And by like, I don’t mean that they would want to date you because that’s ridiculous (though some strippers do date their customers), but that they genuinely think you’re cute and at least better than most of the guys they deal with on a regular basis? Obviously it’s all about gaming men for money, but if they make out with you and you chat and she spends lots of extra time with you, do you think that’s a sign they genuinely enjoyed your company?
I’ve had a few lapdances in my time and only one of them let me make out with her, at my brother’s bachelor party. We were both flirting with each other for probably 20-30 minutes, even after the dance sitting around. The others were alright too, but seemed more businesslike. I doubt I’d date a stripper and I almost never go to the club but knowing the girl was also having a good time would definitely be an ego boost.
I’ve never been to a bachelor party where a stripper had been hired, but I suspect that is the ONLY situation where one would “make out” with you (at least in the states where I’ve visited strip clubs).
“No physical contact” tends to be a pretty common rule in clubs, AIUI.
Well, let’s see. You paid her to pretend to like you, in a setting where it’s likely that some people would be willing to pay a lot more for her to pretend to like you a lot, if you catch my drift…
I’m sure my friend Steve was well liked by strippers.
He tipped in twenties.
I think (and having had acquaintances who strip and have had this conversation with them), they really can’t tell one mark from the next. And hanging out to talk is a nice break from shaking your breasts in some guys face. She doesn’t like you, she needs to work the floor, sees you as someone who might tip if she chats (your a “nice guy” right), and needs a break.
Strippers like you if they keep coming back and taking your money. The more money you give them the more they like you. If the money stops they won’t like you anymore. It’s a very simple system.
When I was in my early 20s, I met my then GF at a strip club (She was a stripper, I was a customer) I’ll spare you all the boring courtship details but I will tell you that I did not buy not even one lap dance from her. Nor did I buy her drinks or anything of the sort.
Usually when I went to the club, it would be slow and no customers to speak of. So she would just sit with me and hang out. We eventually exchanged phone numbers and from there we became BF & GF.
Looking back on it, I can tell you with out a doubt, had I bought a lap dance from her she would have never given me her phone number. I’m pretty sure she even told me that, but it’s been so long ago, the memories are kind of vague.
Said to me one of my elders: “You go to a strip club to see a hot girl who would not give you the time of day out in the street, get naked, sit on your lap, and pretend to dig you, for tips.”
She may really like you if she refuses her tip (of course that may also mean that she wants to go away owing you nothing…). As Dangerosa mentions, they “like” guys they can just sit and chat with as a break.
kaylasdad99, I’ve *heard *told – by friends of friends, you know – that in South Florida clubs you do not have to sit on your hands…
That bartender you’re sweet on is always smiling at you too! Probably flirting!
And that waitress you always tease and she smiles, loves that attention. Probably flirting!
Does she smile when you speak to her? Is she attentive to your needs? Engaging? Fun to be around? Laugh at your lame jokes? Tease you back? Looks to be having a real fun time?
Sorry to break it to you but those are customer service skills and that’s kind of her job. A job she’s very good at. If you’re an adult male over 20, and you’re confused that maybe she ‘likes’ YOU in a different way than all the other bar, restaurant, strip club customers then you need to check yourself.
There are no words to describe how commonplace, unoriginal and just plain sad it is for your patrons to seriously convince themselves that you’re actually sweet on them. Because you smile while you serve them. When your job description is literally smile and be sweet while you serve!
“But I can feel it’s different with me!” is all about make ego. No one knows it more than her.
Back when I was a much younger Dr I dated an exotic dancer for a couple of months. I worked as a bartender and she would come to our bar when she was off duty. I never did go to see her perform.
I suppose she liked me because I was very sympathetic when we were talking about idiot customers.
Also, they may be avoiding someone else - which I suppose means they like you relative to that guy who always seems to manage to somehow touch her breasts, who has halitosis and who likes to describe his violent rape fantasies during a lap dance.
(The scale on strip club patrons apparently has a really low bottom).
The only time I think I’ve had a stripper think I was anything other than a walking wallet was at my own bachelor party.
Somewhere in the midst of the lap dances, one of the girls asks where my wife and I were going on our honeymoon. I mentioned that we were going to Prague, Budapest and London.
She says “Prague? Let me go get <girl’s name>. She’s from Prague.”
So the Czech stripper comes by, and does her thing, and starts asking me if I knew where I should go, and what I should eat, and I kept answering what I knew. Then she hops up and says “I’ll be right back!” And she goes off to the dressing room, it turns out, and comes back with a postcard showing the main sights of Prague, and starts explaining them to me in detail while sitting on my lap. My friends are part amused, part amazed, and part annoyed that the stripper has decided to stop the sexy time, and sit on my lap telling me about places on a postcard, and telling me I really need to eat knedliky and pork knuckle when I’m there.
She actually gave me the postcard at the end of the night- my wife(fiance’ at the time) was a little surprised that I showed up later with a perfume-scented postcard and a bunch of information on stuff to do, see and eat in Prague.
