade him for a taller guy any day, and he can still pick me up and carry me about like I’m a tiny little thing, which is a mixture of disconcerting and fun.

Female, 5’7". Height is never one of the initial factors for me; I’ve been attracted to men shorter than me, men several inches above 6’, and everywhere in between. As someone else mentioned, I confine my shallowness to liking a good conversationalist and a cute face. :wink:

My boyfriend is about 5’6". If he’s wearing shoes and I’m wearing flats, we look about the same height. I only rarely wear heels, and then neither of us cares that I tower a bit. And I’ve discovered other advantages - first and foremost, no sore neck!

However, I have an irrational prejudice against tiny women. I’m suspicious of them. I have plenty of short friends my age, and I don’t hold that against them (though I do hold things over them, and they can’t do a thing about it). But those doll-like strangers, with their tiny little appendages? They’re up to something. I know it.

I blame this on none of the women in my family being particularly short or, if they are short, not petite. Also, in high school I was convinced I was too tall to ever find a boyfriend (thus the 6’4" guy) and was therefore jealous of itty bitty cheerleader types. I’ve outgrown the insecurity, but the prejudice survives!

I’m 5’5’’, female. I prefer 5’9’’ and up.
Like Audrey Levins, I like feeling like a girl when I’m with a guy. I wear heels all the time, so he’s gotta be around a head taller.
I’ve dated one shorter guy and I think his discomfort rubbed off on me.

Thanks everybody for the replies. It’s been really interesting seeing people’s opinions!

I just squeak in under 5’1 and am female.

I find I’m attracted to guys anywhere between 5 and 6 feet. More than 6 is too tall for little me :smiley: .

Not that I categorically rule out guys outside of that range (on either side) - I’m just not naturally attracted to them.

Female, a little taller than average. I tend to like guys between 5ft6 and 5ft11. Taller and, I don’t know, I feel like I can’t relate or something. I do find it odd when my girlfriends, particularly the shorter ones, talk about only going for tall guys. Of course, what they say and what they do don’t always match up…

6’6" male

I love me a tall girl but I can’t ever seem to find them. I’ve dated one girl who was 6’2" and it was amazing but in general my girlfriends have been in the <5’6" range, it’s frustrating and I don’t think I will ever be with a short girl for more then a month or so. I’m on a kick now where I’m refusing to date anyone shorter then 5’6", of course I haven’t been on a date since October.

Hello! :smiley:

5’9 is not tall. I’m 5’10 and my sister is taller than I am. My father was 6’2 and my cousins are taller still. (My mom’s side was shorter.) I’ve always considered myself average in height, and in my family, that’s exactly true.

Imagine my surprise to find myself crowded into a bus shelter a few years ago and standing head and shoulder over everyone else in it. There have been a number of times when I’ve looked down the subway platform and been able to see over the heads of 90% of the people there.

Then again I see the occasional person who needs to duck to get through the door of the subway car…

Male. 5’ 10". Very athletic/fit.

The taller a girl is, the more my heart races, especially if she is athletic/fit.

Ironically, my heart flutters when I encounter a very petite female is who athletic/fit, say 5’ or shorter.

My shortest girlfriend was 4’ 8" tall and very fit and my tallest girlfriend was 6’3" tall and fairly fit. Both got my motor running like there was no tomorrow. The 6’ 3" GF would have done anything for me, and if I ran into her today we’d hit it off again – no doubt.

That being said, the two most stunning females I have ever had the pleasure of dating were 5’ tall and 6’1". Jennifer and Mindy. God bless diversity!

I always wondered if there was something odd about me, because although I do find women of all heights attractive, my stomach gets butterflies and my heart races for those girls who are in the lower percentiles height-wise. Under 5’ and over 6’ = awesome.

And for the very tall ladies who have a rule about not dating shorter men, I always remind them that I know they never liked being treated differently because of their height and I find their position on dating height limits to be hypocritical. It actually landed me a date with someone who was discounting me out of hand because she was taller than me.

Female, 5’5".

While I tend to be initially attracted to taller guys (usually 5’10" or more), I’ve never ruled out a guy specifically because of height.

Good thing I didn’t… The Boy is 5’4". :slight_smile: Considering that every guy I dated in the year before I met him was in the 6’4" - 6’1", it was actually quite refreshing to be able to kiss someone without having to go on tip-toes or get a crick in my neck.

It helps that he’s secure enough to stand next to me even if I’m wearing 3" heels, though.