I think horrible cluelessness is probably inherent, although I think if you stop caring, and let things lapse badly, it can develop. I think the trick is not coasting and assuming everything is perfect and the other person is telepathic. Or letting resentment build without talking about it.
I have a really good marriage, although I guess we’re still newlyweds, too, but it isn’t modelled on my parents’, which is… not awful, but not very functional. We figured out stuff like “Be nice” and How to Argue Without Shouting on our own.
Driving Husband and Mr. Lissar were just here, and have gone off to their respective Places of Punching People. Mr. Lissar’s at the dojo, and Driving Husband is at Systema, punching sweaty Russians.
Calm down, donkeybear.
ETA: I forgot! This is both hilarious and really really sad. Watch it! (No dead children. Just fun)
I can’t wait for this week to be over. Honestly, how did I manage to put up with irrational ranting customers for nearly four years without losing my mind? I guess I built up an immunity to the screaming and yelling and incoherent emails, but apparently being away for 18 months doing interesting work took away that immunity.
Seriously, if I start rolling my eyes at work any more than I am already, they’re gonna fall right out of my head.
And, re: LiLi’s video link: it’s RAINBOWS. Not RAINBOW’S. AAARGH. (I’m not even touching the rest, not with a ten foot metal oxide pole)
Please tell me this nutcase hasn’t had kids… the pollution I’m really concerned about at the moment is her genes being passed into the gene pool. :rolleyes:
Hey, you’re preaching to the choir. I’m just transcribing it, not buying into it. But just think, if they didn’t have this crap, all these consultants wouldn’t be able to justify their existence while [del]swindling[/del] getting paid large sums by stupid corporations!
That woman is kee-razy! Did you see her description? It includes gems like:
I think she’s misplaced her tinfoil hat!
Have I ever mentioned that Rusty is STUPID? I gave the dogs their dinner, and then a neighbor made loud noises with his lawnmower that Rusty interpreted as thunder. Whereupon he instantly stopped eating and started pouting like there’s a storm approaching. There’s storms 30 miles away, but right now there’s only little puffy white clouds overhead. Stupid dog!
Papa Tigs is going to meet the only surviving WWI veteran tomorrow. Mr. Buckles is 107 years old, and lied about his age to enlist. Is that cool or what?
Hullo. It’s me. I’m beat. Got groceries today and made everyone get their own supper. SIL had chili, **FCD ** had cereal, I had a ham-n-swiss sammich. Boston cream pie for dessert.
I’m gonna be a bum today. Tomorrow, I’ll attack the garage in earnest.
Oh, sure, come in here with a gracious apology, just as I was getting up a head of steam. Men! I’m watching you, bb… :dubious:
I am home from a nice day at work. I do like this one coworker a lot–she’s fun and nice and knows her stuff. She makes work pleasant.
Re the cluelessness or whatever we’re calling with men these days. I really couldn’t say. If you were found to be in distress, no one could be more helpful or nice than my husband. He is courteous, kind and friendly (to women). But if you happen to be married to him–you have no needs, you can always be put on the back burner; he will not listen. He once came home to tell me he had run into a mutual acquaintance on the commuter train and he had listened to her tell about her marital woes for the hour long journey. I needed that wet trout, then. I couldn’t get him to go to more than 2 marital counseling sessions! Amy (the acquaintance) got an hour (she later told me what a good listener he is. Like hell). :rolleyes: He gives the kids short shrift, too. I’ve never understood it. No one wants to listen to all things all the time, but it’s just as uncommon to have someone never listen at no time, right? I know, I know–nothing is one sided. but he is here but not here. He is not emotionally present in the house or our marriage. He is courteous but distant. It’s cold and leads to an inappropriate formality.
Was he always like this? Yes, to some degree. It has intensified and worsened over the years. He used to at least call me by my name. Then he changed to “honey”–ok. Now I’m called nothing–I am not referred to at all. I can’t remember the last time I was called Eleanor. It’s “your mother” or “us”. It’s very weird and it only slowly dawned on me.
So, he is definitely someone you want to change your flat tire. He is not someone you want with you when you get your cancer diagnosis or go into labor.
Does that help? I am guilty of using this thread as my therapist, again. Sorry!
Taters–I think it was you who asked. Daughter is at BU, undergoing frosh orientation. She’s as happy as a pig in sh*t. And #1 son has arrived at The Antipodes! They are in Melbourne as I type. yay!
I’ve forgotten (already) what anyone else needed or said. :rolleyes: My brain no worky. Good luck on the job bid, Pie.
Being a bum can be a full time task. Good luck with that, Vundie.
She may not have noticed it 20 years ago, but 40 years ago, I loved the prism effect water had on sunlight. I wouldn’t run through the sprinklers - I’d stare at the “rainbow’s” and sing songs to them.
IMnsHO - the woman is an idjit!
Woo hoo, Pie, that’s a great opportunity!!! Good luck!
Glad you don’t have appendicitis, Bobbio.
Rainbow lady is SCARY ignorant. Perhaps Cecil needs to do a column in response to her questions. And, yeah, the spelling was orijinull.
I was in a meeting at work until almost 6:00. Far too long. I’m exhausted. Came home and made sketties with a fresh tomato and avocado sauce. Don’t ask me why, it just sounded good.
Now I have to make about one million phone calls. I think I’ll have some ice cream while I’m on the phone.
What a maroon! Can she really have gotten through all of school and never encountered a prism or water? It was funny until I realized that she can (and probably does) vote. Gah.
I know, I know–nothing is one sided. but he is here but not here. He is not emotionally present in the house or our marriage. He is courteous but distant. It’s cold and leads to an inappropriate formality.