Okay, some of you may recall my thread asking how to tell my roomie that I like him as more than a friend. Well there is a new thing to add to the mix… no I have yet to tell him straight out. I still can’t seem to do it, even last night when I suppose might have been a good time to. But let me explain about last night first.
Okay last night we were hanging around the apartment as usual. Hell we both work/go to school on weekdays so we save the partying for the weekend. Plus not a whole lot of moola to party lots. But basically last night Liam headed off to bed and I was still awake, now I usually stay up till about 2 am as I don’t have to be anywhere before 11 so I can still get lots of sleep. So I’m sitting online doing my usual scan of MB’s, Literotica and messengers except nothing is happening so I was considering just watching TV.
Now as I was reading stuff, I hear Liam come out of his room and wander around the kitchen. Kinda glancing over my shoulder at him I realize… he’s nude. Totally and utterly buck naked. Now he knows I’m still awake, I mean how can you miss the sound of the TV on and my clicking away at the keyboard? So I just kinda sit there and continue my reading, being polite and not trying to stare (It’s hard though. I mean I’m attracted to the guy and he’s running around in all his glory mere feet away from me.) He kinda comes up next to me and crouches beside my seat at the comp and reads over my shoulder. So I look back at him and just kinda grin a little. I don’t say anything, it doesn’t bother me that he’s nude (if it was our other roomie then there would be a problem) and we just kinda chat for a minute before he wanders off again.
Okay. I’m taking a deep breath trying not to go totally wild and just jump him. I turn off all the screens I have going and go lay down on the couch and flip through the channels on the tv. He comes back out of his bedroom (still nude) and crouches by the couch just kinda looking at me. Asks me how I’m doing etc and eventually I get up the nerve to ask him why he’s nude. He says it’s simply cuz he wants to be. Okay. 'nother deep breath. He’s crouch less than a foot away from me, I just kinda look at him and smile a little. He then wanders back off to his room and goes to sleep.
I am left on the couch all horny, thinking I shoulda said something… done something… even if it was just sit up and kiss the damn fella. But I didn’t. I shoulda, but I didn’t. (One reason that I didn’t is because well… nothing really woulda happened last night if I did kiss him because of feminine things.)
So can someone please give me a clue why he did this? I mean he wasn’t just walking around but he gave me this kind of intense questioning look like “Do you like what you see?” or something along those lines. One thing it looked to me was like he just wanted to show off how good he looked and how ahem well hung he was. But is this actually a clue he might like me that way too? Someone give me some insight please!
There’s something not quite normal about his behavior. That’s likely to be bad rather than good. If he wants you as a gf, why all the (non) cloak and dagger stuff?
What he did was weird, and in my opinion, way outside the lines of normal male behavior. He’s probably not a physically dangerous threat, but he’s playing some type of head game with you.
If he really wanted you very much, he’d drop the charades, sit down with you (both wearing clothes) and have a serious talk. You probably don’t like hearing my message, but you asked for opinions.
Maybe you should try walking around naked the next time and see what happens.
If I was in that situation, I would’ve asked “Are you trying to tell me something?” and put him on the spot, but then again, I’m known for being rather blunt sometimes.
You could always ask to see him naked again sometime.
Well I just found out why… neither reason you guys suggested… he was high sighs No it’s not something he does usually. That’s why I was so confused about it. So you guys know, I am a fairly big woman… in fact taller than he is and weigh about the same. I can handle myself around him, and have shown I can handle myself around men. (Yes there are men who are bigger and stronger but I find they usually don’t start with me because I can put up at least a decent fight)
He is also a really good friend (we’ve known each other for awhile) and he has never, ever done anything to harm me. I’m quite comfortable around him. We’ve done lots of drinking and stuff together and he has never shown any inclination to do anything, he’s had ample opportunity to do anything to me he wanted and has never done so. So I’m fairly sure I’m safe with him.
He doesn’t do this type of thing, the first time I’ve seem him do this and I doubt he will do it again. shrugs I’m always careful though.
I was wondering – I was going to suggest that he was sleepwalking.
Although, this does provide a good entry comment for you – something along the lines of: “Hey, I liked what I saw last night.” or “Anytime you feel like doing that again, feel free.” etc. Said jokingly enough, of course, that you’re not risking too much.
Oh, jeez, what are you TALKING about? “He was high” as if that removes the obvious fact that he wanted to you jump in bed with him. He’s walkign around NAKED insisting on conversing with you. He has now noted the fact that he was high for you because you DIDN’T jump in bed with him so he’s trying to cover his ass in case you DON’T want him with a disingenuous claim of irrationality, that neither of you ACTUALLY believe. He might not want to “date” but he certainly wants the freindly convenient hump thing. Accept this fact. Next time he does this ask him “wanna screw”? If he says ‘no’ (unlikely) then act like it was a joke-- he can’t really hold the joke against you AS HE’S RUNNING AROUND THE HOUSE NAKED and DESERVES a joking slutty proposition.
If a woman did that to me & I didn’t try anything with her, she’d never give me another chance. You should do something about it already. Just ask him if he wants to get naked together. If you two are already such good friends, he probably knows that you won’t get weird on him afterwards.
Some of these responses further confirm my belief that the SDMB is full of some sexually repressed people.
Whats wrong with weird sexual behaviour?
Its the best kind!
I think he likes you. Personally I don’t have a problem walking around naked, but I wouldn’t be doing it when someone I wasn’t intersted in was around. When I left my wife I wouldn’t let her come near me when I was in the bathroom etc. Maybe you should try walking around the house naked.
Hmmmm…frankly, I think the guy was acting like a jerk, high or not. Don’t you want a guy with some style and class? This weirdo sounds like an immature little boy. I know you can do better.
My wife and I were great pals, we got together when a little weed caused me to lose my inhabitions and do some through the clothing petting. She blew me off that night. A couple weeks later, we both got high. 2 people with lowered inhabitions can be a beautiful thing.
Ask to get high with him next time (if you do that sort of thing, don’t become a pot smoker if you’re not inclined) then once high, announce that you’d like to check out this high/naked phenomena that he seemed to enjoy.
I’ve been high hundreds of times, and never once did I get naked in front of a girl I wasn’t interested in. I’ve heard the term beer goggles, but I’ve never heard the term pot goggles
Heh… I actually was kinda high myself. We both smoke pot. I was at the point where I wasn’t really reacting… just watching what was happening around me. That’s part of the reason why I didn’t know how to react too.
Spooky, He’s not a jerk actually. He’s a pretty decent guy. snorts In fact he’s waaaaay better than my past bf’s. He treats me better than they did and nothing has ever really happened between us.
