A good friend of mine is 34, and she does not know if she’s ever had an orgasm. She’s had a fair amount of lovers and enjoys sex very much. We had a frank talk about masturbation, and I told her that I had trouble with the big O until I learned how to create it myself.
One of the things that helped me in my quest was the surprise arrival of a Sex Box, sent parcel post by my lover at the time. He went on a shopping spree at Good Vibrations in San Francisco, consulted with the nice ladies who run the place, and bought me a little of everything. Some things were strictly for laughs or designed for use with a (kinky) partner, and some have become Maggie’s trusted little helpers.
I want to make a similar box for my friend.
For the basics, I’m thinking:
Jelly vibe
Waterproof massager or vibe for tub or shower
Silicone dildo
Lube
What else should I throw in there? Some Anne Rice erotica? An Anais Nin reader? A copy of the film Bound (I’m straight, but Gina Gershon never fails to do it for me). Aren’t there some books like Sex for One out there? Any other toys or notions you can suggest?
magdalene–you’re a good woman ::wipes tear from eye:: Will you be my friend too?
As for your box, I’d definitely throw in some erotica writings. That flushed, squirmy, can’t wait to turn the page feeling is delicious, and should lead to interesting things, especially if your friend has trouble getting “in the mood” for self-love. Anal beads and Ben Wa balls can be fun too, depending on how open-minded your pal is.
Also, maybe you could include a catalogue from an adult toy supplier, so your friend can browse a little after she’s tried what you supply.
You might also want to consider getting a massage attachment for the shower. There’s all kinds of them out there, and most are small enough to include in a medium to large size box.
If that fails tell her to mount her washer/dryer and set it on heavy load.
Now you’re what I call a great pal, Mags! Your friend is bound (ha!) to love the box. Hell, I love it myself. I strongly suggest Anaïs Nin. Let me put it this way: it works.
How about chocolate? That’ll put her in the mood, too. You seem to have covered all the bases, it’s a great ‘start-up kit’. And just to be practical: plenty of batteries.
Well, masturbation guru Betty Dodson says don’t leave home without your Hitachi Magic Wand (check her website). I know you’ve already listed a massager, but your friend might need something with a little more staying power (plugs in rather than using batteries). I bought one for my wife and she loves it when I use it on her.
Or recommend that she find a lover who will go down on her. I’ve found that cunnilingus will help even the most reluctant clitoris to stand up and have a fit.
And remind her that it might take some time and the proper atmosphere: no distractions, time pressures, rug rats nearby, etc.
I’ve got a great idea, you could put me in the box! I’m quite sure that would solve all of your friends problems. Oh wait…non-slobbery? Dammit! Nevermind…
mags, what about lingerie? I’m not talking the crotchless-panty, latex-and-leather variety necessarily, but something like a chemise or something that she can wear to put her in the mood and make her feel pretty without being over the top? Possibly some fragrant oils like patchouli (if that isn’t too hackneyed)?
