I volunteer (alot), we are skeptical about unattached men suddenly coming in cold and asking to join. Its not unheard of, though. Most of my groups are mostly women we have a few long timers who are men and a couple of sons of women who work with us. So pick a group carefully, you don’t want to scare anyone. I like the library idea, that can be pretty co-ed. Good luck.
I’ve found that everyone loves you if you can cook tasty dishes and/or paint paintings. If you can read you can cook and it only takes a few really tasty recipes. And most people don’t believe this anyone can learn to draw and produce art. It can even be done with no drawing ability at all. And so far as I know no one tends to be suspicious of single guys should you decide to take classes or join clubs. You do need to be friendly and open though. If you give off a withdrawn vibe like you don’t want to be approached then people will keep their distance.
If you look at the news, that backpages website got shut down by the FBI today.
Males like me in the US are running out of options if they can’t get lucky with a nice girlfriend. Things are looking increasingly bleak…
I just kinda wish they would have done this earlier, because at least then I would have saved a large sum of money…
Sounds to me like that’s clinical depression talking. I know quite a few people who’ve been helped by the meds that are available today. I’d suggest you do yourself a favor and get checked out.
Do you have a certain type of girl-physical type-that you prefer that you may need to be a bit more flexible with when it’s with real-life partners and not transactional ones?
You don’t get ‘lucky’ with a nice girlfriend.
You live as the kind of person that a nice girl is interested in, attracted to, and wants to be with.
But, I have some bad new for ya, bud. You’re probably not gonna find a girlfriend that is as high on the 1-10 scale as the ones that let you pay them to bone.
But if you want someone nice…yeah, there are plenty of nice women out there. Good luck figuring it out.
Not really.
Then if you had to say why you haven’t been successful with the real-life women, what would you answer(s) be? (sorry if you’ve already addressed this)
Having a relationship with a woman isn’t “luck”. It does typically involve more than just treating her as a means to sexual release, though.
I think it’s down to 4 factors
- I’m never in any environment that is conducive to forming relationships
- I have a very limited social life
- I’m quiet, reserved, and heavily ‘introverted.’
- I have incredibly bad ‘luck.’
Many men who do this actually don’t have much of a problem bedding women or even getting relationships. Just saying.
Well, yea you’re gonna need to fix at least 2 of those probs. Get out of the house, go to a coffee bar, a gym, or something. I assure you there are women who are lonely too.
Is there someone who needs to reflect on his life and prioritize those events which enhance his personal human condition? Yes, the answer is you.
Is there someone who needs to come to terms with the relative valuation of various types of sexual liaisons and rank their importance in the overall blueprint of his life? Yes, the answer is you.
Is there a viable alternative to time-consuming girlfriends or expensive prostitutes to quench your hyperactive libido? Yes, the answer is ewe.
I think you are very confused about bad men, and bad attitudes. There is not just one sort of bad man. And different sorts can have opposite effects on women.
The kind of bad boys who get laid tend to be confident and self-assured. They don’t care that much about women, and women seem to go bananas trying to make them care about just her. It is, after all the plot of every romance novel ever, love for woman tames dangerous man.
Thats not the kind of attitude the “it is exaggerated to serve an agenda” and “Men like me are running out of options” projects. That is totally the wrong type of “bad man”. That is the sort of attitude you get from social rejects. Seriously creepy and dangerous in the wrong way. You’re going to need to jettison those settings completely if you want any sort of success.
Coffee bar? What about a real bar? There are bars where a large percentage of the clientele are open to the idea of meeting someone. I’m in a relationship currently, but at “my bar” I’m regularly approached by women who have questions about beer or just want to chat.
I had a somewhat in-law relative who was a prostitute for a few years, to support a habit. She was supposedly one of the best looking and highest rated ones on all the review and discussion sites. Eww.
I have never paid for it and never gave it any serious thought, but after learning just a little bit of her story that permanently turned me off the idea.
ETA:
I can somewhat relate to OP and to this general issue. I consider myself pretty fortunate that I’ve been “lucky” enough to get women without ever actually approaching them in public or generally interacting with them voluntarily.
This was advice aimed at teenage boys, but I suspect it’s relevant to slightly older you (the answer to the first question):
Does anyone think I express these views in public? I don’t. I’m aware enough to know that these views are deviant, taboo, and don’t conform to the approved “politically correct” way of thinking. So I keep my mouth shut.
Think whatever you want. Just don’t act out on those thoughts by killing hookers.
The views you hold are going to come out, whether you express them in so many words or not.
And it’s not just a matter of whether they’re “deviant” or “politically correct.” Worry about whether the views you hold are helpful or unhelpful, kind or unkind, realistic or unrealistic, toxic or beneficial.
Want women to be attracted to you? A big part of that is how they feel around you—good or bad—and that’s going to be influenced by your attitudes, whether you intentionally express those attitudes or not.