i myself just discovered this message board for the first tiem tonight becaus ei need my own advise on whether or not i should go to rehab. i have a2year old beautiful baby girl,… i was clean from the dya i found out i was pregnant, and would have had 3 years clean october 17th had inot relapsed with old friends,… now since my relase,… i have lost my job,… am about to lose my apartment because i owe 3months rent because i shot all the money,… and got arrested,… which eventually ended up in me losing the only person in this world that i really care about,… my baby girl. now,… as of right now, the court system isnt involved,… my mom and her father just pretty much are watching her for a little while so i can get some recovery,… but its horrible i think. i had, at 23 years old, a beautiful baby, a shitty but good paying job, and my own apartment,… now,… i want to go to rehab but im afraid, because if i do i dont want my dauighter’s father to go for custody as soon as i sign myself in, i dont trust the mother fucker, even though we have been on good terms. he actualy just wanted me to go to an outpatient program,… but at first i didnt want to,. so at first,. i got clean for liek 2 weeks, and started using again and was just going to sign myself into rehab,… but now im thinking maybe thats a bad diea. i dont know. i dont know what i should do and i need advise,… i want my daughter back, but i want to be that best mother i can be for her and if that means going to rehab and getting intense therapy,… so be it. i jsut dont know. advise please,… because i dont want to die,… i dont want my daughter to grow up without a mother,. or with a mother that is a drug addict and cant take care of her properly. i just want to be the best mother i can be for her and i need advise on what i should do…please[/COLOR]
I went to the trouble of editing the OP’s message for clarity and style, just to make it more readable because I do hope she gets advice and I want it to be easier for people to read what she wrote.
I myself just discovered this message board for the first time tonight because I need my own advice on whether or not I should go to rehab. I have a 2year old beautiful baby girl… I was clean from the day I found out I was pregnant, and would have had 3 years clean October 17th had I not relapsed with old friends.
Now since my release… I have lost my job… am about to lose my apartment because I owe 3 months rent because I shot all the money,… and got arrested, which eventually ended up in me losing the only person in this world that I really care about… my baby girl. Now, as of right now, the court system isn’t involved… my mom and her father just pretty much are watching her for a little while so I can get some recovery, but its horrible I think. I had, at 23 years old, a beautiful baby, a shitty but good paying job, and my own apartment… now… I want to go to rehab but I’m afraid, because if I do I don’t want my daughter’s father to go for custody as soon as I sign myself in - I don’t trust the motherfucker, even though we have been on good terms.
He actually just wanted me to go to an outpatient program… but at first I didn’t want to. So at first, I got clean for like 2 weeks, and started using again and was just going to sign myself into rehab… but now I’m thinking maybe that’s a bad idea. I don’t know. I don’t know what i should do and i need advice… I want my daughter back, but I want to be that best mother I can be for her and if that means going to rehab and getting intense therapy, so be it.
I just don’t know. Advise please, because I don’t want to die…I don’t want my daughter to grow up without a mother, or with a mother that is a drug addict and can’t take care of her properly. I just want to be the best mother I can be for her and i need advice on what I should do…please.
wow…clarity and style? first of all,… it was relapse not release, and second of all,… worry abotu the stye of ur own thread, k thanx. that was pretty rude and unneccessary. if u could figure it out, im pretty sure they could too. anybody else care to correct my typos,… or write what they think i meant??
forget it. later
Eh, don’t even worry about that.
Yes, you should get clean, and if it takes rehab, and it often does, then that’s what it takes. You’re far from the first person to realize that holy shit, it’s hard to beat by yourself.
Here’s what I think – what’s the alternative, right? Rehab or… what? Just keep rolling the dice? You’ve lost enough already by avoiding rehab, it seems.
Why do you think it would be a bad idea? I understand the concern about your child, but I would guess that you want the child to be taken care of. If that’s the case, you do what you need to do for yourself and for the child. Right now, that means getting whatever help you need, which is a decision that’s up to you.
You know what, I was honestly trying to help. I did it with the best of intentions.
This message board caters to the educated. The people here take the writing of posts correctly and concisely very seriously - people who can’t write do not last long here. But, because I sympathized with your problems, I edited your post because I knew that if I didn’t, others here would blow it off. Why? Because it’s hard to read posts that are not well-written. This is a fact.
I’m really sorry if I offended you; you have overreacted in the extreme. I was trying to help. What matters is that your message gets through, if you want peoples’ advice.
Ouch. Reread Argent Towers’ opening paragraph – it was well meant, helpful, and a kind thing to do. Having just discovered these Boards, you may not have seen enough threads to know that if you post an uncapitalized, hard-to-parse OP, you’ll likely get a handful of catcalls and hoots about it, dragging your post off topic and in circles. It’s not as bad as at some boards, but posts are easily taken off track. Argent merely offered a helping hand, forestalling and likely preventing that, and doing you a favour.
I understand how it can come across as jarring, though. I guess I’m trying to point out that his comment was meant to be (and was) helpful. Good luck.
i know i definitely need help,… i kind of want to go to rehab,… but my father is telling me that as soon as i sign in, its going to be on paper that i have a problem and that if her father does take me to court its going to look really bad,… but i already got a wandering in a drug zone charge anyway, so its already on paper. i just didnt get caught actually with a dirty urine or having anyting on me. im just afraid from all angles…
i know she probably meant well,… it just seemed kinda rude thats all 
If you think you need to go to rehab, then you need to go to rehab. I’m not sure what else you would do and this is not the kind of thing you take chances with.
He was trying to help. Anyway, let’s move on with the topic.
this message board caters to the educated,… see,… its the things that u write and the way u say them that makes people leave these forums. people come here for help, or to talk about random things, not to be given an english lesson.
he,… whoops, anyway, whis is getting rediculously off topic. but my main question is, so u think it will hurt me, if it does go to court?
I know it must happen, but in my experience no one has ever gotten better on their own. Skipping out on rehab, putting rehab off, taking “just one more day” to start on the road to recovery puts recovery further away.
The risk you face of going into rehab is enormous. But it’s much smaller than the risk of not going. To keep one more day, or to try for a better arrangement means, most likely, that you’ll lose far more than your trying to protect.
I miss my friends.
oh n btw,… pointless mundane things i must share was a cute place to move it to as well,… apparently my recovery and addiction is a pointless and mundane thing to share about,… its no suprise people dont stay here long.
With all the complaining about spelling and now this forum, you don’t seem very focused on your problem. But in any case this is a forum for “general discussion: from frivolous chatter to deep thoughts; from harmless diversions to life-changing announcements.” People talk about all kinds of serious issues in here and this is the right place for your thread. I am not saying your problem is unimportant.
There is serious stuff in this forum. This is where we have death notices, memorials, people posting about sorrow and loss of their loved ones; don’t let the name fool you, it is far from a “cute” place. It’s just what our “general discussion” forum happens to be named.
I hope you get the advice you need here. But people who criticize this place so much on their first day rarely last long. Learn about this board here, understand it, and you will benefit from it.
yeah,… and while im battling my addiction i have about 10 to 20 friends that are battling it as well,. and while my daughter and myself are the most important i cant help but to try to stay in my friends lives and help them since they really want it too,… but we’re just so bad, sometimes it requires more than that. i dont know. i just feel like everything is fallin apart. i called the local rehab for the past 2 days and finally talked to a woman and she told me that there was no more government funding, to call back at the end of december. so thats another problem i face.
im just trying to get advise and i feel like all thats being focused on are my typos. i guess pointless just was like ouch. idk
i just dont know