I’m sure everyone knows the situation where someone offends you, and you tell them so, and they say “you have no sense of humor” or “I am only joking” but then they keep saying the unfunny insults over and over.
I used to have a book that gave a response to handle that line but now I need it and I can’t find it. I tried to google for it because I think it’s a common technique that would be in any book about assertiveness or conflict management.
Does anyone know the response that I’m thinking of? I think it might be to just say “well you may be right about that,” and then leave it at that, but I tried that and it sure didn’t work.
I would also love suggestions on how to handle that situation. It’s a work situation and he has a position of authority over me. I have to handle it on my own, I don’t want to go over his head or anything else. I know he is picking on me because he sucks and the handwriting is on the wall for him, so I am trying to be patient and comport myself with as much patience and dignity as I can til he gets fired. Punching him in the face isn’t an option.
He basically needles me all the time, and when I tell him I don’t like it and I’d prefer to not chat, he comes back the same every time, “I was JOKING! GOD!” We used to be friends but now I can’t stand him. How do I get through a few more months of this constant crap?