My ex-gf will NOT get the hint. She has a new boyfriend, yet she still calls me and tells me she that she’s still in love with me. Sometimes I tell her not to call. Sometimes I don’t answer the phone. But none of this works. She keeps calling.
I thought about trying the “nice guy” routine and be super-nice to her and call her all the time and all that stuff, because everyone knows a girl doesn’t like the “nice guy”. The problem is, she has a boyfriend, and I don’t feel like fighting over her ass.
So HOW, might I ask, can I get her to stop liking me without coming off as a total jerk?
Try ignoring her no matter what. I also think Muldoon has part of the answer. Asking her friends about what she really doesn’t like, and doing that, may work. If you’re close to some of them you may try getting them to talk to her about it. If that doesn’t work, telling her straight out how you feel is always a good answer.
If she’s not willing to listen to reason hiding out in a celler or old bomb shelter for a year or so could get her to move on
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Stop dropping hints. Tell her straight out that you’re not interested, that she has absolutely no attraction for you anymore and that you’d like her to stop calling you.
This has actually happened to me before. After a solid month of trying to be “a nice guy”, I finally had a face to face with her. Conversation as follows:
Dante: Do you understand that we are broken up? Relentless Ex: Yes but… D: No no no. Do you understand the situation, yes or no? RE: Yes, but… D: (raising voice slightly) You don’t understand, do you? We are broken up. We are no longer going out. This is fact. When I tell my friends about the psycho who won’t leave me alone, I refer to you as my “ex-girlfriend”, not my “girlfriend”. Do you understand? RE: Look, I just thought that maybe we could give it another shot. D: I don’t want to. I don’t like you. I did like you, and although I don’t think we were compatible as boyfriend/girlfriend I thought it might be nice to be able to be civil to one another since we share mutual friends. But for the past month you have made me so uncomfortable that I no longer wish to be in the same university, never mind the same room, as you. Have I made my feelings quite clear? RE: Fine exeunt ex
I immediately went home and was physically ill. I felt so awful for having been such a bastard, but the point absolutely needed to be made. You may have to do the same. Try and think of it this way: If you were a woman, and a man was doing this, people would be telling you to press charges and arm yourself.
Which may not be a bad idea. I’ve never met your ex…
Yeah, be brutally honest with her - it’s not “being a jerk” to tell her you have no feelings for her, never will, and that you insist she stop pestering you.
If she can’t take a hint, tell her your new girlfriend is the violent, jealous type, and you can’t answer of her actions if Miss Ex-GF doesn’t bugger off. I was sort of joking about that part, but if you think it’ll work, go for it.
I was talking to a friend of mine just yesterday, she’d gotten dumped on Christmas Eve by a guy she was totally in love with. He told her that he was seeing somebody else, his ex-GF, and wanted to try to work things out with her. She was so devastated that she doesn’t want anything to do with him anymore.
