I think either way you’ll find out if he’s into you or not. If you leave it up to him and he doesn’t answer then he’s not into you. If you contact him and he’s spooked that you look too desperate, then he’s not into you. I guess what I’m trying to say is that no matter what you do, the die on if he’s into you or not has already been mostly cast.
He might be dating a bunch of people concurrently. Don’t take it personally. The ball’s firmly in his court now. Go on another date, enjoy yourself. Don’t invest everything into the first good date you have.
Scribble, does he know that this was your first first date in a very long time? It’s shitty, but that may be factoring into it. Don’t take it personally, you each had a good time (or at least, he indicated he was having a good time during the date, and honestly, that’s all that counts), you’ll have plenty of opportunities down the road. I don’t think your text today was a bad idea, nor was it forcing it - there’s plenty of time for him to still respond, and if not, you move on. Good luck!
I don’t think he knew that this was my first good date in forever. I didn’t tell him that, at least. Maybe I unconsciously gave off a vibe that said as much. I don’t know.
I’ve seen guys do that all.the.time. It’s typically the number one cause for inaction. She’s got to be seeing someone, she’ll leave me for someone better, blah blah blah.
This. Happy you are getting out Scribble. Now, you have some recent experience. Keep it up, and keep us deformed, okay?
Is this what the kids are saying these days? :dubious:
Did he reply?
Because if not, you might be thinking “maybe he hasn’t seen my text yet” because most people only look at our phones every five minutes.
I’d move on. If he were into you, you’d already know.
My husband-to-be and I met at a party on a Saturday night. Had a great time together. He promised he’d call me. I was a bit surprised when Wednesday came and went and he still hadn’t phoned. He finally called me on Thursday. It seemed to work out okay, because we’ve been together for over 27 years now.
If he likes you, he’ll contact you. If he doesn’t he won’t.
Well, those people probably have self esteem problems they need to work on before they are ready to be a decent partner, anyway.
Agreed. Given the variety of people and situations in the world, a couple of days plus or minus doesn’t necessarily reveal anything.
Not everybody. I may check SDMB every five minutes, but I’ve been known to not notice a text message until the next day sometimes.
I agree. When both people are interested, they usually find a way to make it work.
I have an idea. Do you own, or have access to, a boombox and a trench coat?
I did the internet thing for a while and blew a couple because I was waiting for them to respond to me. I wasn’t sure how they felt and just didn’t want to push it. I would wait a few days then send a message.
Well, I am not a kid. But I did coin it. It is my only original thought in my entire life. I thought it would make a kewl username: KeepMeDeformed. It is a play on words. Gettit? I kinda like it.
If you ask for another date “Are you free Saturday afternoon?” and he has an excuse “I’d love to but I’m helping my friend move. Maybe another time.” and he leaves it at that then it’s time to move on.
If he’s into you and it’s a legitimate excuse he will counter with a solid alternative, i.e. “I’d love to but I’m helping a friend move. However, I’m open on Sunday.”
To the OP, let us know how it turned out…
I’m certain he’s seen my text by now, but I haven’t gotten a reply. It’s clear that he’s not into me. That sucks, but I’ll get over it.
Ah, that’s too bad. Well, you can rest easy, knowing that you didn’t lose him just because you didn’t make your interest clear. It’s no reflection on you; if the spark isn’t there, it just isn’t there.
On to bigger and better things! 