Thank you
I will definitely keep you in mind when I need to vent. I feel all kinds of things right now. Mostly sad and angry. It’s just so unfair.
Sad and angry is ok. Life is unfair.
Pretty much sad and angry is part of the healing process. I am not angry, a touch sad but I have pretty much hit the end of the mourning trail [i cant remember the classic ones, I need to watch All that Jazz again] and skipped much of it but I am at one end of the spectrum. When one of my uncles died, my aunt needed to be tranked out of her mind on valium to be even mildly functional for months afterwards. She is the other end of the spectrum.
Every time I turn around, we find news clippings, and award plaques and stuff about how nice my dad was, so it is nice to see how much everybody in the community liked him and was [positively] affected by him =)
Like I said, every time you get a bit down, think of something positive from your memories. It really helps=)
I’m sorry for your loss.
We had a nice time at my FIL’s wake, all things considered. People stood up and shared stories, there was laughter, tears, the celebration of his life. I’m not saying it wasn’t emotionally draining, but seeing my nephew stand up to say “Papa died,” a neighbor share stories about my FIL’s garage sale finds, and my son share a story of how Grandpa let him toot on this huge horn (think a herald horn announcing the king and queen have arrived) just made it easier to say goodbye.
I think the best thing any of us can say about our life is that we will be missed when we die.