Alright, I admit it. I’m paranoid. I am 5’8", and I consider myself just under average height. Of course, I always find myself attracted to taller women, and every time I have gone out with a taller woman, she loses interest quickly.
No more beating around the bush. My question is this: what is your minimum height for entry on the roller coaster?
Seriously! Please, don’t tell me that it’s the personality or the sense of humor. Poppykosh! I need honest, dig-deep answers, here!
What I really want to know is, am I ever going to be some 6-foot woman’s dream guy?
Poop on my dreams if you must!!
P.S. Please no psychobabble about self-fulfilled prophecies when I date taller women. I’m aware of that factor, and I have chosen to be the bigger person (ha ha) and overcome that bit of baggage.
Ok. I swear I’m not trying to make you feel better. I just don’t see what the big deal is.
I’m 5’8 and my husband Chris is 5’3. It’s never mattered much to me, and actually now that I think of it, many (not all)
of the guys that I’ve been madly attracted to have been shorter than I.
When I first started seeing Chris, I was worried about whether he felt uncomfortable, so I slouched a little and wore flats, which I hated. Apparently, me being tall doesn’t bother him much, so now I’m back to my platforms and high heels. On occasions where we have to be presented in front of a lot of people, however, I go back to the flats for his family’s and friends’ sake.
Of course, if I saw that a guy thought that difference in height was a big deal, I probably would not go out with him. Short, fine. Short and insecure about it, not.
Well, my husband is 5’5", and I’m just shy of 5’8". It’s never been an issue for me, although it’s an issue for a lot of other women, and sometimes an issue for him. When we were first dating, he’d get all weird if we went someplace dressy and I wore heels. He’d be all tiptoeing and standing on steps above me and silly shit like that. He eventually got over it, though.
For me, at least, it really is the person, not the height. If he’d been 5’2", it wouldn’t have made a difference. However, if he’d been boring, or not had a sense of humor about it, or if we just weren’t compatible, I would have lost interest quickly, no matter if he was 5’ 5" or 6’5".
I’m 5’5" and I’ve dated guys just a bit taller than I am (5’7"-ish). I don’t have a particular cut-off, but if I look at my dating history there tend to be more taller (6’+) guys than shorter ones.
I’m 5’1, and my current boyfriend is like 5’8 or 5’9. I probably wouldn’t want a guy any shorter than 5’3 or 5’4, but height is not really high up on my dating criteria list.
My husband is 5’2 and I’m 5’1. I had a boyfriend who was 6’0 so height really doesn’t matter to me that much. It does bother my husband and he doesn’t like me to wear heels. Luckily, I hate heels so that doesn’t come up often. He also didn’t like it when I downloaded a mp3 of Short People Have No Reason to Live.
OK I must REALLY have a mind saturated in gutter flotsam. Was I really the only person to think he was going to ask about something else other than his height??
BTW Reckless Humor get over the height thing. Everyone knows what women look for.
I’m 5’5" and the fiancee is 5’10". Absolute cut-off? Probably around 5’7" (Reckless Humor, you’re in!!). A lot of really has to do with how “safe” I feel next to him. It’s really old fashioned, but a guy can be 6’ tall, but I feel like I could beat him up, he’s out.
For me a guy being shorter is not an issue (I’m only 5’), but I can empathise.
From talking to my more statuesque friends, it seems to me tall women don’t find shorter men unattractive, it’s more that they are themselves paranoid about feeling gawky, clumpy and awkward. Hence the “need” to wear flat shoes.
If you reassure her that you think she’s gorgeous, and that you love her height, and your own, the battle is half won.
I’m 5’6" and I agree with Juanita, 5’10" is my cutoff too. Shallow? maybe, but my reason is practical too, for dancing a 5’6" woman, and a 6 foot man have the PERFECT height disparity for spins, turns and lifts.
Mmmm, good point, other than my desire to have my dance partner ALSO be my lover, and not being all that tall myself, I wouldn’t mind a shorter guy (if a shorter guy turned out the be “the one” height wouldn’t be an issue), but he’d BETTER not be skinny (though I think jimwicked meant she prefers not too overweight).
I would date a short guy LONG before I’d give the time of day to a skinny man. Not only do I find skinny men a vast physical turnoff, every single blasted one I’ve known has been as mean as a snake.
I’ll go along with this. My baby sister is six-foot-two-and-a-half, and I know she feels very self-conscious. She probably feels like being with a shorter guy would just make her height that much more obvious.
My husband and I are almost exactly the same height, depending on who’s wearing what shoes (5’9"-ish). His dad is quite a bit shorter than his mom.
I’m 5’8", and although I’ve dated guys down to about 5’6", I’ve never had a bf who was shorter than 6’0", and they’ve gone up to about 6’4". Shallow of me, I know, but I love tall.
I’m 5’1". I like 'em short! I don’t think I’ve ever dated anyone shorter than 5’5", though. I really don’t know how I’d feel dating someone shorter than me, but in reality that’s not likely to happen anyway, so I’ve never worried about it.
