OK, so I really need advice. I work with this charming fellow that will call “Paul.” New Years Eve, a bunch of us went out, got zonked, and I wasn’t about to drive home. Crashed at my friend’s house, and Paul, who also crashed at said friend’s house, and I ended up…well, it didn’t go “too far,” but it went.
And I did the dumb thing and didn’t address it the next morning, because we were at someone else’s house and she was with us all morning. We also didn’t talk about it the next day, which was really silly.
Recent events of late have reminded me how important it is to carpe diem. This fellow makes me laugh, is kind, smart and funny, and gives me butterflies in my stomach. I have resolved to ask said gentleman out for drinks after work, possibly tonight if I can build up my courage. However, I just don’t know how to address New Years. “Remember when we had that drunken grope fest? How much emotional value did you attach to it?” Somehow that just doesn’t work.
I’m scared he’ll say that there wasn’t any emotional value attached, and then I’ll have to work with him, knowing he knows that I think he’s dreamy. Oy. Nothing pisses me off more then condesention.
Advise me, my wise Dopers. Or just tell me I have nothing to worry about. Either or.