My wife of 6 years and I are separated (have been living in separate cities for over a year) and a couple months ago decided that we should officially end it. Since then, we haven’t really moved forward with making it official - she’s done more than me, meaning at least some research into how and what to do, while I’ve pretty much just let it lie.
Well, now she wants to make it official. And I’m not sure what to do from here.
Of course, I’ll do some research on the 'net and talk to friends who have been through it, but also thought I’d consult the vast resources here.
A few things:
[li]We’re pretty amicable, still talk on the phone once per week or so[/li][li]We have no children, just two cats[/li][li]We own one house. I live in it currently, and situation probably won’t change due to job situations[/li][li]With a few exceptions, our money has always been lumped together. There were periods of time where she contributed more to our life than I, and vice versa.[/li][li]We each own our own car[/li][li]I seriously doubt alimony will be an issue, but know nothing of it. She has a full-time job and is going to school for her masters. I have a full time job (pays about twice what hers does).[/li][li]I live in Connecticut, she in Massachusetts.[/li][/ol]
My questions are things like do we need lawyers (I think we’d prefer not, save the money)? Would a lawyer be recommended regardless? If we both want to do this amicably, and neither of us (at this point) worry about the money too much, how likely will it be that it ends amicably?
Anyway, any suggestions, thoughts, resources or whatever would be much appreciated. It’s a somewhat sad situation, but at the same time we both realize it’s what’s for the best (it’s a simple matter of two people growing apart, not anything to do with affairs outside the marriage or anything).
Thanks in advance.