Bucky, darling, you’re going to have a ghastly time spanking through all my layers of petticoats . . . Usually when Ike and I travel together I wear a riding habit . . . Don’t know why, really; but he said something about “liking to ride sidesaddle.”
I see in my room you have an old print of Mel, back when she was the darling of the music halls! Ah, to hear her once again singing, “It’s all been done before, but not the way I do it!” Makes Mrs. Langtry look a cropper, if you ask me.
Eve, dash it all, YOU’RE the one who insisted I play “Monk and the Choirboy” with you. Probably just a fiendish plot to prevent me from further punishment of Katherine.
She’s French you know.
The maid.
The French maid.
Canthearya, Ike calls out from the billiards room that your level fear depends entirely on, and I’m quoting him here, “how deliciously naughty the scalawag has been.”
Bucky
Oh, well. We can always make more killbots.
I’ve heard Dr. Dobson’s reasoning about using something other than your hand. In California, it’s actually illegal to use ANYTHING other than your hand.
On my 3 1/2 yr old son, I spank him w/my hand. The main reason that I do this is that I will always know the force being used; with an instrument you can hit your child harder than you realize. Royalbill, you may want to rethink that particular part of your discipline routine… everything else you stated was right on.
Fortunately, in my son’s case, it’s mostly the threat of a spanking that keeps him in line. When I do spank, the force is usually lighter than when I am playfully smacking his booty. So, for him, I don’t have to spank him hard, it’s the fact that I am so disappointed in his behavior combined w/a little smack on the bottom, and that will do it.
I believe the concept came from Dr. Dobson…but I might be wrong. My wife actually read the book.
The idea is mainly psychological I am sure…My wife tells a store about her and her sister. When ever their dad would stand up and adjust his belt, they would experience a moment of fear because that was what he spanked with. Likewise, a child that cringes when ever a parent reaches for them, because they don’t know if that parent is about to spank or just wipe thier chin. When I reach for my children they know that they are okay. When I reach for the rod, they know they are in trouble. They dont have to wonder…its crystal clear…That is what I mean by researving my hands for loving and the rod for disipline.
Heaven…One to beam up!
RoyalBill, I see your point but still couldn’t bring myself to use some kind of instrument. My ex-husband used an instrument on my son (before he turned three) and left a very large bruise on his leg. He doesn’t think that he caused the bruise, but he admitted to using a 2-ft long paddle. Duh!! What else could it be? (but that’s another story!) My only conclusion to that whole mess was that my ex had no idea how hard he was spanking him. (BTW, it is now court-ordered that my ex cannot use corporal punishment on him.)
In my son’s case, even though I use my hand to spank him, he knows when he’s about to be spanked and knows when he’s being loved. Even when I play & pretend like I really am mad, he always knows the difference; I cannot fool him. He is an absolute angel whenever I take him to a babysitter or to the nursery in church… of course, he saves his orneriness for ME! So far, by the Grace of God, I think I am doing ok. My son is a very happy child and he’s very content and loving. I’m constantly showering him w/praise and w/love; he’s definitely a secure child.
Over here, we have a BIG problem. The law varies between the States. In some, spanking you child with a biblical rod would get you sent to jail for assault. In others, it would be frowned on but you’d probably get off with a warning.
In some, you may spank your child, but leave no marks. In others laying a finger of the little darling can get you a night in jail and a day in court, a stiff fine, community service, a registration with Child Welfare and frequent checks. PLUS, all the kid has to do is tell his teacher that you struck him, even if you did not and it all starts all over again.
In some places if you spank your child in public – say like for deliberately wiping out the Campbell’s soup section of the grocery store – a citizen can – and has – call the law and you will be arrested.
Our teachers MAY NOT lay a hand on a child, even to grabbing him by the arm if he is not behaving. They can be harassed, threatened, and ignored and still not be allowed to touch a kid. (Which is probably why we are having problems in the schools.)
I have known of a parent slapping his teenaged girl in the face for refusing to obey him about going out too late and mouthing back at him and she called the cops, who arrested him and carted him off to jail, informing him that he could not EVEN SLAP HIS OWN CHILD. He left a red mark but not bruise or swelling.
A guy I know broke up a fight between two boys on his own front lawn and had to grab one to pull him off of the other and was sworn at. He sent the boy on his way with a threat to slap him. Within an hour the father was back and THREATENING to sue the guy, and the other boys father had the cops show up because he, as an adult, touched his kid physically in the act of trying to break up a fight the kid was LOOSING.
When we loose control of being able to discipline our children, they loose respect for adults, which is obvious, but still the Children’s Rights people keep pushing laws to stop all forms of physical punishment to children.