i just dont understand how she would understand how u were feeling. i mean she would freak out because u have been recognizing her as more than a friend. i just dont know how i could let her know and not make her uncomfortable.
somebody please tell me!
Just take my advice, based solely on your post here: Don’t try putting it in writing.
Umm, maybe start with the lesbian part first.
No need to scare her off by telling her you having a crush on her.
Try humor, that always works. 
Come on, that was cheap.
Very. Bad form, jsgoddess.
Have you ever talked to her about other girls? Have you seen girls kissing in a movie (or after too many Jager-bombs) and see a reaction from her? A disgusted look or a “Yuck!” would probably mean that she’d not be interested.
Hmmm. Waht to do…
Crack lesbian jokes and see if she laughs. Then tell her she’s got a beautiful smile.
Here are some to start you out
Q: What do you call two lesbians in a canoe?
A: Fur-traders.
Q: Two lesbians are walking down the street with their hands in each other’s pockets. What were they doing?
A: Lip reading.
Q: What do my girlfriend and Jack Daniels have in common?
A: They are both hard liqours.
Q: What do you call a lesbian with 10 girlfriends?
A: A bush-hog!
Q: What does an 80 year old lesbian taste like?
A: Depends
Q: Why do gay men like to have lesbian friends?
A: Someone has to mow the yard.
Q: How do you know if you have lesbians living next door?
A: Frequent U Hauls in front of the house.
Q: What does it mean when 2 lesbians have sex?
A: It don’t mean dick!
Q: What is the difference between a Wheat Thin and a lesbian?
A: One is a snack cracker and the other is a crack snacker.
Ok, I don’t get this one.
This thread is better suited for In My Humble Opinion. I’ll move it for you.
Knock off the cheap shots, jsgoddess.
Cajun Man
for the SDMB
Why do you feel that you need to tell her that you have a crush on her?
Dear xtremefreak612,
Welcome to the SDMB.
In answer to your question, I would recommend first telling her that you are a lesbian. Her response will help you figure out how to proceed, or whether to proceed at all.
And while jsgoddess’s comment may have been less than polite, she was making a valid point. I’m not sure how familiar you are with these boards, but we do generally use standard grammar, spelling, capitalization, and punctuation. I found your post nearly impossible to comprehend. I suspect that you’ll find a better reception here if you express yourself coherently.
I thought the UHaul punchline was:
Q. What does a lesbian bring on the second date?
A. A UHaul trailer.
Wow that sounds pretty hot.
Sorry I can’t help 
Wow I thought I was rather mature and worldly but I sure don’t get either U-Haul joke.
And let’s not let our curiosity to figure out that joke make us forget about the original posting by xtremefreak612.
Why does it matter if you’re a lesbian? In my experience, guys that found out I liked them had no more problem with it than girls that know I like them. Except in the case of homophobes and bigots, I don’t think most people will really care… especially if you are their friend.
And if they do, they aren’t a very good friend anyway.
I just checked a website or two—
Still not funny, but at least it’s not confusing.
Ah, thank you.
And the gay male counterpart is
Q: What does a gay man bring on a second date?
A: What’s a second date?
As to the OP, do you have any reason to believe that your friend is a lesbian? If not, then there is absolutely no point in telling her that you have a crush on her. Crushes fade over time. Friendships are much harder to cultivate.
Here’s a question - are you already a lesbian, having been with other women and had girlfriends in the past, or have you just now assumed/decided that you’re a lesbian because you have a crush on your friend?
If it’s the latter, it’s completely normal, and doesn’t “make” you a lesbian. If anything, it’ll help - tell her you’re not a lesbian, but you still have a crush/feelings for her. See where it goes from there.
I didn’t get the first one either, and I STILL don’t get this one.