What do you do to spice up your sex life? We’ve been married for a few years and it’s high time one of us takes the bull by the horns and adds a bit of spice into our sex life.
What do you do to inject some excitement into your sex life?
A 2nd person would be nice 
Hi BTW.
watch some porn?
get some toys?
both use blindfolds and you have to feeeel your way?
tease each other through the day… to build up the urge?
dress up… lingere or costumes?
get some sex games from a sex shop?
read erotic books together?
i dunno…
best wishes
I use my left hand.
Cheap masturbation jokes aside, how about role-playing? One of my friends has shared with me too many times how great Star Trek sex is or how fulfilling it is to mock Catholic education institutions.
I mock Catholic education plenty already, Siegfried! I cannot imagine what Star Trek sex would entail.
yojimbo, right. If I do that, then he’ll die a happy man and then where will I be? No, seriously, I’m just too squeamish and a bit on the jealous side. See, we’d have to look at each other for the rest of our lives after that.
Hi back atchya.
Good suggestions, mith, however, Ireland is not known for it’s easily-accessible sex shops. 
There isn’t any porn (that I know of) either. Or porn magazines.
I’m sure one of the DubDopers will be along shortly to give me detailed directions to the underground hovel where one can buy such items.
There are sex shops in Dublin alright. Don’t know how well equipped they are as I was never in one but I was told by a guy that worked in one in Rathmines (On the small street with Slattery’s on the corner) that he had to be very careful with who was in the shop as a hardcore catholic group was constantly coiming in and spraying the mags with lighter fluid and lighting them :eek:
Star Trek sex is one of those things I know of now that I’m glad I know exist but wish I didn’t know so much about it (for instance, the rather large number of Wesley Crusher slash fiction out that depicts the poor lad servicing just about damn near everyone). It’s basically just acting out your horny instincts in the Trek universe. Play the female Cardassian overlord and her human sex slave. Play stranded in the shuttlecraft with rescue several days away.
You could probably do the same thing for Star Wars if you prefer it over Trek, but the idea of playing Chewbocca boinking the Ewoks doesn’t exactly apeal to me (but, hey, if that’s your thing then terrific).
Read the “Great American Sex Diet” by Laura Corn… lots of good ideas 
Sex toys. Just do it. Lots of fun and its a dirty-little-secret that the two of you can share…“Hey, want to play with PURPLE BOY tonight honey?”
Sexual massage. Do a fullbody massage starting with the back, then turn 'em over and do the front, and then do the front, and then do the front some more. Actually, learning how to give your partner a good handjob is worth it. It is fun, feels GREAT in a different way than normal sex, is easy and adds something to your list of options. He’s horny but you are tired? Trade a back-rub for a handjob. The key is a good lubricant, and you can make it yourself. I found a recipe from a book that we have called ESO (which is also a good book that goes into training your kegel muscles thus allowing you to ride the crest of orgasm for a long time, as in minutes or more):
“The book in question is by Alan and Donna Brauer, “ESO” standing for Extended Sexual Orgasm. C. 1983 by Warner Books.
The lubricant in question is in fact a substitute for Albolene. The recipe is found on pages 26-27, and is as follows;
20 T mineral oil
4 T melted paraffin wax (as for fruit canning)
2 T melted petrolatum (petroleum jelly)
Basically the last two ingredients are melted in a double boiler (for safety) and accurate measuring. The mineral oil is added to the warm ingredients and oil based (not alcohol based) flavorings can be added The mixture is then poured into a jar, cooled and sealed.
It is very similar to Albolene, and the option of adding flavor is a plus.”
Albolene is a make-up remover sold in the US.
Have fun!
-Tcat
I’m sorry, I forgot to say that the above recipe creates a lubricant that feels like natural vaginal lubrication, but in large amounts that don’t dry out. It is not safe to use with condoms.
-Tcat
Ana, remember that painting from the Musee d’Orsay? You know the one I’m talking about, right. Just dress like that. By the lake, though, not at home.
Or you could take your hubby on the steps of the local church. That would be exciting.
Wow, that’s more cooking than I do in a month, Tomcat! Thanks for the advice!
Shibb, if I do that, then I’ll surely be kicked out of the country! I’ll do that if he buffs up to the shape of that very large form of a man we saw. Rawr.
IMO in order to add some spice to your sex life you have to things that you haven’t done in the past. Something new in other words. Now that might include sex toys, clothing, new situations or locations.
Laura Corn has some interesting books out. You can check them out on Amazon. My girlfriend and I bought 101 Grrreat Quickies, the idea is that you select a ‘coupon’ and surprise your partner with it. The partner then must drop what they’re doing and do YOU instead, following the directions in the coupon. Neat idea.
Spontaneity. Random quickies (and not-so-quickies) every once in a while.
Oh, wait. You have a young child.
Nevermind;)
Cumin.
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First you need to list all the things you have ever done so we know what new areas you have left to explore.
So,is there something you wish he would do that he does not do? Something you haven’t told him about? Or maybe something you want to do to him?
Figure out what that is and then ask him to do it or allow you to do it to him.
Hrm…considers opening up her intimate life to everyone who reads this board and knows her IRL…
Probably not.
There’s loads left to explore, when you put it that way, but not much I’m interested in exploring, I don’t think.
I shall ask him if he has any hidden desires. Should be interesting.
OHHHH How about you both making a Top Ten Sexual Fantasy list and then giving them to each other? There can be things you have done on the list as well as things you have not done or even things that can’t be done. (Have sex on a football field during a match with 50,00 people watching) Put anything on the list, no holds barred. Then share.