I can tell you that probably not the best way to approach loneliness is by telling yourself over and over again that people who don’t have friends are worthless.
That never works for me.
I can tell you that probably not the best way to approach loneliness is by telling yourself over and over again that people who don’t have friends are worthless.
That never works for me.
I’ve been feeling lonely more and more lately. A big part of that is the fact that I’m unemployed and have been for almost a year. The war and terrorism alerts haven’t helped either.
Sometimes I find something interesting to read. Sometimes I play computer games. Often, at bedtime, I just hope I won’t have to wake up.
Me, too. I hate to go to bed at night, because this day will end, and then I’ll be one day closer to the end. And then the next day, I won’t want to get up, for the same reason.
I don’t do much for my loneliness, except hang out here too much. I work nights alone, live alone, etc. It sucks, but one of these days I hope to meet somebody. Not likely to happen, though, given the current state of affairs.
::runs around frantically trying to hug everyone in the thread all at once::
I’m your friend! I’m your friend! I love you!
originally posted by Payne N. Diaz
For me, it’s more like: When I’m asleep I’m safe, content, free of worries. Once I awake, I’ll have to deal with yet another day with nobody calling me; I’m brought face to face with what a loser I really am.
I don’t handle it too well. The problem with me is that when I get lonely, I get REALLY lonely, and there isn’t much most people can do to help me. So I usually end up sending everyone away until I feel better.
I withdraw more and more each day. Eventually, the need to see other people lessens, emotions become deader and duller, and often I can and do go for months or years without ever feeling the touch of another human being.
I don’t recommend that solution.
I suppose I would recommend connecting with others or something, but I don’t really know what to do either.
I check out my buddylist if it’s late at night. Or I just sleep, because I’m usually OK in the mornings; just the nights suck sometimes.
Wow, so many lonely people. That’s so sad. Hugs to all of you who need one!
May I second, (or third) getting a pet? It does help. Also, forcing yourself to just go out to the local pub or coffeeshop is also a good suggestion.
nice thread … I’ve really had to deal with this question a lot in the last 6 months since i’m basically alone in rural China with very few colleagues and no close friends. I haven’t completely conquered it … but here are some tips that I use:
1 - lots of exercise so I’m tired and sleep easily at night
2 - write my thoughts down, both to myself, and in long letters to close friends and my folks, who I haven’t written to in years.
3 - make things for loved ones (i.e. I started knitting so I could make a scarf for my nephew — cheesy, I know)
4 - meditate … this is probably the best because you start to realize how being lonely is often just discomfort with not having distractions from yourself so when you feel more peaceful with just “being” the loneliness dissolves.
Good luck to you … and everyone who is lonely, especially during this terrible troubled time.
Not into bestiality or third degree burns, but thanks for the thought.
We can’t have pets where I live. But I taped some drinking straws onto an empty soda bottle. They look sort of like ears. I drew a face, but I guess the marker isn’t the right kind, because it kept smearing. The eyes were all crooked anyway, though, because I couldn’t hold the bottle still.
I really like this thread. It reminds me of a picture I drew once: Lonely.gif. Don’t be dissing my mad MSPaint skillz now.
evil voice
your minions are lonely because they have nothing to do. give them some distractions.
I clicked on the links in your sig out of idle curiousity. Having seen your photos, if you’re lonely, either it’s by your own choice or the guys in your area are unaware of your existence. BTW, you look great as a redhead.
So…how YOU doin’?
I handle it by forcing friends to get off their asses and go out…
As some of you have said, night time is the worst. It’s not so much a bad feeling as it is an empty one. I live on 3-4 hours of sleep a night because I can’t fall asleep unless I’m close to passing out. That sucks, but I’ve been like that since I was knee-high to my father (hours of sleep I get, that is).
Thankfully, I recently met a young woman and have this hair-brained idea of asking her out (and I WILL do this tonight!). We’ll see how it goes from there.
djxiii, your poetry is very nice. And I’m not much for poetry. Thanks.
Holy Shit that’s sad!
An advisor I ain’t, but…Can’t you get in a common interest club, go to some ballgames, do something?
I’m there, lel, I’m there.
My life’s exactly like this.
I swear, ?tis better to be lowly born,
And range with humble livers in content,
Than to be perked up in a glistering grief,
and wear a golden sorrow.
Anne, HENRY VIII, II, iii
Of course, chasing a dozen cats off the bed does become part of foreplay when you’re not alone. Then you step out of the shower and there they all are, writhing around on the spot, mouths hanging open in a Flehmen response, soaking up the glamour.
I think it natural, at some point, to pull away from the herd and seek to know yourself in a “fortress of solitude.” It is easy to feel that you belong in a world long vanished; Royalty exiled in a mundane world.
Wow, thank you. It seems to be the right kind of poetry for people who aren’t really into poetry. I like that. Feel free to visit anytime.