This is not another SD People Pages crush thread. (Well, I’m sure it will turn into one but it isn’t starting out that way!)
Anyway, I have a massive all-consuming crush on a Doper and I do not know this person at all! I have no idea what this person really looks like and I have no hopes of ever meeting this person. (BTW, sorry Whammo–I’m not talking about you–I know what you look like ;))
How is this possible? I know that I felt like Wally was a friend because I saw so much of his personality in his posts but a crush is somehow different. I don’t know why I think it’s different but I do.
I think about this person much of the time but not in a stalker kind of way–more like an “I wonder what __________ would think about this.” kind of way. I wonder what this person is really like. I have this image of what this person looks like. I have had dreams–some sexual, some not–about this person. It is very strange. I have only been posting to on-line posting groups for a little over a year and I have never had this happen.
Those of you who have been posting longer–do these things go away? I don’t really have any intention of meeting this person–although I wouldn’t be opposed to it. I just enjoy reading the posts by and thinking about this person. Is this just a passing infatuation thing or am I just a complete weirdo?
I have had crushes on online people before. They sure do go away. I dunno if I’ve dreamed of them to that degree, but I do imagine scenarios, or wonder what they’d think of things.
And then you reach a point where you know there’s no possible future in it, and it fades away as other things take precedence.
Evilbeth, that’s why they’re called crushes. You could also have a crush on Derek Jeter or one of the Hanson brothers. The dictionary defines a crush as a form of infatuation… and that you can easily do towards someone you know very little about.
Just make sure not to obsess, or to end up chasing the person away!!
Funny, my crushes always go the other way. I get them on girls I’ve seen but know nothing about, while you get them on people you’ve never seen but know only intellectually. FWIW, usually they go away once I get to know her :D. Maybe you should ask for a picture to be posted.
I don’t think this person wants to post a picture. I don’t think it is because the person is embarassed/ashamed/shy or anything I just get the feeling that it is not important. However, I do not think that seeing what my crush looks like will make the slightest bit of difference.
And GuanoLad, you’re correct. I do not specify for a reason! It isn’t because I don’t want anyone to know who it is (I don’t care)–it just really doesn’t matter.
Sure, it’s possible to have a crush on someone you don’t know, though I’m guessing it’s unusual to have a crush on some you don’t know, and have also not really communicated with. (This assumes you havn’t been communicating with him or her, but the OP would seem to imply this)
Certainly there are some people who I have crushes on from the message board, though I know what most of them look like. There’s at least one exception [sub]Scotti[/sub].
OK, and now that I’ve answered the OP, let’s get on with the fun part:
How many guys and gals out there who haven’t submitted a picture are SURE it’s them??
How many are absolutely positive it ISN’T them?
Maybe we should start a thread or ten about this: “Post here if you think your Evilbeth’s secret crush”, “Post here if you don’t”, “A poll–who do you think Evilbeth’s secret crush is?”
We don’t have much to go on–we don’t know the gender of said poster, and there are a lot of people who haven’t submitted a picture. You could do a search for Evilbeth’s posts, but she hasn’t indicated that she has necessarily interacted with this person. We don’t know what specifically about this person’s posts it is that Evilbeth likes, or how many posts this person has made (though I think it’s safe to assume that this person isn’t a newbie with only 20 posts). We don’t even know how long this person has been registered.
The temptation is there to start an “Outing Evilbeth’s crush” thread…
(God, I’m juvenile. One reason I don’t have to worry about it being me.)
Words are a wonderful thing aren’t they? Of course you can have a crush on someone from the board. I do, its through their words. I think he’s witty and intelligent but who knows, maybe he can write but can’t really speak a complete sentence.
The person either looks or talks [your case] like someone that raised you as a child. Therefore you find a quick attachment to them very easy because you are so used to the way they talk.
Uh… Esprix doesn’t look like either of my parents (thank god), nor do I know what his childhood was like. All I know is that he’s a fine hunk o’ man meat and I want him anesthetized and Fed Exed to me pronto.
Quite easily. As a matter of fact, I also have a crush on someone here. (Better not be the same person! Hah!) And his picture isn’t posted either. It’s normal, hon. And yeah, it might go away. Or it might not…might develop into a good friendship. Had that happen to me a few times.
In other words, no, you’re not a weirdo. Well, not for this, anyway.
