I just found out last weekend that one of my dearest friends is getting married. It’s taken me a little while to get over the initial shock, as my friend only met her fiance because my boyfriend and I introduced them, and they’ve been together for a significantly less time. Plus, she’s my first close friend to get married. So when she asked me to be a bridesmaid, I realized that I know absolutely nothing about all of this wedding business.
Now, it’s my understanding that the real responsibility falls on the maid of honor, so technically I shouldn’t have much of a job. However, her maid of honor is a mutual friend of ours going to school in Arizona, which makes her pretty much incapable of doing much of anything. The future bride has asked me to try to take over the MOH’s duties, and that, my friends, is where I’m clueless. I know I’m supposed to throw a shower, I think. Or something.
For those of you who will complain that she should just make me MOH, please understand that we are all close friends, but the MOH is much closer to the bride and has been friends with her longer. If I were to be MOH, I would be putting myself in the middle of their friendship, so I would rather the MOH keep the title, even if I end up doing her job.
A couple of details: The wedding is in March 2004, and we’re all young, fresh college students. Budgets are somewhat tight, but we have even less time than money (given that we all have busy college schedules, and the wedding is in less than six months). And even though the wedding is pretty soon, no, she is not pregnant. I’m a huge fan of Etiquette Hell, so I know what not to do, but not much about what I need to do.
Surely we have some former maids of honor, bridesmaids, and even best men to give me some ideas! Not only do I need to know some of my basic duties, great ways to take on those basic duties would be very much appreciated. I’d like to go above and beyond the call of duty, but I’m not sure how!