Be serious now, people. I’m curious what the consensus of the Teeming Millions is.
My daughter’s BF is celebrating his 18th birthday tonight by going to a local strip club with his older brothers and some other guys. Apparently in his family it’s considered a male rite of passage. She is feeling very cross about it, especially because, knowing that she’d be upset, they told her they were doing something else tonight (“They LIED to me!” :eek: ) She related all this in tones of deepest outrage, and asked me what I thought.
So I told her, reluctantly, because I knew she wasn’t gonna want to hear it, that my take on it was that she’s not his wife, so she isn’t entitled to a whole lot of say in what he does when he’s not with her. She wouldn’t be entitled to demand that he stay away from, say, the zoo, or Wal-Mart, so why should a strip joint be any different?
Also, that’s it’s perfectly understandable, if reprehensible, that they lied to her about it (it would be nice if people could always be honest with each other, but…) They knew she’d be upset, so in their crude masculine way they were actually trying to avoid hurting her feelings.
She was not pleased. She departed in a huff to go over to a girlfriend’s house to do the Female Solidarity thing.
So now I wonder what the Teeming Millions think.
If it makes a difference: she’ll be 18 in a month; they’ve been “dating steady” for over a year; they’ve been friends for nearly three years; I actually don’t know whether they’re sleeping together or not. They’re an old established couple in their set, so I would think that they know each other pretty well.
Does she have the right to dictate that he avoid strip clubs, or the zoo, or Wal-Mart?